I have three sisters. One is 10 years older than me, one is my twin, and the other is 6 years younger than me.

At first, I was hesitant to tell them I wanted to have surgery. My eldest sister is the cute, stylish, and always put together one. My twin is the tiny petite one and my little sis is the young and hip one. My title has always been "the fat one". So I was a little apprehensive about sharing my desire to have weight loss surgery. My thought was they would think I was taking the easy way out. So I did not say anything right away. When I finally got word that insurance would cover the surgery (after being denied first and resubmitting) I new it was time to tell. To my surprise they were all three very supportive and excited for me. :confused: Even in the beginning after surgery they would congratulate me when I told them how much weight I was down or would give me rave reviews about how I looked. This all sounds great doesn't it??????

Times have a changed! I am nearing my goal and have officially gone down a whole size smaller than two of my sisters and I am the same size as one of them. Talk about a complete turn around (there attitudes I mean). I get comments like "What size are those jeans???" it the snottiest of tones. My younger sister even said to me "You are no better than a bulimic, because if you eat too much you get sick." How RUDE!:biggrin:

So I am at a loss for what to do or say. I have gotten to the point where I don't even want to spend time with them. So the question is, Is it better to be "the fat sister"? and still have your sis's or be the "slim sister" and have them green with envy?

I wish I could make them realize that none of this ever had anything to do with the way I look, but with the way I feel. They should be able to realize that I am happier and healthier than I have ever been. My hope is that eventually they will get over the jealousy and embrace the fact that how we look is not a competition!

I think of the many times my weight made me feel miserable and my sisters new just how to make it worse. I will give one example. We were at our Aunts for our grandmothers birthday. We were all sitting at a table and it was cramped. I ended up sitting in a spot that had a cabinet behind it and I was so squished in it was uncomfortable. I quietly asked my sister to switch spots with me, as there was nothing behind her giving more room. She refused and on top of that she loudly made such a stink about it that my cousin across the room offered me her chair because she could see how embarrassed I was. I was completely humiliated. :grouphug:

Sisters can be our best friends and our worst enemies. I also have 3 sisters and 1 brother. At a 37.7 BMI I'm the skinny sibling (well, my brother may be about the same). I'm also the only one who is constantly going on diets and losing major weight only to gain it back. We're very close, but I've seen other things become competitions before and I don't need any of that. I haven't told any of them and don't intend to (although I may change my mind someday). They'll just think I'm on another whacky diet. I know they wouldn't understand and they would definitely think this was the 'easy way' out. I've thought about how I would handle it if they did know and were unkind and I kept coming back to the fact that I'm doing this for me and no one else. I'm getting healthy for me and if they can't understand that or treat it like a competition then that's their issue with their self-image, not mine. Time will change this for you as they get used to the new you and your happy self!

I have one sister. She is probably 50 pounds heavier than me. She announced at Christmas that she is going to Weight Watchers (again). I'm having my surgery in two days but haven't told anyone but my husband and a friend who is a nurse. It's very private for me. My weight is an embarrassment and humiliating to me. After I have the surgery and get back home I may tell a few other friends but doubt if I ever tell my relatives. (They live in another state.) This is for me and I don't want delayed advice, comments, or sabatoge.