Gayle

I am 6 feet tall, weight 400 pounds

my BMI is around 55

I have hypothyroidism and asthma and depression. Everything else is good

I am 20 year old female

And my insurance is ameriben

So what are you eating today? Whether you have the lapband or not. Maybe it will give me some good ideas for next years superbowl when I have a band

CONGRATULATIONS on your decision! Be sure to read, research and ask questions. This forum is great!

I would also suggest that, if possible, see the therapist regularly before having the surgery. With the negativity you are living with you will need re-enforcement to get through this and succeed.

About this quote:

"He told me that I'm not committed. That nothing was going to change except that I would have wasted a bunch of money and have something around my stomach. He says that I will get even lazier than I am now because of the less calories. He said a lot of other stuff that I can't really remember because I was so upset at that point. I spent the rest of the night crying while he went to sleep..."

I have a (or a couple of) question(s): Would somone that loves you EVER say something so hurtful and demeaning? Three years IS a long time (for someone young ...for me it's just a blink of the eye -- but I'm ooooolllllddd ... LOL), but how much longer are you willing to allow someone (and it could be anyone) beat you up emotionally? Is that really love? Would you REALLY miss being treated in this manner, if you said goodbye? And, if you would miss this (and I can't say that I don't understand, cuz I do), then you really should spend time with a therapist so that you can learn about your worth as a person -- NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WEIGH.

I wish you the best. Please take good care of yourself and keep us posted on your progress.

~Fran

I do actually see a therapist on a regular basis. And he really isn't like this that much anymore, he use to be when we were starting out, but after a few times of me kicking his ass for doing that he almost completely stopped. Unfortunately, he sounds just like my dad, this seems like exactly something my dad would say. I am kind of use to it, but don't worry, I'm not letting him abuse me. I kicked his ass again.

I made him promise that he won't say anything negative anymore. It could have come from that I told him he couldn't talk about my weight anymore, and he hadn't in such a long time and he is so worried about me having surgery and getting hurt that he lost his cool.

But he is going to support me now, and I told him that he will buy me a pillow pet for me to have in the hospital the Mr. Bear. So I will call him Mr. Bandy Bear

Thanks everybody. He did wind up apologizing, but I don't really feel like he is actually sorry for saying it.

I am actually planning on having the surgery in April because my insurace covers this surgery like any other surgery, meaning that if the doctor says I need it than that is all the authorization they need. That is fantastic for me. I am meeting with the surgeon on the 14th. And the funny thing is that his name is Dr. Valentine

So last night I went to the seminar with my boyfriend (of 3 years) and my mother. I got pretty emotional towards the end because it almost sounded like I was too big to have the lap band. But on talking with the doctor he thinks he can do it for me.

However, on the car ride home I started hearing some pretty nasty things from my boyfriend. When I first talked to him about Lap band he was so accepting and nice about it, but I guess something just made him change his mind.

He told me that I'm not committed. That nothing was going to change except that I would have wasted a bunch of money and have something around my stomach. He says that I will get even lazier than I am now because of the less calories. He said a lot of other stuff that I can't really remember because I was so upset at that point. I spent the rest of the night crying while he went to sleep...

I guess this really isn't a question and it doesn't have much merit, I was just upset and wanted to vent to some people that might know what I'm talking about.

Hello, I am from Boise! I want to know if anybody did the lapband through saint alphonses and what you have to go through to be approved and stuff like that.

I am having a panic attack today about my decision. So to put my mind at ease I would like some information from fellow band members

What is a good shopping list for me to make sure I have for the first few weeks. What were your favorite things to have after the surgery.

What should I take to the hospital? I will stay overnight, so what will I need.

Please tell me about what you had to go through to be allowed to have the surgery and your surgery story.

I think the answers to these things will help me feel better. Thanks everybody!

I'll be here, and I can be your friend if you want. I really need somebody to talk to also. I am very concerned. Maybe you can send me a message and we can be buddies

Can you tell me what requirements you had to go through for the pre op and how long that took?

My name is Gayle. I am 20 years old from Idaho. I have been struggling with weight for so long, and found out two years ago that I am severely hypothyroid. Even though I am being medicated for that I am having such a hard time losing weight. For me it takes all or nothing, and unfortunately when I work so hard to lose just a few pounds for some reason my mind gives up and doesn't care, and I can't make it care. I am seriously considering the LapBand, going to a seminar this Wednesday.

Any information or stories you guys could tell me about it would be great!