mags2u

Girls can be our best friends or the biggest .....well you know. You walk in that work tomorrow with your SKINNY head held high. Rumors are rumors until we don't feed into them with negative energy. Positive thoughts girl. The truth is between you and God above and it doesn't matter what procedure you had done- you did it for YOU and your kiddos, so don't let them take that away. Kind of like you can't change stupid......you can't take the b*tc% out of a b*tc%!

glad u said something about this i never would thought of it i havd always used the last one too.

I actually noticed that a couple of weeks ago...I didn't think of it at the time but now that you mention it I am!
Keep up the great work!

Well, not only did I use the last hooks, I used to use a bra extender!! No longer the case. Now I use the middle hooks. When I reach my goal I am going to buy a couple good bras that my best friend swears by and they are $120. But I trust her cuz she has some big girls too!

What an awesome NSV! I'll have to pay more attention when I put my bra on. Its so much a habit...I hadn't really thought about it. LOL.

I tell my hubby if only I could take big bites, I don't care what I have to eat, thats something I mourn, I tried to eat a tuna sandwich no bread today and ended up eating most all of it. and I never have done that. I think I was looking for that elusive mayonaise high I used to get, so I kept eating. but I never found it. Tomorrow its gonna be light/soups as now my throat hurts. We don't realize what we mourn, until we are facing it, and the timing will be different for everyone. I'm like you Mags, I love salad with lots of salad dressing, croutons, onions,,, mmm well you get the picture, nibbling on that fresh bread... my whole family knows that I have lapband and so when we go out and eat, it is no longer buffets, but a place where I can order houderves or childs plates. I can do this, we can do this, it isn't just for a little while its for the rest of our lives.... I agree best of luck to all of us!

It is definitely a challenge! I find myself wanting to reward with eating, but am starting to realize that is when I need to do something else. I am just having a hard time finding something that was as instantly gratifying as eating was. I am doing good, but the whole mind game and old habits take an effort to get by!
p.s.- it's not just you I just know that the chicken does have feelings! lol

I totally agree with you ...just today I was annoyed cuz I couldn't finish my food...but we need to get used to the fact that we can't eat that much anymore! I still make plates that have wayy too much food for me to finish. You are right though it shouldn't be something that annoys us if its going to make us loose the weight! This is why we did this!

You are so right, but doesn't stop the feelings! I look at meals in restaurants on advertised on TV and I say to myself, "no way I could eat that much food", "that steak sandwich looks great but I feel greasy and know I wouldn't enjoy it the way I once did." I can tell I am changing because my thoughts come back to what is right for me, but the old me still trys to stick in their 2 cents!

I agree with you. Every year we go to Mexico to an all inclusive resort, and for some reason last year I was REALLY tight and could not enjoy any food (drinks on the other hand lol) and here's my dbf eating everything in sight. I was only able to have 1 or 2 bites of anything. But I realized in the end this is how the band is supp to do the work. Unfortunately I haven't felt that much restriction since, but we're (the md and I) are working on it
Keep up the good work!

no.. i've never felt like that. But i do miss certain foods...
Mags... next time you feel like that .... take a look around. Especially at buffets. Look at the people eating there, look at their plates.... Than think... that's what i'm doing all this for... so i don't end up like that... or so i stop being like that.
Ok.... tell me how mean i am and how can i say that because i use to be that.... but it's true....

I've struggled with that so much. It's very frustrating. I really shouldn't be going out with people who don't know I'm banded. I just can't stop myself sometimes and then I feel sick or pb. It's not a good thing.

I think everybody's got some kind of trigger...something we miss. Hubby & I do not eat out a lot & when we do, I'm usually glad I can't eat the amt I used to. But for Valentine's (at my request) he took me to a fancy, schmancy place that is a "farm to table" experience. Communal table for about 15 folks. Chef uses products he's grown or gotten from other local farmers. 5 course dinner. I knew I better start out like I could hold out, you know? So I had a bite of the bread & a taste of the salad, but by the time the succulent, utterly awesome filet arrived...I took about 3 bites & had to leave the table, go out by our car & puke. Bathroom was so close to the table I knew they'd hear me in there! I was embarassed...mortified actually & ticked off that I couldn't "enjoy" this meal. When I came back to the table--they'd brought out dessert & I took one bite & pushed it over to my husband (who by the way is very thin & was at his gag limit as well). so the chef (who brought out each dish & explained it all) & his wife were worried about me....I ended up making up a story about having to check on the kids & that's why I left the table 3 times & couldn't finish dessert. I didn't know any of these folks & didn't feel like explaining LAP band surgery to any of them. So we left $120 poorer w/ part of my dinner on the ground & we laughed & said "maybe we shouldn't do that again anytime soon"...live & learn w/ the band.

I am in week 2 of eating regular foods. My husband and I go out with friends a couple times a month if we can. Now that I have the Lap Band, I feel so self concious around everyone when we eat. My husband tries to pick places that should have a few things on the menu that I can eat, but this weekend we went to a Cajun place. I love Cajun food, problem is it can have lots of gravy and huge portions. While everyone ordered the good stuff, I had to order a cup of Gumbo. All though it was good, I could only eat part of it and left the bread alone. Somehow I just didn't feel the same enjoyment from it as I used to. Oh well.
We are going on vacation in 2 weeks to California. I rarely drink, but I was really looking forward to going to a couple local wineries, but now I am not so sure thats a good idea:( If I drink a little I can't eat. If I don't eat a little, it goes straight to my head.lol
Other than eating out that causes problems sometimes, I am glad I have the band and hopefully in a year I am close to my goal weight.

They warned us at the seminar that we would actually "mourn" food. I did not understand until the last few months. Yes, I have those same exact fleeting thoughts - fantasizing about having all the fluid removed "just once" for that one big pig-out meal. The thought is fleeting the minute I step on the scale (100+ pounds down in just under 8 months) or look in the mirror, or shop the regular stores instead of the plus size, or get a second look from a cute guy (I'm married - it's just harmless fun . In the end, the good of this band VASTLY outweighs the bad. So the fleeting thoughts of pity/mourning are quickly replaced with positive ones. BEST OF LUCK TO US ALL ON OUR JOURNEYS!!!!!

Girls can be our best friends or the biggest .....well you know. You walk in that work tomorrow with your SKINNY head held high. Rumors are rumors until we don't feed into them with negative energy. Positive thoughts girl. The truth is between you and God above and it doesn't matter what procedure you had done- you did it for YOU and your kiddos, so don't let them take that away. Kind of like you can't change stupid......you can't take the b*tc% out of a b*tc%!

Girls can be our best friends or the biggest .....well you know. You walk in that work tomorrow with your SKINNY head held high. Rumors are rumors until we don't feed into them with negative energy. Positive thoughts girl. The truth is between you and God above and it doesn't matter what procedure you had done- you did it for YOU and your kiddos, so don't let them take that away. Kind of like you can't change stupid......you can't take the b*tc% out of a b*tc%!

Girls can be our best friends or the biggest .....well you know. You walk in that work tomorrow with your SKINNY head held high. Rumors are rumors until we don't feed into them with negative energy. Positive thoughts girl. The truth is between you and God above and it doesn't matter what procedure you had done- you did it for YOU and your kiddos, so don't let them take that away. Kind of like you can't change stupid......you can't take the b*tc% out of a b*tc%!

Girls can be our best friends or the biggest .....well you know. You walk in that work tomorrow with your SKINNY head held high. Rumors are rumors until we don't feed into them with negative energy. Positive thoughts girl. The truth is between you and God above and it doesn't matter what procedure you had done- you did it for YOU and your kiddos, so don't let them take that away. Kind of like you can't change stupid......you can't take the b*tc% out of a b*tc%!

I I have also saved a lot of money not going out to eat. Sometimes after work I would stop and get something to eat and sit before I went home. Kind of my wind down time. I also used to go out to breakfast with a friend a couple times a week. I think going to breakfast with her makes her feel awkward because I don't eat like I used to. My friend and I used to walk into a regular dining spot and the waitress would have our diet pepsi's ready before we even got to the table. I will just order a glass of water and let it sit there. I can't believe how much money i have saved not getting my 32oz. diet pepsi in the morning at $1.75 everyday( over $50)... heck I can buy myself something nice with that money instead, although it usually ends up with the kids! Gave it up cold turkey!

Love that saying!! Great job! My family gatherings are always focused on food also and my biggest worry was feeling deprived. I've learned that it feels way better making good choices and getting the weight off. I don't feel deprived at all!

I think having a large family would be great, but I don't and maybe for the first time that will work to my advantage! lol