I live with my brother and just confirmed to him that I would be doing lap band on 7-23-09. And he is mad. he says he doesn't support lap band but he'll support me. We're both obese and he's bigger than me by 100 lbs! I'm 250 and he's like 360 but tall. I'm trying not to be too sad but he's my closest support system. He thinks I'm being lazy and giving up because I'm doing the lap band and not losing weight the normal way but it's not working for me! Any body going through the same thing or have an encouraging word?

I would not worry about his opinion right now you have to do what is best for you and your health. I think you are making a good decision to improve your health. I read a few times were people are told they are just taking the easy way out but it is not that easy. You still have to watch what you eat and drink your water and exercise. Maybe when he sees what great progress you make he will want it to. Sometimes when there are two overweight people and one loses the other one gets scared that they will be left overweight alone.

keep your head up most of my obese family cant imagine getting banded either,my mom is like,oh now u cant eat,what do u mean ur not having a birthday cake this november, love yourself and do whats best for you,

Please don't feel that you are a failure for getting this surgery it's a journey you have chosen to open you to a new healthy lifestyle. As for your brother ask him to respect your decision to better yourself no matter how you go about it. Don't be sad because it's the best thing you could do for yourself. Losing weight the normal way doesn't always work it didn't for me and it's ok to have help along the way. Be healthy and strong in your decision and find positive support. Good Luck

thanks for the encouragement guy! i feel a lot better!!:blushing:

I hope your brother comes around once he sees that the surgery is a lot safe now then in years past and that he can be a big part of your success. He will quickly learn that losing weight even with the band is no walk in the park! You will work hard at it, probably harder than any "diet" or weight loss program you have been on.

Good luck to you and congratulations on making the decision to take control of your weight! I am sure glad I did. Who knows maybe seeing you accomplish your weight loss goals will persuade your brother to come over to this side too!

G'ma