I was going to post this in unsupportive spouse but he is actually TOO supportive, well if there is such a thing. I was talking to him last night about the fact that I am really scared to fail the band.(I haven't been banded yet) Well he made the comment "I'll make sure you don't fail" I thought "Aww well thanks baby", until he made his next comment. "I will keep a food log for you, for thing you can and can't have and make sure you do your excersise everyday" He is military and is very strict when it comes to certian things. I am affraid he is going to start being a drill sergeant. And if I do fail then I am affraid he will hold it against me and resent me for it. This is the only thing i am scared of. I love my hubby very much but he can be very judgmental. He does support my decision but I think he might expect me to lose all my 105 lbs I need to lose over night.... You know what I mean. I try to explain everything but he thinks he knows it all....

Maybe if you tell him that while you definitely want/need his support, to a large extent this is YOUR journey. After all, he can't be w/you all the time, this is time for you (me too!) to truly become responsible for our own well-being. You're the one playing this game - he needs to be your number one cheerleader!!

Best of luck to you!!

I know what you mean, those soldiers...we love 'em but they are a little hard core in the exercise department. I work with the military, all day, 60 hrs a week. I have gotten similar comments. "You can march with us tomrrow morning" or "we'll have you start with 20 situps and work your way up". I appreciate the motivation but I'm obese and I have 10 years on most of them. I can't do more than 1 situp now let alone 20. I guess the best advise I could give you is to arm yourself with some ammunition from your nutritionist and trainer. When he offers to do your food log say "Oh thank you but my nutritionist already has a log and specifically asked me to fill it out daily" or "My trainer wants we to start out slow so I don't cause injury" Let the professionals advise be the polite way to say "no thank you".

explainl to him that if you don't learn to do it yourself...for yourself...including making your own mistakes to learn from, that you will fail. "what will i learn honey if you do it all for me"?

tell him to fight his battle (protecting the U.S.) and you'll fight yours.

good luck !!

explainl to him that if you don't learn to do it yourself...for yourself...including making your own mistakes to learn from, that you will fail. "what will i learn honey if you do it all for me"?

tell him to fight his battle (protecting the U.S.) and you'll fight yours.

good luck !!

I think this is a wonderful idea.. let him know that you support him while he is fighting his battle (protecting the US), but you can't do the fighting for him. Tell him that is the same thing that you need from him. You are starting out of a war against your obesity, you need him to be supporting you, not fighting it for you.