I normally don't lie under any circumstances, but I might have to here in a day or so.

I didn't really tell anyone I was getting surgery except on a need-to-know basis. While I was in the hospital, my sister came to sit for the kids. Despite me making a point of telling her that the kids did NOT know I was getting surgery, sure enough she told them.

My daughter has since blabbed to everyone she passes in the halls at school (she's 8).

This weekend, the kids are going with my ex and his grandparents. I KNOW she's going to tell them all I had surgery, and of COURSE his grandmother is going to call and ask me what surgery and so on.

I don't feel like they need to know my business and absolutely don't want to hear the lecture, so I never planned on telling them. So, my question is, WHAT do I tell her when she calls? I hate to out and out lie and say I had a gallbladder operation or something, but what choice do I have? ARGH! I hate that my sister put me in this situation.

Help! Any ideas?

Another 2 cents. I agree with the post that said 8 yr old can understand privacy. So I would start there. If it still slips out and you get a call just say nothing serious and change the subject quickly and if she brings it back up say, "Oh, that's my other line. I need to take this call. Enjoy the kids!"

Good luck to you! Personally I have told people because I can't keep a secret to save my life! Shame on your sister ut she sounds like me!:smile2:

Val

I would go for the hernia. It might even be true. A lot of us had hernia repairs at the same time.

Maybe because I am a nurse, but had to answer this. Bile is produced in the liver.

I saw my PCP on Wednesday and then made appointments w/ the bariatric center. I go for my first consultation on March 5. Other appointments w/ group dietician, one on one dietician and then psych...all by April 4. I am excited and nervous at the same time. I am going to start watching my diet tomorrow.....I have been stuffing myself. Not good....and I am miserable.

Hope you are all doing well. Take care.

I vote for the hernia repair lie. It very well could be possible when you have your surgery and they'll be messing with that part of your stomach, anyway. I had to use the hernia lie.

I also told no one. Including the kid (but he was 19 at the time).

If I have my arms over my head grabbing something and someone sees my scars, I've said I had a hernia operation.

My parents know and DH knows and a couple of VERY close friends who are considering the procedure or who have already had it done. That's it.

I did tell the kids not to say anything, it's my private business, etc, but being discreet is not one of her strong suits.

The kids don't know WHAT surgery I had, I don't think, so at least I'm ahead there.

I have to ask (and ignore me if you don't want to answer) but what excuse did your sister give you when you found out she told your kids?

I agree that an 8 year old should know the difference between blabbing and not blabbing...I would start there...

But as for the grandma...I'd gently tell her that it embarrasses you to talk about it and you'd prefer not to.

Rain

I have a very sweet ex grandmother also and I say just go with the hernia repair story. She won't know the difference and you won't have to do any further explaining. You won't have to tell her that it's not her business and hurt her feelings that way. As for your child just remind her that "Mommy doesn't want her talking about what Mommy had done because she doesn't want people to worry about it." That should work. ) Good Luck! :thumbdown:

I told the same story to my mother and father in law. I felt it wasn't any of their business, they don't care for me anyway. I finally told though. Now my mother in law is wanting to know everything about the surgery. You will tell the people that you want to know, and for those you don't tell right away you will tell them when you are ready.:thumbdown:

Hi Angie,

I have not told a lot of people either. If anyone asks, I am just going to say I am on a Doctor supervised program at a weight loss clinic - end of story. If they ask about the hospital, I would just say, yeah, they had to rule-out medical conditions first.

That is my story..and I'm sticking to it.

Hey, if they are nosy enough to ask, I feel that the answer will be what I feel like telling!

I just want to add that I have lost over 60 lbs. and I don't think ONe person has asked!!! They don't even comment! How do you like that????