So I was out with my father today and we stopped by the post office and ran into my step-mother's mother. First let me say that that family is CRAZY! Even my father agrees, I strongly dislike them and rightfully so. Anyway, while I was in the post office my father takes it upon himself to tell her that I had the surgery last week. She questioned me about it and I told her what I could in our short conversation. She asked if I had a boyfriend and I said no, which she proceeded to shake her head yes like no was the expected answer. Because of course fat girls can't catch a man:rolleyes2:. As we were about to drive off, she sticks her boney head in the car window and tells my father that there was a reason I choose to have the surgery and started humming the wedding song. Both my father and I just laughed it off, but I was so pissed. Like the only reason to have the surgery was to get skinny, get a man and get married. What the is her problem? I hate that she thinks that, like I didn't get the surgery for my health, for my well-being, for my sanity, for normalcy, no, I only got it so I can attract a man and get married.:party: What a witch with a capital B!

Edited June 10, 200818 yr by YoungNy

I have had comments from my grandparents similar to this... but luckily it hasn't truly been mentioned.. while being smaller can be more attractive, that was not the plan... I want to be healthy, and I want kids whether there is a man involved or not (I am extremely open to adoption and foster care). I love children. I also chose this surgery to make my life easier, like wiping my butt without pulling a muscle from reaching around, or not worrying about breaking someones furniture, fitting in seatbelts or on rides at the amusement park... not having to buy two seats at the airport because the seatbelt doesn't fit... being able to fit comfortably in a bathroom stall... to be able to shop for clothing and not wonder what people are thinking... To wear clothes that look professional rather than just because they fit... at my highest I wore mens shirts... because that all that fit that was comfortable. I think everyone can agree its not just to find a partner...

Thanks for this thread...

sorry that she said that. i'd have told her just you wait. there will always be people that say that this is easy and that we're still lazy but I just can't wait to prove them all wrong!

Isn't it funny how people can be so ignorant. I mean it definetly is not funny but it just shows how most people have no idea that having this surgery is not to fit in to the "norm" but ultimately to feel better about our selfs and be healthier.

It is always those who have never struggled with their weight that say the meanest things. They see it as their way of kicking us in the butt and "helping us". Meanwhile they do the total opposite.

The one thing I always hate is "you have such a pretty face. Just wait till you have your surgery."

What the hell is wrong with the rest of me?????:confused2:

I mean we all know we are overweight, all for different reasons but do we need others to explain our inadequacies?

When situations like this occur I just tell myself, I can lose all my weight, but these people will always be ugly ....maybe not on the outside but defintely the inside.

Don't worry hun you are bettering yourself , brush off the criticism. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Good luck:thumbup: