I've been working so hard to make this surgery a reality, and now that it is, I'm wishing I hadn't told anyone about it. People around me could care less about what I'm getting ready to go through. I have to give up so much to gain so much and I feel like I'm being treated like a lazy, fat loser. That's not true and that's not fair. I'm just really down in the dumps and thinking about not talking to anyone about it anymore except you guys, my docs, and my husband from now on, and if my "friends" have questions, they can research the way I have. I'm just very sensitive today and feeling very misunderstood.:thumbup:

In reading everyone's responses, I do believe that the lesson is that through this, you really find out who your true friends are. Their true colors are coming out, and they aren't pretty! Let's all work to get more positive people who can be true friends to us.

Good advise, I'm down with that.

I gave up on people and now find joy putting on those pants or shirts I use to not be able to get in to

Ken

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My own mom doesn't want me to have the surgery! I agree, these people don't want you to change. I lost friends when I got a divorce, I can only imagine what will happen after I get the surgery and start losing weight. True friends will support you.

Like it was mentioned so many times here, this is something you are doing for you. Don't worry about what others say or don't say, do or don't do. In the end, it's your body and your health. We have enough problems with our own insecurities, we have to stay strong. It's the beginning of a new life and if those people aren't going to support you, they never really have. It's all about you. Just keep imagining how great you are going to look and feel! I'm with you though, I don't plan on telling anyone I don't have to.. I won't even tell my mom. It's my decision and I'm happy about it!

Good luck with your banding!

Hello all I am having my surgery this Thurs. the 10th and my mom still doesn't agree with it and it is not becuz she cares because she is never here for me and never has been....Thank god for brothers, sister and Hubby and son guess that is all I need....Sorry had to vent can't sleep she has me so upset I think she wishes I was never born.,.Good luck to those who have surgery tomorrow smoochs Stacey