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Feeling Alone...

By jessicalee196

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I was debating on posting this but finally decided that I would because I'm sure someone out there is or has gone through this and might be able to give me some advice. Support my family supports me through anything and everything even with the decision to get this surgery they have encouraged me to continue to eat healthy and loose weight so that I can be approved for this surgery. Even through having this ankle surgery and being stuck in bed my mom has made me protein shakes and gotten me all healthy stuff instead of the easy junk food snacks. This means a lot because my mom has her own health issues and is fighting stage four breast cancer and she is tired and sick a lot so it means a lot that she is taking the extra time to prepare the healthy stuff for me to eat. Now that is all positive but there is also a huge negative side. My fiancé does not encourage me at all, he is extremely overweight and I have begged him to go through this with me so we can be healthy and his response constantly is " I will eat whatever I want I like junk food so that's what I'm going to eat." and then when I say well you could die early and I don't want that I need you here, he replies with this " I'll die whenever I at least I got to eat what I wanted." He hates the idea that I am getting this surgery and I get absolutely no support from him and he is the person I need it from the most. This is extremely hard and I don't want it to end our relationship but I can't constantly be brought down. He constantly brings me junk food and tempts me to eat it and when we are out he is always going through drive throughs and it is very hard to have self control when he is eating what I really want right in front of me. If anyone else has gone through this please leave me some advice in the comments, I am really struggling right now. I love him but I also want to be healthy and feel good about myself! PLEASE HELP!

 

PS: the picture included in todays post is a mickey wreath I made since I am stuck in bed! (my family is completely obsessed with Disney!)

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    Pairadice

    Gastric Bypass Patients

    Hello Jessicalee196,

    Ok Pitty party is over kid...this is your journey, your decision, your health, your life. I believe when I made up my mind to do this for myself everything else was easy.

    Here's the thing...I can only tell you that no matter what you decide what to do with your life if it's taking a new job, starting a new diet, or jumping off the deep end, someone near and dear to you will have to put in their own two cents.

    Do what makes you happy, stare the junk food down and overcome. When you find that strength it is so empowering. You will be able to say to the boyfriend, (that's ok honey, if you want pizza you can have pizza, or a burger or what ever) but you can remind him that you want him to be healthy too.

    Maybe teach him how to make healthier choices.

    After the surgery I had (gastric bypass) you quickly learn their is no turning back.

    It is scary but at the same time exciting.

    Their is a new saying it says 'Lean Inn' get ready for all that is in front of you, if the relationship is meant to last the test of time it will, if not get ready for a new beginning. Be ready to take control, no excuses like the boyfriend made you eat something bad. Your giving up your power. I know that your afraid, but you don't have to be. (you got me :)

    Stay Kool...

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    Gastric Sleeve Patients

    IT sounds to me that he is not concerned about his own health and not about yours either. To have a partner like that but to be so clearly nonsupportive, I do not think that shows a good future for your relationship. If he does not want to take any responsibility for his health, you are going to have to take care of him, risk of diabetes, stroke. Take care of yourself and find someone who really cares about you, so wants to be there for your future together.

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