Jammy

I'm going through this as well, I keep wondering if I did something wrong.

Had surgery on Monday. Today is Wednesday and I'm about ready to go home from the hospital. Still pretty sore but overall feel good. Can't wait to get home. One word of advice... Bring Chapstick! Lips will be really dry after the intubation and you can't drink for a bit. It will do you wonders. Do not forget the Chapstick! You'll thank me later.

Hi all - i start my pre-op liquid diet tomorrow and my revision surgery - band to sleeve is August 5th. I'm happy, scared and excited to start my weight loss journey.

Had surgery on Monday. Today is Wednesday and I'm about ready to go home from the hospital. Still pretty sore but overall feel good. Can't wait to get home. One word of advice... Bring Chapstick! Lips will be really dry after the intubation and you can't drink for a bit. It will do you wonders. Do not forget the Chapstick! You'll thank me later.

August 5th here!

August 5th here!

I agree with some of the others. When you deny your partner intimacy they will eventually try and fulfill that need somehow. Not everyone feels like romping all the time, esp with a 15 month old! BUT, you have to find a way to heal that part of the relationship. Whether through counceling or just sucking it up and giving the guy some action when you don't necessarily feel like it. Something has got to give. Imagine the rejection he feels. You'll bust out the vibrator but not give him affection? I'd feel terrible about myself too if my partner did that. Relationships are a two way street.

I agree with some of the others. When you deny your partner intimacy they will eventually try and fulfill that need somehow. Not everyone feels like romping all the time, esp with a 15 month old! BUT, you have to find a way to heal that part of the relationship. Whether through counceling or just sucking it up and giving the guy some action when you don't necessarily feel like it. Something has got to give. Imagine the rejection he feels. You'll bust out the vibrator but not give him affection? I'd feel terrible about myself too if my partner did that. Relationships are a two way street.

Congrats!! I'm scheduled for part 2 of my band to sleeve on 8/29. In June I went in for a one-step revision but because of the amount of scar tissue the surgeon found and some erosion he didn't feel it was safe to do the sleeve that day. That was not news I was happy to wake up to but I'm glad he's being cautious. Best of luck to you!!

First off, dude making drugs in the house is a major red flag! Keep your eyes open. That being said, most guys who read this will also ask, how long have you denied your husband marital relations? Keep in mind, he does have physical needs too. So at this point, he's probably desperate, which results in desperate measures, thus the sneaking around. He may even feel left out or like a non-factor. You're getting yours, but he's not getting his. That's a little selfish. And, that can play on anyone's mental. However, if you have not denied him and are just having a personal moment, that's different. He needs to back the hell up! Everyone needs their own space! And by no means should he ever videotape you without your consent! WTH!! In addition, without living in your shoes it's difficult to understand your mental and emotional state. Not to mention the fact that post VST patients are known to have a change in sexual desire. At least during the initial transition as they learn to identify with their new reflection. Some increase activity and some decrease. But the bottom line is, you have to figure out what it is you want. If that does not include your husband, then you should make it known. If you do want your husband, then maybe you guys need that counsel! Just make sure that all of this is not a result of the new attention that you may be receiving from other men now that you are losing weight! Or that your new social or physical status and/or desire is now above your husband's status! Meaning, he's no longer good enough.

Okay. There is a lot in there.
The masturbation? I don't see that as being a big deal, after all you were doing it to. If anything, I felt a bit sad for your husband reading that, sad that he was left to listen through the door rather than have a healthy participation in each others enjoyment. I find your hiding to masturbate just as unhealthy as him listening through the door.
The emails and Facebook and phone stuff? I don't relate. At all. I say nothing online or on my phone or even in my life that I would not share with my husband. I don't live a life of intrigue. We are partners in this life and he can access my Facebook, emails, phone or anything else he desires at any time. Not that he ever does, but that's not the point. The point is, I do nothing or say nothing I would not be comfortable with him seeing. I read your post and it is clear he is feeling insecure. Does he have cause to feel insecure? Can you reassure him of his security? Because hiding what you do or say does not communicate security, it communicates concern. I am not saying that he should be 'spying' on your online activity, but rather you should ask yourself whether you are concerned about what he might find. Look to your own behaviour first as you have control over that.
The bit that screamed out for me has been said by others. You have a child in the house, a very young child, with someone who is acting impulsively and potentially dangerously. The making drugs in your kitchen thing is alarming. While you have come back in later posts and played this down I am more concerned that you still don't have a clear picture of just what he was making.
The whole thing paints a picture of a couple who are not communicating, not just not communicating well but not communicating at all. Counselling sounds like a good place for you both to get some assistance in learning how to communicate. But first I would encourage you to take a good long hard look at your own behaviour in this situation. I am not saying his behaviour is without question, far from it, but I am saying your behaviour doesn't look so great here either and perhaps there is some personal responsibility to be taken.

August 15th for me! I can't wait! I am actually having a hard time falling asleep at night because of my nerves and excitement.

August 5th here!

Don't worry. At least it is getting done!

I will be having my band removed at the same time as my sleeve. I work in the hospital where I'm getting my surgery, so I went to see if the insurance gal had an approval for me, but she took today off. Wish me luck! Hopefully I'll know monday.

I might be! I'm waiting for the insurance company to give me the thumbs up or down. If up, I should be on July 29 too! I'm a revision from Band to Sleeve.

As a fellow Newby was anything Newby wrote inaccurate? She wrote:
"[i don't want to] have my sleeve surgery done in a Strip Mall clinic (like Alamanza and Jerusalem Hospital)" Are Alamanza and Jerusalem in Strip Malls?
"[i don't want to] use a surgeon that doesn't have a lot of experience (like Garcia and Lopez.)]" How many procedures have the "named practices" performed compared to the 3 most experiences Sleeve docs in Mexico? Have Garcia and Lopez performed even nearly as many as the 3 docs with the most # of successful procedures? Here I will define success as "less than 2% bad outcomes or complications per 1000 sleeves performed.
Newby also wrote "My life is definitely very valuable to me and I'm not willing to risk it!" She's not telling anyone else what to do. She didn't say that if you chose a doc with less experience you value your life less than hers. I think anyone who read that into her words is allowing their own insecurities to pop-out. She's just stating for herself that she wants one of those docs with the greatest # of successes. I don't see anything wrong with that.
Thanks, Newby, for putting forward your personal list in which you speak for no one except yourself. I too don't want to get surgery in a Strip Mall or receive aftercare in a recovery center that was robbed. I also don't want surgery by a surgeon with less experience compared to others. I don't think the way you wrote your email was insensitive at all and I glad to have the information you wrote as it is information I was unaware of and NO ONE says what you wrote was inaccurate.
Mark Twain: "Insensitive is what they call you when they can't call you a liar."
PS: My LapBand was done by Dr Ariel Ortiz in 2003 when he was one of the priciest. I got good surgery and free fills for a few years, which was good. But his office kept no charts and it was up to me to remember the dates and fill amounts of my adjustments and to report them to the doctor at fill-times. They had no records and no idea! Also, I was in a hospital room in August with no air conditioning. That's what top-dollar bought and that's why I'm doing quality-hunting AND bargain-hunting for my sleeve. Thank you for your original post.

I was 206 lbs at time of my surgery on Aug 9, 2012. I had the band in Feb 2010 - with about a 50 lb weight loss (including pre surgery)... approx 40 lbs with the band. Had complications and had the band unfilled in April of 2012. Gained approx 20 lbs.
Sleeved on August 9. So, I am now right at 4 weeks post op. Down 17 pounds and currently at 189 lbs...
I had some complications with scar tissue and a kink in my esophagus... however, I think that I have done very well. The surgery was a success... I had a lot of nausea in the beginning... let me say that again... I had a lot of nausea in the beginning... and I continued to take the nausea medication without fail well into the 2nd week post op. Thus, I never had any sickness or throwing up. So, recovery can be a little longer than a straight sleeve....
I think the biggest problem for me was.. having to go through all this again. When you have never had the post op surgery regime you really don't know what to expect until you are there... With having done this before... it has gotten a little redundant and I find myself saying, "I just wish I had done this in the first place".
No regrets on the band to sleeve so far... and from what I read in the forums... I don't think I will have any... Especially whenever I get to the place where all this post op regime is behind me... I can eat the foods I love and enjoy, with friends and family that I love... just not in the quantity of the past...
I am excited for you and would love to hear from you and how you do...

Wow, these two posts have really made me feel good about my decision. I like the idea of feeling more "naturally full". Not full because something just wants to be a jerk and disagree with my band. I dont' eat much as it is now, but because of this fussy band, only getting a couple bites in, I'll get hungry again in an hour or so. It's frustrating. I hear you YorkieFan about being prepared to eat slowly and small amounts and such. I am very used to it since having the band. I don't fear the transition into small portions, or eating habits as far as speed and drinking at all. I honestly am just ready for this all to happen and would go tomorrow if I could! I appreciate your response, and again may take you up on a message or ten! lol

msaprildawn, our stories are very similar. I am at about 230 and will be having my surgery in less than 5 weeks. I went from the 290 range to where I am now with the band over the course of a year. I was fearful that I might not really lose much more after the sleeve. I also know that being at 230, it may sound a little petty to some that I am not happy with my loss thusfar, but I feel like I have a long way to go. In the back of my mind I feel like if I made it to the 180s I would feel like all of this was a success and worth it. Not that it hasn't been worth it thusfar, but I would feel successful if I made it to the 180s. Anything beyond that would just feel like a bonus! You're not losing slowly at all in my book. I never wanted to lose too drastically too quick. I think it would be too much of a shocker, too much conversation from those around me, and I don't love to be the center of attention at all. Thanks so much for the response. I just might be messaging you! -Ivy

I'll be having revision surgery from LapBand to the sleeve next month. My pre-op starts in about 3 weeks. I am curious if anyone else has gone through surgery around where I am. I was originally in the 290s, am currently about 225-230 depending on what I ate for dinner. I was banded 14 months ago and because of complications I'm am being revised to the sleeve. I'm curious to hear from anyone with a similar story. How did you fair after surgery? How much and how quickly did you lose? Was it worth the extra surgery in your opinion? Any words of advice going forward to the sleeve from the band?

EGD today went well. Been asleep since returning home. Versed and Fentanyl and I dont remember anything. Will be sleeved in 3 wks.. Yahoo..

I finally got my date!
9/17/12 in Brooklyn, NY Dr. Vulpe

Twinsies!

I am having my band removed on 9/5 I have had it for two years now, and have had nothing but bad luck. I am patiently waiting for my insurance to approve the sleeve!! Since my band removal was approved in one week, I am in high hopes that it will be approved!!!! Good luck to everyone on your journey!