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Thanks for the replies, My insurance will only pay for two types of surgery, bypass and band. This surgeonsaid at the begining of the information session that "if you want the bad, they do those in mexico". This guy flat out refuses to do the band. I spoke with another hospital and I was told by the consultant that though she could not speak for the surgeon, she felt that my BMI and weight where in the range for the band. I have never had such a hard time trying to give my money to a group of people so that they could help me. My insurance covers 80% so the band is more in my price range. The bypass is almost three times the cost, but I don't want that surgery, it is my choice to an extent. I don't mind dieting but I need the help that the band should provide. I'm not looking for a quick fix. I just want to live a normal life, but it seems that others seem to have somethinf else in mind. I just need some help....

I can't believe the last few weeks, after I jump through all the flaming rings of fire, my insurance won't cover VSG and now my surgeon says he won't do the band. What the hell do I do now, G-D, I just want some help losing this weight????????

Yea, I spoke with 2 corrdinaters and one superviser, as per my insurance plan its the switch or band... if all else fails I'll get the band and try for a self pay revision in a couple of years, but something has got to be done because of health issues.... Thanks for you concern, i appricate it..

9 months that I will never get back, great. Now the surgeon's office is pushing the plumbing remodel surgery, damn, give me some time to absorb the blow to my little world people. Yes, UHC blames the surgeon, the surgeon blames UHC and I'm stuck in the middle... I DO NOT WANT the do-whatever switch-XYZ surgery. I really wasn't into getting the band, but oh well, here we go. I'm hoping that in a few(?) years UHC will pull their head out of their a$$ and accept this surgery. I'm a state employee and UHC goes by medicare standards. This bites A$$ to the highest level......

I want to thank everybody and their advice and concern, it was welcomed. I visited my surgeon today and discussed the concerns I have about after the surgery. He said that it was normal and that most people are worried up untill they are rolled into surgery. Three months latter they are more concerned about buying new clothes and staying on track with the lifestyle change. This doctor even said he would refer me to another surgeon if I was that uncomfortable. He pointed out that based on my medical/personal history that the chance of me losing the wait was very slim. He asked me what has being overweight and unable to lose those pounds have taken form me, what has being overweight KEPT me from doing? What has being this over weight cost me with my health? So after that I went home and took a good look in the mirror, something that I dislike doing a great deal. I did not like who I saw and what I had become. Yes being overweight has prevented me from doing things I enjoy, but I disagree that fat has taken anything from me, genetics yes, fat no. After doing some REAL deep self introspection, I came to the truth. I need this surgery not just to lose weight, but to have better health now and later on in life. I did ask about the whole not looking heavy comments that I have gotten, he said "what does the scale say". Just because you carry the extra weight well it does not prevent you from diabetes, destroyed knee joints, bad back ect, ect. So, I will gladly get his surgery and put the mind f*#king myself behind me. I just hope Goodwill has the clothes I need in my size when the time comes!!!

I hope/pray you get your wish, good luck.

I keep having the same thoughts and conflicts about this surgery. I keep thinking that "I could give diet and exercise another try, really hard effort this time" or believe what others say that I'm "not that big" (I carry all my weight around my belly) even that this surgery is "quiting" or something. I also worry that I'll get to thin to soon and end up looking sickly or starved, something. I worry about execess skin and not being able to do anything about it since paying for this surgery is really going to tap out my resources. I worry that I'll never be able to get enough protein/nutrience when I go camping/hunting/ just out in the middle of nowhere. I worry about dehydration since my work you really work up a sweat and are pretty active regularly. I start to think things like my surgeon is only approving me so he can make money on this surgery, despite having been told by several doctors that this surgery could save my life, eventhough I'm 100lbs overweight,type 2 diabetes, almost no cartalige in my knees, degenerative disk in my back, high cholesterol, I almost refuse to go out into public because of body image issues. I bounce back and forth about my age and just not having time to mess with another diet plan that wont work.....I blame my therapist for this because she puts these seeds of doubt in my head. Is there anybody else who has ever felt this way?

Did anyone have any issues with urgency incontinence before VSG? Did the loss of body weight reduce this problem? Thanks

A serious question here, how hard is it to lose that annoying pad of fat around the crotch. Has anybody needed liposuction to remove the fat around this area? Thanks.

I wasn't going to respond to your post but I had to. Brother, this is your chance to bounce back by looking better and feeling better. Your a man, this is what men do, we go it alone when we have to and we beat the odds. NEVER let another person get in the way of your chance to live a normal, healthier life. She was just a bump in the road. When your looking better, your confidence goes through the roof. After a while you will wonder why you wasted so much time thinking about that person. Living well is th best revenge, take the chance, we only get one life...

I understand about being obese and having to got through highschool, it's the most degrading thing to suffer through, BUT, you have an option most of us didn't. So stay focused and cheer up, your doctor is in your corner and if he says your going to get the surgery then you will. Peace.

I had my third of four therapist visits, everything was going great with the conversation until the subject of WLS was brought up. This person again started with the "your not that big for WLS". I explained to this person that I've got four MD's that say I need it, like five years ago, so there is no real issue for concern about my size but for my medical needs. Then we had to go into "how" invasive WLS is. I explained that I find my health conditions more invasive than any surgery. The therapist then said, "your in a better place emotionally to try normal diet methods". Really...... Even after all the times I haved lost weight, I have NEVER been able to keep it off. I called the doctor that handled my psych eval to complain and it was explained to me that when the therapist sends their final report that the doctor is not looking for opinions about WLS but other factors. I was then told to just ride it out and trust your doctors. Why the hell do proffesional people think that they have so much influence that you would disreguard what your doctors say and blindly follow their advice, WTF!!!!