ProudGrammy

worried about my husband's health Every month or so, I'll try to talk to him about my concerns. @@Comfy_Blue i am in the same boat with my hubby i'm afraid he might sink not a joke "reminding"/continually talking about his weight "situation" how is that working for you?? i did the same thing numerous times long time ago wasn't working, and i made the situation worse hubby felt bad - then i felt bad because i was hurting him finally, bit my tongue, and stopped wasting my breath can't push on rope you can bring a horse to Water, but you can't make him drink sorry for the cliches', but they are very true @@Comfy_Blue sadly there are many in the same situations with their spouse, daughter, son etc its no fun being around someone you love that has "any" problem good luck to all of us and our loved ones that they need help hopefully ............ " they" will get that "ah ha" moment that @@Babbs spoke of @@Comfy_Blue don't let hubbies problems "over shadow" your success(did i say that right?) congrats on your success down 105 lbs GOAL!!! keep up the good work kathy

for hubby........... has anything gotten bigger as "they" say it does?? @@kikicoates78 happy for you both kathy congrats

@proudgrammy why is sex allowed within a couple weeks for some when you feel ok? my doc has me still waiting 3+ years PO GOTCHA @@galadriel535 "OMG...what possible rationale could there be to wait years of sex, post operationally, if all is normal???? That sounds insane!" @@ProjectMe "3 yrs post op for sex? I barely lasted two weeks " @proudgrammy if before surgery my doc told me the above i would have died then changed docs @@BLERDgirl Pretty sure that was a joke. @proudgrammy sorry ladies that was my "attempt" at humor @@BLERDgirl you are such a smarty you get the blue ribbon @proudgrammy if i confused anyone, raise your right hand i you understood raise your left hand if you are not sure raise both hands Kathy

.@@SuperDave enjoyed reading your post you have lost over 100 lbs before surgery!!! thats wonderful!!!! shows your strength, determination and commitment to losing weight losing so much weight on your own - woo hoo!!! looking forward to seeing "less and less" of you you really are "super" keep up the good work good luck kathy

@@Annie77 all the reasons/comments from "above" are good having so many doctors give different rules to patients IMO is ridiculous (unless there are medical, physical reason that are necessary for different rules) there should be ONE book for all docs to follow just a few examples why should people be at different time periods for liquids/purees', soft food etc. why should one person be allowed to have coffee from the get go - others wait different time periods alcohol in 3 weeks, 6 months, or 1 year!! why is sex allowed within a couple weeks for some when you feel ok? my doc has me still waiting 3+ years PO GOTCHA it would be great if all docs/NUTS could be on the same page kathy

@@hisandhersleeves you are not alone!! I've read that other people on the board have gained over the holiday too don't tell anyone, but i gained 4.2 lbs!!! what is done is done look toward the future you gained 6 lbs over the holidays GET OVER IT KNOCK IT OFF!! you can't do anything to change/undo the past couple weeks vaca over the holiday all of a sudden being home food, food, food all over temptations from the devil dwelling/upset over your "temporary" weight gain doesn't help go with the present and future you can control both of those i have confidence in you you will get back on track whatever your weight loss is congrats i'm sure you have been doing great get back to "normal" follow everything @@McButterpants said!!! she's such a smarty pants good luck bud kathy

@@sarah92200 "they" say losing on the average of 10 lbs a month is good you've lost 90 lbs in four months hmmmm, lets figure this out glad you are happy and proud you should be!! wonderful way to start the new year you started in "thunderland??" now you are in twoderville onderland here you come keep up the great job!!! i know you will kathy congrats

@@zaptearNH hey dude welcome welcome welcome as our group gets larger - "we people" get smaller!! you've lost 40 lbs and you haven't started pre-op thats terrific shows how committed you are!! wonderful to start the new year getting healthy tips??? take one day at a time "might" be a little rough at first/or later a bit might stall things usually get better sooner than later follow all the rules set by doc and NUT(nutritionist) drink as much as you can Water is very important don't allow yourself to get dehydrated as this early stage - water is more important than Protein come "visit" this board frequently you'll get plenty of support here hear all our wisdom, listen to our good advice experiences but - at the end of the day ALWAYS/ONLY follow the words of your doc/NUT (and me too of course ) your determination/optimism goes a long way thats always good good luck speedy recovery kathy

@@ebony'sjourney you've come a long way baby 40 lbs down in 6 weeks! party dance party dance you will get to onederland hopefully as a b'day present few days later??? you've waited this long it will happen sooner than later have a great weekend happy early b'day kathy congrats

Did you spouse diet with you? @@kikicoates78 NO!! hubby needs to lose about 100 lbs he has been heavy all his life he is 6' so he "supposedly" carries his weight a little better while i was losing weight, reaching goal he was extremely happy now even more so he tells me i look good and he loves that i said to him once something like, "hmmm, it would be nice if you lost weight too - I would love that " didn't go over well, he just "groaned" oh well back to you bud good for you losing 40 lbs i can't "see" you - but i'm sure you look terrific!!! hubby losing 45 lbs!! working with and supporting you all the way - he's aces his face looks smaller his hair looks neater his beard looks great - smaller/shorter!!! for hubby........... has anything gotten bigger as "they" say it does?? oh my!!! did i really say that!!! both of you keep up the good job I know you will!! kathy congrats

@@Elode i'll try not to make any more of my silly jokes but, then what would i'd say!! kathy

movies I should check out while you were convalescing???? @@MisforMimi you might enjoy some comedy while you are laying on deaths door after surgery attn Newbies just kidding about deaths door (kindof ) two comedies from a few years ago that i loved Mrs. Doubtfire Robin Williams Forrest Gump Tom Hanks good luck with surgery speedy recovery kathy

@@JustWatchMe congrats on losing 103 lbs century club!! good for you you are aces at about one year PO....... my taste buds did "act up" bit i used to llllove the aroma of coffee now i can't smell the coffee at all just as weird never liked the taste of coffee now i go to dunkin donuts drive thru 2-3 times a week medium black / with sweet and low (no cream or sugar!!) and no donut!! as far as salad goes i used to put "a little" extra russian dressing on my salad i also can't believe i use vinegerette now that is my story and i'm stickin' to it! kathy

@@Alex Brecher Happy New Year Hope you enjoyed the holidays don't mean to bother you again i am now using the "New Content" (which is ok, not a big deal) when you get a sec could you explain what we should be doing to retrieve emails again? I would appreciate thanx kathy

@@Elode :lol: thats kindof what i thought too!!! i think most newbies think what ???? why are you saying something mean?? "you are calling people nuts " what the heck?? good these things are finally explained kathy

@@sweeteyes504 i've always been amazed, felt bad for people that have to cook for their kids/hubby/parents etc or just be around the food it can be hard enough to watch what you eat but to have all "those" other foods/smells around that must be terrible!!! thats great you haven't had any foods you are cooking for family resisted temptation it wouldn't "kill" anyone else to try and eat some of the "normal" food you make you don't' have to tell them its "good"/healthy for them to eat i have seen on the board that spouses/ family etc will help/support sleever by eating what they cook surprise, surprise - in the meantime OP loses weight too!! stay strong!!! i know you can do it!!! good luck kathy

@@James Marusek hey dude slow day!!?? the devil made me say it NSV = non-scale victory (“scale” means “weight scale”) NUT = nutritionist many/most newbies don't know what the heck the above two initials stand for it was nice of you to explain nice of you to create such an indepth list you are one of the many success stories with the sleeve down 110 lbs!!! kathy congrats

@@cbwalker79 great transformation pics of you and hubby you both look cute as the dickins thanx for dropping by to remind/tell people how wonderful the sleeve is its true that many people leave the board shortly after they have reached goal/success (they are still trying to get rid of me ) but there are more and more VETS hanging around for advice/help/support great plan to run that 1/2 marathon!! you will do great sounds like you are doing great with maintenance too!! try and stop by more often we'll all have a Protein shake glass of Water sounds better happy new year kathy congrats

@@kimpossible67 good news, bad news good news is you are able to wear a great warm winter coat bad news is that you won't be able to wear the coat next year as our clothes get smaller - our smile gets bigger keep up the good job Kathy congrats

@@Docgerri @@SteveLent getting boring here i also had a great, speedy recovery no issues/concerns you will see./hear many success stories people write about their bad experiences those bad stories stick out in your mind makes you worry a bit but there are other sleevers that had no issues/problems the good stories "outweight" the bad stories you made the wise decision to have WLS don't second guess your self now/!!!! good luck speedy recovery katthy

@@ls27 when you said pre-SX i thought you were gonna talk about sex i am a grammy but i'm not dead yet kathy

@AR40@AR40 this post is so timely this morning a radio announcer that i love made the following statement drinking coffee for men increases your life span 10 years for women 13 years!!! not sure how true those stat are, but i thought it was interesting kathy

@@Kindle i can't think of ANY thing to do better at or improve myself did you forget, i'm perfect!! food has always been such a big part of my life like OP said, fad diets, losing more weight etc etc for good or bad, my "resolution" (not sure if thats the right word for the following ) keep eating well and maintaining these past 3 years PO my life has been so amazing i can't imagine going backwards, gaining the weight back!! feel too wonderful to go back to my old style of living 2015 needs/will continue to keep me healthier, happier life to you, you, you and you and etc. etc may you all find all the happiness and more that you deserve happy new year to us all kathy

@@Katcloudshepherd OMG poor hubby has been through the ringer you are his primary health care provider?? things must be very difficult for you too you've lost 121 lbs!!! might be a little easier to breath and move around helping hubby unexpected NSV maybe?? hubby needing oxygen 24/7, high blood pressure, many, many co-morbities many surgeries over the years it must be so hard for him and for you too having to be attentive to all his health needs (i'm sure you don't mind, but it must be draining/hard hopefully many of his ailments will improve or gradually disappear sooner than later he will "probably" have a difficult recovery the two of you will be standing hand in hand together standing very tall and strong being their for each other may the new year bring you both health and happiness good luck kathy

@@robga999 success is all that its cracked up to be when was the last time you were smiling in onderland?? keep up the great job good luck kathy congrats