#MagicWithinme

my cousin's boss is like that, every guy she sees "wants her". I woulld say say it comes from the self doubt they have had all their lives and yes trying to catch up. i told hubby same thing, if I start acting like that, set me straight.

Speaking for myself, when I got the lapband I thought I knew what was going to happen, how I was going to feel, but right now being banded, 16 weeks, my minds is still unsure, its a clash, our fantasy meeting reality and there's areas that are not meshing. My hubby and I bless him, communicate very well, right now we don't seem to be in sync moodwise, but its ok. Marriage is not based soley on sex, its based on the love you have for the person you chose to call your partner for life. We make each other laugh, n smile, we can sit in silence and not feel we have to fill in the silence. and we're ok with that too. If I never had sex again, we would be fine, because my husband is my friend as well,anyways I agree , counseling, single and as a couple seems to be needed. Good luck!

our bodies are feeling defenseless food used to be our weapon and now we are open, and our minds will make us feel so different. I'm that way still after 15 weeks post band. Its a weekly thing, one week is good, one week is bad and all we can do is muddle through it. Don't sabatoge the work we have done, its so easy to fall back into those easy eating habits we don't even realize it. You are NOT ALONE.

Those charts aren't for everyone, foremost, I got the band to get healthier, I'm 5'1 and 235 when I would get a cortisone shot for allergies (makes you gain weight, that's my excuse) so I looked like a brown oompa lumpa. My health was horrible. I had no choice but listen to my body , I would tell myself tomorrow I'll exercise, tomorrow, I'll go for a walk but I never did. , Now I'm down to 170 and probably less, (we put scale away). Looking at the chart I should weigh 130+ but that is too small. I'm more concerned about being healthy and I've started that road. It was never about looking good, looking sexy. I have co-workers that tell me I should be wearing tighter clothes. Why I didn't before. I'm wearing smaller clothes. Healthy healthy, , wishing you good luck!

I have to slow down and stop eating at my desk!

welcome, you made the best choice, this is the best site you will ever find,to have any and I mean ANY question you may have answered before during and after. Everyone had the nerves the uncertainties, same reasons for having lapband done, thats why there is SO MUCH support here. I wish you well!

very true, what's one fat free pudding why not two? I can't eat a cinnabun but I can have a cinnashake. (mall food place that sells huge cinnamin buns fresh made) hamburger, I only ate the bottom piece of bread, I did cut it in half but ate the other half at home. yes eating out of bordom. It's easy enough to tell hubby that when he's opening cupboards looking for that late night snack , but I have to remember as well. It's so easy to slip right back into the easier habits of eating. I have to learn to put the fork down inside of shovel food in like someone is gonna take it from me, I eat the right amount, just not the right speed. I talked to another bandster I know and we were talking, and she said after awhile "it's not even about looking good right now" and its true, for me and her, we are so busy trying to stay on the bandster wagon, we don't realize we are the ones driving sometimes. good luck to all of us. I gots to get back in the drivers' seat!

I was taking estroven before surgery and it seemed to help like a dummy I threw them away because I didn't have them any more until starting thursday night, horrible, my body jerks awake and I have to :dose" myself with a piece of xanax , tylenol and a cold cloth.. It keeps going in the morning until I've had a cool shower and started my medicines again .

well done, I hope I'm as successful as you!

thank you for putting in to words again, how people need to open their eyes to weight loss and obesity, I hate the word morbid, makes me feel like I should be in a black gown the bottom dragging.. with white face paint on, looking like death. or so fat that there's a string tied to my foot because Im so round and fat I'm floating like a balloon. We didn't chose to be heavy. It happened. While I never got stuck in anything, being only 5 feet tall, the extra weight I carried did make me look round. The extra weight was not heathy. You can excercise did you drop, eat lightly but without the proper guidance that we need we are going in circles. I've been lucky to have the same m.d since I was 24. He knows my hypochondriacic ways, and knows what I need to hear. I will be alright, I will be healthy again, and sometimes just hearing it makes a world of difference. I don't need to have my hand held, I just need to have you point me in the right direction. The one thing I do remember, is going in for a cat-scan and the nurse handed me 2 gowns , saying oh you might need this. I didn't but I still put it on.. I can tell too when someone is making a comment about (or was) you feel their looks, the sense of shame and quick tears we try to hide , laugh it off, we don't hurt any less than anyone else. There's no need to defend ourselves to these people, I tell myself Karma baby karma) and go on my way. good luck to all

if dr not available talk to nurse! You need to keep your protein steady and up otherwise, you will be weak and it will be harder to get your journey started.

I was told by doctor that body is used to sleeping 7-8 hours , so if you go to sleep early its going to wake up early. She said stay up as late as you can, and you should be getting up a little later and no tv/radio. It works for me when I remember to turn tv off.