~*~Rachel~*~

My husband and I have been married for two years. We have been together since 2005. We have always had a up and down relationship but for the most part he has always supported me in any choices I have ever made. We have discussed me getting the band and my weight loss he is also over weight and I tried to get him to go through this with me. One of my reasons for doing this is we want a child but he and I want to be healthy before we start having children. I have high blood pressure and want a safe pregnancy. So to my main question I see a lot of people saying there marriage has ended or is on the rocks after lap band. Is this a common problem out there? Not that it would effect my decision but I believe this is a big change not just for me but for him as well. I have said over the past few weeks one of my main stressors pre op is I don't know how to do the things I do know after surgery something as simple as making my husband a meal seems overwhelming to me post surgery.. Any suggestions on a one band marriage? I am hoping to do well and inspire him to start living a healthy life as well.

Glad you are doing well and everything went okay! I am becoming obsessed with these forums waiting on pins and needles each time someone says they are having surgery to see how they are doing... really helping my stress level since I am only a few weeks away!

He is at Trinity Medical center. Really nervous!! I have to do the same thing go for 7 months instead of six since the first did not count. I will have my last apt dec. 30th and that afternoon I should be able to submit for approval. My nurse in Dr. T's office said since I had blue cross blue sheild it should only take 15 mins to get approved. After that I will have a surgery date she said mid to late jan!

I am having Lap band with advance surgical weight loss Dr Tulliotus more then likely Mid Jan. Anyone else out there used this office? I go for my pre op classes with my nut, fitness instructor, and mental health advisor on the 29th.. I have met with Dr T and he seems wonderful...

Rachel, you sound just like me! I've been stressing the whole grocery shopping/cooking thing; food smells so good! But I know I won't be able to eat like I used to yet my husband needs to GAIN weight so I don't want to skimp out on him either...*sigh* I've noticed this past week I've been on somewhat of a feeding frenzy; haven't gained any weight (thank God) but I just can't seem to stop eating. Maybe subconsciously I'm preparing for starting my diet on the 27th...I don't know. I haven't had the wave of emotion hit me yet; it all still feels very surreal to me. I hope it doesn't all hit me the day of surgery; that would be bad...

So glad to hear you say you are feeling it too. I am doing this incredible bold move to make my health better but at the same time I feel like I don't know enough. I go for my classes on the 29th my final six month apt on the 30 and that afternoon I should be scheduled for surgery. So I should start my preop diet NEXT WEEK!. I feel I have been so focused on getting through the formality of the process that I have just now come to a realization that I am really doing this. Now I am on a non stop hunt for information hence how I got here.

I know exactly how you feel. I am in the last steps before surgery and feel so overwhelmed. So much to consider and dedicate to. Its the little stuff that is causing me such anxiety like how do I buy groceries now.... what will it be like to cook for my husband knowing I can't eat it... is there some hidden secret that I do not know? I have tried to research as much as possible but all I see is people talking about the feeling of two stomachs and gas pain after surgery. Is it silly for me to have a sort of separation anxiety with all the foods I love? I feel stupid for having such anxiety about being scared to eat! There are good points to this roller coaster I am on.. I am looking forward to being out of pain both emotionally and physically. I feel as if I am holding my breath and closing my eyes tight and jumping into a black hole praying the other side is a heaven I could never imagine. I go for some classes this next week and maybe when I have more education I will feel better but I can't help but wonder is anyone else free falling with me?

I am 27 years old and have been over weight my entire life. I went to my first lap band seminar in May of 2009 but decided to wait on surgery since I had just got married. To date I have finished my pre-op six month and met with my surgeon. I am expecting surgery mid January. I am a registered nurse and trying to find all the information I can on what works well for others such as recipes and tricks for coping with life after banding. I am beginning to be very nervous! Any advise, websites, secrets! HELP!