Hi,

Well, I have been looking at this web site for several days, reading what eveyone has to say about the Lap band. I am 48 years old, and I am tired of being fat. I am a very happy person normaly, I love the Lord, love my family, friends and life. I have tried every diet out there. In 2003 I was at the weight of 314 and in tears when I joined Weight Watchers. I lost weight every week from June to December of 2003. My total weight lost was 67 lbs. I felt so good, but knew I still had a long way to go. One week after Christmas I let my guard down and gained 8 lbs in one week. There I lost my momentum. Then slowly over the years I have gained it back. I am now 300 again. I am very healthy, have no health problems, other than I am very over weight. I am not afraid of working out, It really makes me fill good and my joints are stiff. I have been trying to decide if this would be right for me. I am afraid if I do this, will I fail at this too. Some of the comments that I read scare me a bit. My husband doen't want me to have it done. He love me for me and thinks that I can do it on my own. I have never had a weight problem, until I had kids. I have been fighting my weight for 26 years. Please help with any suggestion that will help me make up my mind. :thumbup:

It's easy for others to say that we can do it on our own but quite frankly, if we could we would have done so a long time ago.

I am quite sure your husband loves you for who you are and that is all well and good. But are you comfortable where you are? I wasn't, my big fat butt did no fit into chairs well, I would walk into a room and was fully aware that people did not see me, the person... walk into a room. They saw the fat girl walk in the room.

I'd go shopping with friends and they were buying cute clothes and it was so much fun. Then we'd go to the tent store (Lane Giant) and I'd buy crappy fugly clothes.

Most of all my obsession with food was overwhelming. I'd be eating Breakfast thinking about what I'd have for lunch. I'd eat lunch and think about what I'd have for dinner. I'd go to restaurants and order the biggest item on the menu, not something I really wanted, I ordered by quantity.

I wanted to get a grip on all those issues. Today I still have food issues and the compulsion and obsession never really went away but the difference is that today I have much more control over it than I used to. Food no longer controls me or runs my life.

So I really do understand about your husband loving you for what and who you are, that's great. But what about everything else?

We ALL wonder if WLS is the right thing and if it will work. We ALL wonder if it is just another gimmick or something we will fail at like everything else. You just have to find the right surgery for your eating habits and go from there. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut feelings and try what is available.

Good luck to you~

If you've been fighting your weight for 26 years, you've already proven you can't do it on your own. There is no shame in admitting that and trying something that has a higher % chance of working. After all, trying the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is not logical.

OTOH, if you are hesitating because the lapband doesn't make sense for you, then don't let us talk you into it.