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After doing a bunch of reading and asking around, I have learned that the insurance company needs a five year history of being overweight. I know that my Doctor only has 3 years....Oh Dear God, please let this be OK. I can show them a lifetime of embarrassing chubby pictures. Everything else should be all set. Since I learned of this I haven't been able to sleep. I'm afraid of calling the insurance company too many times. This has to happen....with insurance. If it isn't covered with insurance, I can not do it. I just can't justify paying out of pocket when I have two beautiful babies who need so many costly things. Please Please Please Let it be covered.

Hi Tammyj, I'm in the same boat, I'm not quite getting the motivating response I so desperatly hope for from my family either. I told my sister and at first she was cool about it but when she heard what it was all about(not a quick fix) she kind of changed her tune on it. I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it because with my past weightloss experiances .....if I tell everyone one about it, it almost seems like I'm destined to fail. Well, I guess that is what we (here at lapbandtalk) are all here for! Good Luck and I'm looking forward to reading all about your success! Nicole

Tonight I wanted to talk to my mother about the surgery but I just couldn't muster up enough guts to open up to her. I know I want this and I know this is what I need to do but, for some reason, if my mother doesn't aprove, I feel like I'm going to be in big trouble if I go against what she feels is right. WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY? I AM 33 YEARS OLD!!!!! :frusty: On a lighter note I have been able to meet some really nice people on this site. I am new at all of this and very thankful to the people who have been so kind in helping me out (Sherry and Wendy). Thank you for being so supportive.....it is excactly what I need! :cheer2:

Tonight I wanted to talk to my mother about the surgery but I just couldn't muster up enough guts to open up to her. I know I want this and I know this is what I need to do but, for some reason, if my mother doesn't aprove, I feel like I'm going to be in big trouble if I go against what she feels is right. WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY? I AM 33 YEARS OLD!!!!! :frusty: On a lighter note I have been able to meet some really nice people on this site. I am new at all of this and very thankful to the people who have been so kind in helping me out (Sherry and Wendy). Thank you for being so supportive.....it is excactly what I need! :cheer2:

Sherry, That is a great idea....I am going to write out a list of facts and also what bothers me physically about being overweight. I think this will work to my advantage because I often times turn into mush when in front of a Doctor. I am totally ready for this now, I have read about this surgery, I have watched the surgery performed by Dr. Vernon at B&W Hospital and I have now gone to a seminar and spoken with the surgeon. I am convinced and so excited to put this into action. I know it is going to be hard work but every time it gets tuff I'll look at my children and know that this is why I am doing this. I'll take you up on pming you....I'm sure I'll have lots of questions ahead of me. You are more than welcome to pm me any time too! I know you are further than I am in this Quest but its always nice to have another new friend to talk or vent to! Nicole Wendy, Thanks for responding. Did your Doctor send in the referral to tufts or did you go to the surgeons office first? I'm interested to hear how it all turns out, please keep us posted on any news! Best of luck! Oh, I'm always at Rockingham Mall!!! You can pm me any time too! :clap2: Nicole

Hello, Anyone know how hard/easy to deal with Tufts Navigator PPO insurance for getting the Lapband procedure? Thanks in advance!

Hi Tracy, I wish I had as much knowledge as you! I am currently starting up the process myself. I have an apt. next tues. with my primary care doc. hopefully for a referral. Then I will have to go down the insurance road myself. Thanks for your help, through your threads, I feel like I am learning more about how insurance co. work! Good luck on your journey! Nicole

Happy New year Sherry! I agree with you about telling a hand full of people, the only problem is telling my mother. I know I really should because she is going to find out at some point and be really hurt that I didn't confide in her. I also have to remember that when I told her I was interested in going to a seminar, she said ..."Why did you have to tell me that?" My mother and I are best friends and I am a person who can not tell a fib to save my life. If I do tell my inlaws, it will be after the surgery.....I'm so afraid of everyone trying to talk me out of it! I have just started on this journey. I went to the seminar last Thursday night. I have made an apt. with my doctor (on the 9th) for a visit and with lots of luck a referral to have this surgery. I haven't made the apt. with Dr. Jones yet because I want to know that I have the referral first. I'm just nervous that somthing will go wrong. I am a little under 5.4 feet and weigh 251lbs Ugh! I know I fit the qualifications with that. I don't have any health problems other than aches and pains and numbness in my arms from being overweight. I have been overweight for 28 years.....I am 33 years old. I'm going to check out that BIDMC thread, that great! Thanks so much for taking the time and helping me. Your knowledge and experiance is very valuable to me! Your new friend, Nicole:tea:

Hi Sherry, I'll be traveling from Salem, NH. It will be a bit of a hike but the nice thing is that my husbands folks live right down the street from Beth Isreal. They are always willing to watch the kids. I'm not sure though, if I want to tell anyone about the surgery. At the seminar I spoke to Dr. Jones, he seemed very nice and totally trustworthy. I am so excited about this, but I don't want to set myself up to be disapointed if it doesn't go through. Is it wrong that I already have visions of myself borrowing my sisters clothes?:nervous Thanks so much for your help...you're awsome! Nicole

Thanks Sherri, Thats encouraging news. I just started my journey to lapland. I went to a seminar at Beth Isreal hospital in Boston Ma on thursday night. Congrats on your weightloss, I saw your weight tracker....WOW! I hope to be were you are soon! Was the whole start up process a drag or did it go pretty smoothly? Do I need to have my primary care physician refer me for the surgery? I have an apointment with her on the 7th. Thanks so much for your reply, this site is really just the encouragment I was looking for. Nicole

Well, I went to the seminar and .....this is it. I am going to make this happen. It was so reassuring to see so many other people just like me. After reading a lot of the posts one of my first questions was that I wanted to know how long the liquid diet pre and post op would be. To my surprise, he said that all he would like me to do is give up junk foood and excersise for 30 minutes a day 30 days before surgery. I am just itching to make this all happen. My primary cares doctors apt. isn't until January 7th so I'll have to sit tight until then. My husband was wonderful about the whole situation las night, he didn't make any jokes or critical comments about the surgury which I thought might become a problem. I know he is behind me 100% of the way. The only problem is opening up this can of worms to my mom. Yikes! I'm so afraid she'll try and talk me out of it!:argue:

Well, I went to the seminar and .....this is it. I am going to make this happen. It was so reassuring to see so many other people just like me. After reading a lot of the posts one of my first questions was that I wanted to know how long the liquid diet pre and post op would be. To my surprise, he said that all he would like me to do is give up junk foood and excersise for 30 minutes a day 30 days before surgery. I am just itching to make this all happen. My primary cares doctors apt. isn't until January 7th so I'll have to sit tight until then. My husband was wonderful about the whole situation las night, he didn't make any jokes or critical comments about the surgury which I thought might become a problem. I know he is behind me 100% of the way. The only problem is opening up this can of worms to my mom. Yikes! I'm so afraid she'll try and talk me out of it!

OK, here we go. I am going tonight to a seminar in Boston at Beth Isreal Hospital to hear all about the lapband. Even though I have already done a lot of research on it already I am really excited and eager to hear all about it once again and hopfully meet the surgeon that will change my life for the better. Since this is my first entry I will list my goals that I hope the Lapband surgery will help me in accomplishing: 1. I want to live a long and happy life for my children. My children mean the world to me and I can't imagine leaving them earlier than I am supposed to due to this baggage I have carried around for a lifetime. 2. I want to feel and be healthy. My doctors always say that my number, points etc. are all perfect but I know personally, that I don't feel perfect. 3. I want to be more like the woman my husband married. When we dated I was about 40 lbs less than what I am now. I was a lot more fun to be with, a lot more sure of myself. Now I never want to hang out with our group of friends because I am totally ashamed of how I look. 4. I want to be able to get dressed up for a special occasion without ending up in tears. I also want to be able to put pantyhose on without ending up all sweaty and out of breath. 5. I want to be able to borrow clothes. 6. I want to be able to shop at any store. 7. I want to sleep without my arms falling asleep. 8. I want to be able to walk on my feet without giving them time to adjust to the weight they are about to carry all day. 9. I want to be able to wear shorts and sleeveless shirts without the side effects of chub rub. 10. I want to stop sweating all the time. 11. I want to stop trying to hide lumps and bumps. 12. I want my boobs to get smaller so that my back stops hurting. 13. I would like to be invited to a pool party without that sudden fear. 14. I would like to chase after my children and enjoy it. 16. I would like to buy a halloween cosume that will fit me. 17. I would like to fall in that catagory as one size fits all. 18. I want to look tidy, not messy. 19. I want to stop fearing the airplane seat. 20. I would like to jog. 22. I would like to wear boots that go up to my knee. They have never fit my calf before. 24. I would like to stop getting dressed in the closet when my husband is in the room. ( this one should be #3) 25. I would like to take my clothes off and not have an impression of them still an hour later. I'm sure there are hundreds of other wishes but these have been on my mind most this year. Please who ever is wathching listening or reading hear my prayers or if you don't believe in that hocus pocus just send a little good energy my way. Words cannot explain how much I want this all to happen.

OK, here we go. I am going tonight to a seminar in Boston at Beth Isreal Hospital to hear all about the lapband. Even though I have already done a lot of research on it already I am really excited and eager to hear all about it once again and hopfully meet the surgeon that will change my life for the better. Since this is my first entry I will list my goals that I hope the Lapband surgery will help me in accomplishing: 1. I want to live a long and happy life for my children. My children mean the world to me and I can't imagine leaving them earlier than I am supposed to due to this baggage I have carried around for a lifetime. 2. I want to feel and be healthy. My doctors always say that my number, points etc. are all perfect but I know personally, that I don't feel perfect. 3. I want to be more like the woman my husband married. When we dated I was about 40 lbs less than what I am now. I was a lot more fun to be with, a lot more sure of myself. Now I never want to hang out with our group of friends because I am totally ashamed of how I look. 4. I want to be able to get dressed up for a special occasion without ending up in tears. I also want to be able to put pantyhose on without ending up all sweaty and out of breath. 5. I want to be able to borrow clothes. 6. I want to be able to shop at any store. 7. I want to sleep without my arms falling asleep. 8. I want to be able to walk on my feet without giving them time to adjust to the weight they are about to carry all day. 9. I want to be able to wear shorts and sleeveless shirts without the side effects of chub rub. 10. I want to stop sweating all the time. 11. I want to stop trying to hide lumps and bumps. 12. I want my boobs to get smaller so that my back stops hurting. 13. I would like to be invited to a pool party without that sudden fear. 14. I would like to chase after my children and enjoy it. 16. I would like to buy a halloween cosume that will fit me. 17. I would like to fall in that catagory as one size fits all. 18. I want to look tidy, not messy. 19. I want to stop fearing the airplane seat. 20. I would like to jog. 22. I would like to wear boots that go up to my knee. They have never fit my calf before. 24. I would like to stop getting dressed in the closet when my husband is in the room. ( this one should be #3) 25. I would like to take my clothes off and not have an impression of them still an hour later. I'm sure there are hundreds of other wishes but these have been on my mind most this year. Please who ever is wathching listening or reading hear my prayers or if you don't believe in that hocus pocus just send a little good energy my way. Words cannot explain how much I want this all to happen.

Hi, I just started my search too! I am going to my first seminar on Thursday. So should I expect to go to the surgeon first or do I need to go to my Primary care doc first? Any help is much apreciated! Nicole

Thank you very much to you all for getting back to me! I am still so new at this, I didn't even know how to check what replies I got. Brigims and Womans is right down the street from my hubbys parents house so that would be really nice to have it done their. I saw all your pics and you all look great! Thanks again, Nicole

Hello, I have just started doing the research of this lapband procedure and I can't tell you how excited I am about it! I didn't even know that this existed! I am going on the 28th to a seminar to hear all about it. I have scheduled an apt. with my doctor to talk to her about it. Would any of you know of a good Doctor in the Boston area? I would appreciate any recomondations. I looked at the before and after pictures and ended up in tears....you all look so great.....and happy! Thanks, Nicole :help: