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Banding and dating?

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fool4dance

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I was banded on the 20th of July and thus far have had one fill. I am scheduled for my second fill on Thursday.

I, of course, have since surgery met a really cool guy. We have been enjoying getting to know each other. A few coffees and meals have been shared. Mark asked me the other day how is it I survive on so little food. He's chided me about how slow I eat. He doesn't know.

When would you tell someone your seeing? I am starting to think he might be around for a while. We have dates planned for the future. I can't keep saying I'm just not hungry or that I'm trying to eat healthier.

I have told my very nearest and dearest friends. I haven't even told my mother (who would make it about her) or my brother (the body building wife sculpting/fake parts critic) or anyone that I work with.

It's very personal to me. From the support I get from Mark about working out and eating healthy it's hard to say if he would understand or find it too much.

Thoughts?

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He is going to have to know sooner or later and it might be worse if you wait too long. If he is being open with you and finds out you are holding back a major thing then he might be hurt. Besides, if he can't understand then he is not the right guy for you anyways.

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If he really cares about you as a person, he will support you in this weight lost process. Therefore, you need to be honest and let him know. Like stated prior by PrairieDawn- if he isn't not supportive or understanding of you having the band get rid of him early. When people really love and care for you, they want the very best for you as well.

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I agree with the prior posts. Even though it is none of his business it will still stop the questions or comments. I went out with someone and I told him on the first date just to avoid why I wouldn't be eating all my food and chewing like a thousand times!!!! I just threw it in the conversation while we were trying to decide on what to eat. I was like by the way I won't be eating a lot because I have a band on my stomach and he thought it was cool! He laughed and said well from now on I only got to get you happy meals! LOL!

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I agree with all of the above comments! Plus god forbid if you have a stuck episode..those are hard to hide sometimes. Another thing now for me is..if you were intimate your port would be very noticeable (or at least mine is). When I go to a doctor who hasn't seen me and they do an examine they always are like.."what is that" and then they what to learn all about it. Anyway, that is my two cents about it. Have fun dating!

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