i love your post because i posted almost the exact same thing a few minutes ago. but from a professional side i hope i can help shed some light on some of your fears. i am a pre-operative, recovery and intensive care rn. your surgery will only be about 40 min. it takes longer to get you on the operating table, put you to sleep and wake you up than it does to do the procedure. when you wake up you will probably not have any idea where you are and you will be so surprised that it is all over. don't be surprised if you are really tired and possibly a little nauseated. some people have no trouble with the nausea. pain meds are no big deal. there is very little risk of becoming "addicted". make sure to take them with something in your stomach such as juice because they can make you sick. the biggest side effect of pain meds is constipation, and the best thing for that is walking and Water. walking will also help your breathing /lungs after surgery, help to stretch the muscles in your stomach, prevent blood clots, and help elevate your mood. so walk!
I have previously lost 70 lbs and i struggled with it emotionally. i found myself almost mourning the loss. i did not know how to deal with my new body. i mourned that my clothes no longer fit. i didn't know how to handle guys checking me out in the gym. i had always thought i would be fat, so the concept of me being a hottie was hard to accept or deal with. i will say this though, it gets better. i got used to the idea of it. i loved being able to go into any store and try on anything! i didn't have to look for the biggest size and pray that i could get it up over my fat thighs.
i'm sure your husband is a little scared as well. how will you change? will he lose what he loves about you?
i wish you the very best! trust me, i'm freaking out as well to be banded jan 7.