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Thank you. Your words are very inspirational! I am lucky to not have to do this out of pocket and I'm glad my family supports me. Thanks!

This is a major surgery. What if you were having another procedure done that required a 2-3 day hospital stay and a removal of part of an organ? would you tell him then? Please don't judge yourself for having this done and please don't let your partner make you feel bad about yourself for doing something that is right for you. I can tell you from expereince it is better to be alone than in a relationship with someone who is not supportive and does not put you first. Lots of overweight people would love to have this surgery to help them but can not due to insurance and money if you so blessed to be having this surgery be happy and proud and I hope once you have lost the weight you will feel so great about yourself you will only surround yourself with those who support you!

I had both done at the procedure. They gave me orange juice and then my boyfriend picked me up. I do suggest you call out of work that day and you should definitely go under things way you wont feel anything. I dozed off speaking to the doctor while he was inserting the tube and all i remember was him pulling it out and saying all done. And then I went home and slept off whatever they gave me.

I guess I haven't been thinking realistically. Especially since i've been slacking on pre-op exams and stuff. I know I will tell him. and I thank all you guys for making me realize how stupid it would be and selfish to keep it to myself. My question should have really been HOW do you tell your significant other about your decision. I basically asked him if he would be comfortable with me doing the surgery.

I've heard a lot of stories of relationships going south after surgery... That kinda scares me a bit.

Yes i can see this being extremely awkward and impossible to hide.

I don't see how you could hide it from him. How will you explain going from being able to eat a lot and then getting full eating like a bird?

I think what bothers me is the fact that i am not close with his family. He tells them EVERYTHING and i am a little afraid that they will judge me about choosing surgery. (its okay to lie about shoes! As long as you lookk good in them) lol

I am not sure why you wouldn't tell them. Are you afraid that he will leave you? Are you ashamed of getting the surgery? Are you afraid that he will try to talk you our of it or sabotage your journey? I can't imagine being in a long term relationship and not discussing this with my sig other. But then I lie about shoes I buy so who knows.

Yes. I just put myself in his shoes. I definitely agree with you.

How would you feel if something this important and life-changing was kept from you until the day it happened?

I'm not sure if this is wrong but I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and he knows I've been looking into surgery but he doesn't know that I'm currently doing all the pre op exams for surgery. To be honest m sure he'll support me 100% but I've been thinking of telling him the day before the surgery or maybe not telling him at all. We dont live together. Anyone pre or post op facing or faced a similar situation. Please give me your opinion. Thanks!

I feel like its a little bit of both because that's how i feel.

Awesome i'll check dr yatco out! Thanks!

Hi. I'm from queens but used dr yatco with Lenox hills. His office did everything, everyone on staff, the nut, and psych to, who charged $150.

Good luck to you.

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My pysch was $150

WHERE??!?!?! lol... everyone who takes my insurance has like a 3 or 4 month waiting list!

hey guys!!! I live in Manhattan and i am having trouble finding a psychologist/psychiatrist for an evaluation that possibly takes my insurance or won't charge more than $150???

My insurance wont take evaluations from CSW's. Please can any pre-op or post-op sleevers tell me if they know anyone? Thanks!!!!!!!!

A little bit of both... I feel the exact same way. I feel like that sometimes when i go to job interviews... they are judging me not on my skills or experiences but on my weight!

Hey guys!imagine we all get together and have a sleeve party haha!are you guys excited for surgery or what?!

We should have a healthy bbq lol maybe in central park... or go to the beach together!!! LETS START A REVOLUTION lol

WOWWW that's really close... CONGRATS!!! && Good Luck!!! YAAAAAA

YAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! Congrats!!!!!! && Good Luck

To my knowledge most people need to get the psych eval. Its a simple procedure from what i've heard. Don't cancel that one, just try and see if you can find a private psychologist or psychiatrist that takes your insurance and has an opening sooner than July 30. That's what i did with one of my pre op exams. It was scheduled in May for Julyy 11 and i saw a different doctor May 23. Since you've had the surgery already i'm sure you don't need it again. Call Cigna and ask. Good Luck!!!

Hey Beba. I'm not sure about the 6 month approval letter. I've only been to the seminar at this point and when I asked them about my insurence they told me that the 6 month diet isn't required....so I guess I'll see when I go on the 18th and talk to the surgeon!

Congrats on doing the endoscopy! I'm scared of that procedure lol. Your almost there! I hope you get your date soon!

@Fallenangel2904 Thank you. What kind of insurance do you have? The endoscopy actually was an easy procedure. Even though it was time consuming compared to the others but it was not that bad. Don't be afraid. I was scared and the male nurse told me that all the rumors about it being painful is not true. It really wasn't painful at all. They were injecting something to relax me and all i remember is them telling me all done. It was cool!

I have health first and My np told me i didn't needed but another nurse said i did!

Has anyone ever avoided the letter?

I have health first w/ Medicaid and was wondering if anyone else has it. If they need the 6-months letter and how long did it take for the insurance to approve the surgery. Thanks!

_{My plan is not to tell anyone. I hope to lose only about 50 pounds and then say to people I have stopped porking out so much and been working out a bit. My aunt lost like over 100 pounds' date=' we used to call her miss piggy behind her back and one christmas she was normal weight with loose skin. no one had the balls to ask her but people did judge her behind her back. I just want people to think I am strong on my own and not to judge me. I don't even want to tell my husband, although I am sure he will find out, I just want to have surgery done before he knows so he can't stop me. I just hope insurance approves it.[/sub']}

_{@fatiniowa. You need to tell someone especially your husband. You needed supporters. You can do this alone but it will be very difficult without someone to support you.}

_{And this surgery is not the easy way out! This is tough and only strong people can handle it. That's why everyone gets a psych evaluation at first.}

_{Remember your doing this for YOU. Your health! Your body! Your mind. Print out information on the surgery and sit your husband down or someone else you trust and educate them about the surgery and then explain that's what you want. You news family support hun! And all of us are and will always be here to support you. But you need someone to support you outside of here! Good luck hun!}

Hey Everyone... I'm in Manhattan, Wash heightz.... I'm doing clearance exams at the moment i only need to meet with a pulmonary specialist and a psych evaluation. My doctor is Dr. Bagloo from Columbia Presbyterian. I have health first and I heard they are easy going when it comes to approval but Columbia Pres. told me I needed a 6-month letter so i'll just be patient until then!!

Congrats to all the sleevers that got surgery done this past month!

Before i finally made my decision on actually doing wls, i went to three different seminars and I was the smallest out of all of everyone. I'n one seminar some ladies asked me if I was the guest speaker coming to talk about how successful the surgery was for me. It wasn't a compliment. I felt like wow maybe i shouldn't get the surgery done!

People can be negative and they always want to give their opinion even if you didn't ask for it. I personally only told my mom and my sister and about a month after my seminar I told my bf. My mom and sis know that i'm in the process with all the pre-op exams but my bf thinks its just regular check-ups. God willingly the day before my surgery I will be telling my dad and bf. (i've been with my bf for 5 years and my dad although my parents split when I was younger, he's always been in my life).

They are the most important people right now. AFTER my surgery I will tell close friends and family or maybe not because once you tell one person it WILL spread around. I might just tell them I got on weight watchers, or tried sensa, or that fruit smoothie or hcg injections and once i've reached my GOAL WEIGHT i'll tell people who I feel should know.

Hey everyone. I am in Manhattan. My doctor is Dr. Bagloo from Columbia Presbyterian. I am deciding between the band and the sleeve. God willingly if everything goes well my pre-op exams should be done by the end of the month. I am just in search of a Psephologist that takes my insurance or won't charge me an arm and a leg for my evaluations! Any suggestions?

Yaaa! Congrats!