i have a male friend that had the lap band about 4 months ago and he is having a problem in the bedroom. He said he has lost his nature and he is only 40 yrs. old. Has anyone been through this or could it be not related to the band?

what does "lost his nature" mean? Has he lost his sex drive??, is he having erectile dysfunction? ?not sure how to respond to this. Can u be more specific?

Sorry! Yes he lost his sex drive. I guess you could say he was having erectile dysfunction.

I know that women go through severe hormone fluctuations with weight loss and I venture to guess that the same can happen to men. For me (a woman) it leveled out and went back to normal after a few months. He should discuss it with his doctor though.

This is something he should see his primary care doctor about. It could be band related in that he is losing weight, or it could be something else.

Oh my, I'm a sex educator in San Francisco and I've heard sex called a lot of things but this is the first time I have ever heard it referred to as "nature", lol.

A physician would always be your first call or visit. They can investigate medical causes, and then if nothing is medically wrong, refer him for counseling, etc. Changes within a persons body can play games with you mentally. Encourage him to seek help

Thanks and I told him to call his doctor but I thought I would just ask to see if anyone has ever heard of this.

Young men get an erection with very little sexual stimulus. But as we approach our forties, fifties or the years beyond, it often takes longer to get aroused and longer to ejaculate. It also takes longer to get an erection in response to fantasy or actual sexual contact....and from time to time, we may not even get an erection.