**LaSaJaTa**

Try nectar protien shakes. Peach is a great starting point. It's nice and clean, and will give you the protien you need. True that getting in your liquids is important, but with the right shake, you can accomplish both. The protien will also speed your healing. Also, when you're permitted soft foods, greek yogurt is a great way to boost protien.

A truly terrible situation. You need support, especially loving support. Sounds like he's afraid, and is trying to sabotage your jouney to a healthier, happier you. Do not allow him to do this to you! I'm hearing all kinds of excuses from you, why you can't do this, or can't do that.....don't fall into his trap. FIND A WAY to do what you need, for yourself. FIND A WAY to get the food you need. Plan ahead, stock up. No excuses. FIND A WAY to get the excersize you need. Trade off with another local mother. You take her kids some mornings, then she takes yours. You don't need the gym. Go outside, go for a walk, a run. Work out at home, you don't need fancy machines. Tin cans and a few pieces of wood will help. FIND A WAY, you deserve it, and you owe it to yourself and your children. NO MORE EXCUSES. No more feeling bad. ONLY POSITIVE.....

Thanks JDR, do you have a background in physical fitness then?

As I was reading from the beginning of your post, now down to this section, I was getting angrier and angrier...until I hit the update! WHOOOHOOO. I'm so proud of you for going ahead and getting the sleeve. You are very, very brave, and I'm so glad you took control of YOUR life this way. You're husband loves you, this I know. He's just scared of CHANGE. Change in your attitude, sexiness and self assurance. How will YOUR choice effect his lifestyle. This is just the way most men think, then they come around, and realize that "hey, it's not so bad", and they fall into step with you and once again, you "jive".

Congratulations on making your brave choice. I could hug you!!!

In my opinion, he's simply not interested. Showing interest would mean that he'd have to be "involved", which it seems, he's not willing to do. I'd be more prone to leaving things as they are, doing what YOU want to do, and hope he comes along for the ride after the fact. If he elects not to, then better you know now, than later. Oh, and when you're all slim and sexy, and he did not support you after the surgery, you can tell him to kiss your *^% if he comes sniffing around.

BrownBear, this surgery changed my life! I will tell ANYONE who asks exactally what I've done to aid in my weightloss. No shame here....and IF I can help 1 single person by sharing the info on my surgery and the entire process, then I've played it forward, and for this reason, I feel proud. Proud that I FINALLY took control of the situation and my weight. Proud that I took control of my health and most proud that I can now go outside and play with my kids, and that I know I'll be around to see them grow up, get married and have kids of their own. Oh Yeah, and my husband feels proud of my dedication to the lifestyle, the gym and our family!

Being scared is NORMAL. Be scared, it means you're paying attention. But, be excited too, because I firmly beleive this is a great tool, and I would not hesitate to shout it from the rooftops!

Best of luck on your journey! Start your engines!!

Mine would be to drink my Water and remember my supplements!!!

Toronto here, sleeved in Mexico with the amazing Dr. Aceves!

In 2011, I want to wear something ULTRA sexy for my husband and jump out of an airplane and do a free fall skydive in tandum with an instructor.

I'm sleeping better and more deeply than ever and I'm always FREEZING.

I'm so proud of you and the changes you've made....You're REALLY ready for the sleeve, and I know that with your dedication, you'll ROCK that too! Keep up the good work....

How great is that!!!!! Good for you.....I'm sure you felt like you were on the moon after those comments eh?

Dr. A is my personal Angel! I was sleeved in July this year, and can tell you that the ENTIRE expeirence, from pre-op to post-op was incredible. The staff were great, the hospital was ultra modern and clean. I had better care in Mexico than I have ever had here in Toronto. I do not hesitate in recommending Dr. A, his staff, the facility or the surgery!

I"m going to cry!!!

I agree with Tiff...try nectar Protien drinks, peach is yummy, as is the lemonaide

I too am COLD! In fact, i've started wearing PJ's to bed, and my husband DOES NOT LIKE IT on bit! It's strange, everyone else in my family is VERY slim, (kids and husband) and they do not feel cold. Why me?

I agree, don't stop. Remember, building muscle means adding weight, as muscle weighs more than fat. I've been working out with a trainer for the last 3 months and although the scale moves very slowly (I'm training to muscle failure and building lean muscle) the inches are dropping off. The scale does not tell the whole story. You need to shock your body, be sure you are not burning too many calories, focus on building muscle instead. Lots and lots of Water....

Best of luck.

I'm 4 mos out, and am eating like this:

B: Protien Shake: Try nectar, it's awesome. Peach/Lemonade

S: cheese 30g

L: Left overs from night before: Steak/Pork/Chicken/Salmon, along with a small Arugala salad, olive oil, sald and vinegar

S: Beef Jerky, 1 oz

D: meat (3oz), with a gravy and some well cooked broccoli flowers, no stems

S: Canned fuit in Water (1/2 cup) or 1/2 a fresh apple.

I'm down 74lbs in 4 mos.

I LOVE my sleeve and would do it again in a heartbeat!

Hi There...I have some GREAT news for you....Protien, at this stage of your recovery, as well as moving forward, is very important. The protien shake is the easiest, fastest and cleanest way to get protien into your body. Check out nectar protien shakes. The Peach/Coffee/Lemonade is very clean, and has no "protien" taste or chaulky feeling. You can order a sample pack from them, and they'll send you 12 flavours to check out. No kidding You won't regret it...trust me! It's probably one of the more expensive protien shakes on the market, but the price per serving is reasonable...and the biggest thing is you'll be able to drink it, no probs!

liquids?

Just so you know, per your OP, you can't selectively burn fat and not burn calories.

Hi Emilygrace, yes, your correct, you cannot burn fat and not burn calories, but my goal is to burn fat, and minimize the calorie burn, not to focus on calorie burn, as many non altered overweight people normally do...

I agree, call your dr right away!

agreed, and i've also seen ad's for huge, juicy hamburgers too, what's up with that?

**update**

I've been working with the head trainer now for the last few weeks. He scares me! :-) I love working out with him though, he's no nonsense, which is what I need. He explains everything, and me, like the sponge that I am, and just loving all the information and details. He's not a huge advocat for the machines, and is a believer of the free weights ect. I'm learning so much....for example, I've learned that I hate, hate, hate squats!

Anywhoo, just wanted to touch base and let everyone know that I'm happy with the new trainer, and am enjoying the experience, so far!

What you're experiencing is normal. Hormones too! Be patient, let your body heal. I felt exactly the same way you feel, in the beginning. Then, as I learned how to use the tool I got, things got easier. Don't stress, and you know what, it's okay to feel sad....but then snap out of it, and lift up your chin, and get back to the job, of learning the how, when, why and what of the sleeve. You'll be fine, trust me!