Just another day

I so sad today. I have to ask my daughter for the car she is driving. She got it three years ago and said she would pay for it. She hasn't made a payment yet. I just can't pay for it anymore. I don't know why she doesn't at least give me some money. I could work with that. I told her to at least give me some money weekly. I know she has 4 kids and husband that can't or won't work. I know without the car she can't get to work. I told her that the house payment and the car payment are the 1st thing you pay each month. Without the car she can't get to work. I didn't want the grandkids riding around in a piece of junk. We signed for this car when she was getting a divorce, and she is remarried to a bum. I can't believe she puts up with all his excuses about find a job. She can't even buy a car because he has ruined her credit. I just don't know what to do. I love her, but I can't keep bailing her out of messes. She is 31 years old. She has just taken on her husbands child whos mother decided that she didn't want the child anymore. She has 5 kids in that small house, which I help her buy. I just don't know what to do. If her father my DH finds out that I'm still helping her He will be so mad at me. I'm such a mess. No wonder I can't seem to diet very good. So much stress. So much anger. So much hunger.

I'm so sorry to read about your troubles. It definitely interferes with dieting. Don't give up things will get better & work out. As for your daughter, I can only imagine what you're going through. On one hand it's hard to not want to help her because she is your daughter but on the other hand, she made her bed & now she must lye in it. It's not right for you to have to pay her bills. She should show more grattitude. Keep your head up.

Tgirl

there are times you have to look out for yourself..if u are paying all your bills and have the money extra i think its ok to help her, help her instead of getting yourself new household items etc, but if u dont have the extra money after taking care of your home you shouldnt feel obligated to continue to help her especially being that she should chose a man that would help her financially instead of her mom having to do it.. in other words take care of your own household totally before feeling you owe it to her... as parents we get this a lot..if she is doing the best she can that is one thing but if she doesnt use her money wisely at your expence thats another deal..if u have to get the money from her dont feel bad.. thats life we all have to pay for what we need. hope all goes well and look out for yourself along the way... losing weight will make you feel good about yourself.. take care...Brenda