Never again....

....will I be the "fat chick"

....will I be embarrassed because I can't fit on an amusement park ride

....will I be the fattest of all my friends

....will I not be able to shop at the GAP, AE, Holister, ec

....will I constantly be looking around when I enter a room to see who is making comments about my weight

....will I feel not good enough for a man because of my weight

....will I brake a chair because I am too fat

....will I wear big baggy clothes to cover up myself

....will I be ashamed to wear a bathing suit in public

....will I let my weight hold me back from doing the things I want to do

....will I get too tired chasing my little cousins around

....will I cry myself to sleep because I feel unworthy

....will I be a fat unhealthy person!

My surgery is this Friday, Aug. 7... I am starting to get nervous but wanted to write out what I WILL NEVER AGAIN be! This is my motivation to make this change in my life! I challenge you to write down what you never again will do/think... or what you have already excluded because of your weight loss!! Good luck to all!!!!!

Where r u located Eryka?

Good Morning kittkat2009, I live in San Antonio, Texas. how about you?

I am the same height and weight as you, and because I am tall and have a bigger body structure I carry my weight very well. Noone believes me that I weight 330lbs. When I first decided I was going to start the journey people kept saying no no no you're not big enough, blah blah blah. For the first time in my life I got the nerve to tell people how much I actually weighed. When people heard that I weight 330lbs they were in shock. It helped me get people on my side and understand why I needed to go through with this. The lap band is really a "safe" surgery... I am 4 weeks post op and haven't lost much but I am still in bandster hell. I get my first fill in 3 weeks and that should help start the weight loss. As you said, only you can make the choice but I think it would be an excellent one for you.

good morning! Thank you for posting your post, i felt like there actually is another person in this world who can totally relate to me. . . thank you so much, question though, what is banster hell? am I going to regret this No one has warned me about that . . what is it? I know, don't you just hate when people tell you " your not fat" "you don't need to lose weight" I love this one " fat people are happy people" yah right???? any how thanks for being there and thanks for understanding. . .

Just wanted to see how everyone is doing, this is a great thread!

I've lost the "bulk" of the weight I wanted to lose after surgery and am very happy with my size now (14-no W, just a regular 14!) although I do intend to keep losing. Now that I have a little prospective I wanted to post my list...

Never again...will I be the fat mom picking up my kids at school...now I'm the "Hot" mom

Never again...will I shop in the plus-sized section of ANY store. I only shop "normal" sizes. Went from 2x to L

Never again...will I hesitate to buy a tank top for fear of my flabby arms. My arms are getting toned and are "regular" not fat

Never again..will I wear capri pants in 100 degree heat in Florida because I'm embarassed to wear shorts

Never again...will I avoid shopping at The Forum (at Caesars) because I can't fit into anything at any store

Never again..will I wonder if my children are proud of me

OMG!

I felt like crying when i read this.

I want to be the hot mom at school!..lol

My 6 year old daughter is always tell me to lose all the extra pounds. Im in the process of get this done..looking for a good Dr. in Jersey.. I once was at 150 back in 2001 and im at 230.. boohoo

U inspired me!!!

OK, some from a guy.

Never again will I have to look at peoples faces hoping I don't sit next to them when I get on a plane.

Never again will I have to sit down like a lady when I go for a pee.

Never again will I be grateful to buy a shirt "just because it fits" and not because I like it.

Never again will I be ashamed to go swimming with my young daughter.

But most importantly.........

Never again will I ever let myself get in this condition again.

OK, some from a guy.

Never again will I have to look at peoples faces hoping I don't sit next to them when I get on a plane.

Never again will I have to sit down like a lady when I go for a pee.

Never again will I be grateful to buy a shirt "just because it fits" and not because I like it.

Never again will I be ashamed to go swimming with my young daughter.

But most importantly.........

Never again will I ever let myself get in this condition again.

I love the last one... NEVER AGAIN WILL I LET MYSELF GET IN THIS CONDITION... none of us will and we all have each other here for support!

good morning! Thank you for posting your post, i felt like there actually is another person in this world who can totally relate to me. . . thank you so much, question though, what is banster hell? am I going to regret this :thumbup: No one has warned me about that . . what is it? I know, don't you just hate when people tell you " your not fat" "you don't need to lose weight" I love this one " fat people are happy people" yah right???? any how thanks for being there and thanks for understanding. . .

Bandster Hell... well it's about the first 2-3 months after surgery. Most of it is "emotions" that you go through and doubting if you should of had the surgery to begin with. The first 10 days after surgery you are on a liquid diet. It's HELL! Honestly, if it wouldn't have been for this site I would have caved in, but everytime I felt so hungry and down and out I just came here and got picked right back up. This site truly is the greatest thing! So anyways... then after liquids its the mushy stage and then about a month out it's solid food. So, it's hell because you want to eat things that you can't and your emotions are playing with. Now, I didn't have gas problems but a lot of people will tell you they had awful painful gas.. thank God I was lucky.

I am 4 weeks post op and have only lost about 10lbs.. now this is part of bandster hell... you think you should be losing more weight but your body needs time to heal and get normal again. After you are able to get a fill you will start losing weight (I haven't had mine yet but people assure me)... So.... most of it really is mental and emotional hell but it will be so worth it in the end.

Thank you so much for this thread! Truly inspiring to me because I'm on day one (of two) of Clear Liquids before my surgery- Spent the evening watching food Porn.

Here are my never agains:

I will never again see the inside of Lane Bryant, Avenue, Ashley Stewart, Catherines, or the Encore dept at Nordstorm.

I will never again have people say to me that I'd be so much prettier if I "really tried" to lose the weight.

I will never again say no to those ultra sexy heels.

I will never again be a size 24.

I will never again use food to make myself feel better.

I will never again change clothes 4 times before going to work because the mirror shows just how big a size 24 really is. (Next time, I'll change because I can't decide which outfit is cuter!)

:thumbup:

Current weight 300

Surgery Date: 9/9/09

I am just about to have my 6th month visit. I have jumped through most of the hoops, but I have to wait for insurance approval.

I feel really nervous. I guess that is normal. I don't want to hope for too much fearing that my attempts at weight loss will be crushed again. You know that scenario, lose 3 lb. and gain 5 lb. yo-yo. Well that's what I am afraid of. I can just hear the "I told you so" coming from my husband :sad: and family. For them to tell me that I went through all this and spent all this money for nothing!:mad:

Deep breath. This too shall pass.

Don't worry about what your family may or may not say. You are doing this for you. Stay focused on you -- for once.

Dore

GREAT inspiration! Loved it! Good luck and God Bless ya Girl!

AMEN! You go Girl!

Bandster Hell... well it's about the first 2-3 months after surgery. Most of it is "emotions" that you go through and doubting if you should of had the surgery to begin with. The first 10 days after surgery you are on a liquid diet. It's HELL! Honestly, if it wouldn't have been for this site I would have caved in, but everytime I felt so hungry and down and out I just came here and got picked right back up. This site truly is the greatest thing! So anyways... then after liquids its the mushy stage and then about a month out it's solid food. So, it's hell because you want to eat things that you can't and your emotions are playing with. Now, I didn't have gas problems but a lot of people will tell you they had awful painful gas.. thank God I was lucky.

I am 4 weeks post op and have only lost about 10lbs.. now this is part of bandster hell... you think you should be losing more weight but your body needs time to heal and get normal again. After you are able to get a fill you will start losing weight (I haven't had mine yet but people assure me)... So.... most of it really is mental and emotional hell but it will be so worth it in the end.

Thank you so much for explaining that to me. . . yes I can just imagine, it's like being on a non-band diet, you work so hard at it and in the end you've lost MAYBE 10 lbs. . . it's so very discouraging. . . I haven't even been banded yet but i find this site extremely helpful. . . so many new friends who have been through this and can totally relate to what your going through. . when I get banded this site will become my second family! Who knows, might even become my first! hehehehe :thumbup:

Don't worry about what your family may or may not say. You are doing this for you. Stay focused on you -- for once.

Dore

Thanks, I needed that kick in the butt.

Sometimes, I just think that everyone is judging me. I guess they are, but it's the little innuendos that hurt so much. Even my medical doctor reminded me again today that this is a lifestyle change. I feel like I can't live up to that big change.

Thanks, I needed that kick in the butt.

Sometimes, I just think that everyone is judging me. I guess they are, but it's the little innuendos that hurt so much. Even my medical doctor reminded me again today that this is a lifestyle change. I feel like I can't live up to that big change.

OK! That last sentence "I feel like I can't live up to that big change" that totally sounds like your setting yourself up for failure. I'm sorry you feel that way, but honey, why did you do this band thing? You did it cause you were unhappy with how your life had become, and now with the band your still unhappy? I'm not trying to sound judgemental or like the shrink next door, but it's so clear to see here that your unhappy. Maybe try new things, plant a flower, watch it grow, go shop, take a walk (its amazing what that can do) or chat with another friend. But before you can succeed you must change in the sad you. Depression hurts, it hurts more than being hit, I know! Been there done that. . .but I made a pac with myself that I would never let that demon possess me ever again. . . and you know what, I WON!!!! No more pills, no more shrinks, it's just me and like me, you too can and WILL WIN the battle. . .

OK! That last sentence "I feel like I can't live up to that big change" that totally sounds like your setting yourself up for failure. I'm sorry you feel that way, but honey, why did you do this band thing? You did it cause you were unhappy with how your life had become, and now with the band your still unhappy? I'm not trying to sound judgemental or like the shrink next door, but it's so clear to see here that your unhappy. Maybe try new things, plant a flower, watch it grow, go shop, take a walk (its amazing what that can do) or chat with another friend. But before you can succeed you must change in the sad you. Depression hurts, it hurts more than being hit, I know! Been there done that. . .but I made a pac with myself that I would never let that demon possess me ever again. . . and you know what, I WON!!!! No more pills, no more shrinks, it's just me and like me, you too can and WILL WIN the battle. . .

Haven't had it yet. I am just apprehensive. Just afraid of going through so much. People always watching how well you are doing. Too much pressure. LOL I know once I start losing, I will feel better about it. Thanks. I appreciate the great advice.

Haven't had it yet. I am just apprehensive. Just afraid of going through so much. People always watching how well you are doing. Too much pressure. LOL I know once I start losing, I will feel better about it. Thanks. I appreciate the great advice.

I'm sorry, I thought you were banded already. . I'm not banded either, and have a hubbie whom it took 1 1/2 years just to convince to go to a seminar, he still hasn't said go ahead. . . but at this point, I'm going to get it regardless. . . I think what would be good would be not to tell anyone about your plans. . . just get it done and carry on. . . when they start noticing your losing weight and ask about it, just smile and say "ancient chinese secret" and carry on. . . that is exactly what I plan on doing as well. . . Don't think of it as pressure or stress, think of it as an adventure that no one else is involved in, just you and us on this site. . . who knows you could have a lot of fun. . . well once again accept my ignorance on the matter. . . hope we can still share stories, and I'll let you know when I go for banding. . .