To tell or not tell

There's been quite a bit of dicussion about telling or not telling the world that we are thinking about or had the lab band procedure. I have to say that I am torn about this.

I have told my spouse (very supportive as you can read in a previous entry), my daughters (not so supportive), my son (doesn't feel I need it but "whatever you think is right mom) my mom (that's a lot of money that could be spent on a really fun trip) and two people at work (one really positive one with a funny look)

My husband says we should shout it from the mountain tops then everyone can be supportive and cheer you on. I am more reserved because I've failed before.

I think in the end, we neeed to ignore the rest of the world and decide what is best for us. Not the family, not the hubby, not the kids not everyone else. Perhaps the key is are we trying to "cheat" and think this will be a magic bullet or are we addressing health issues and improving our quality of life? If it's the latter, would we question exercising, taking a necesary medication or going to a physician?

I believe lab band should be no different. The difference is that people don't ask about doctor appointments, the medicine we are taking or our exercise regiman. When we start showing weight loss, people will not hesitate to dwell, question or badger.

My plan is to take the two weeks off that I am on the liquid diet and at least 2 weeks off after my surgery. Knowing myself, I know that I will have trouble when it will be so obvious that I am having to eat (or drink) differently. I hope this will help me get off to a more positive (and personal) start.

On the plus side, I managed to exercise 4 out of 7 days this week. Nothing too taxing, but really trying to start getting into better habits.

I think this has to be a choice made by each individual. I was banded May 28th and feel so blessed to be on this journey. I am actually proud of it. This is not an easy way out. I am still dieting I am still not eating foods I love I am still excercising which I have always hated I am still doing the work. The advantage to the band is it just helps to give me enough will power to do it every day day in day out. When people say Oh my gosh you look so good I smile say thank you and say I had a lap band done in May it has been such a blessing. Like I said it has to be an individuals decision, no right, no wrong. Good luck and God bless.

I know just how you feel. I felt you were singing my song. My very supporting husband who loves my at any size, shape or look has ben the only one that has known. I told my sibs today. And I decided any negetive words they my have belongs soley to them. May God Bless us all that take this journey.