I normally don't lie under any circumstances, but I might have to here in a day or so.

I didn't really tell anyone I was getting surgery except on a need-to-know basis. While I was in the hospital, my sister came to sit for the kids. Despite me making a point of telling her that the kids did NOT know I was getting surgery, sure enough she told them.

My daughter has since blabbed to everyone she passes in the halls at school (she's 8).

This weekend, the kids are going with my ex and his grandparents. I KNOW she's going to tell them all I had surgery, and of COURSE his grandmother is going to call and ask me what surgery and so on.

I don't feel like they need to know my business and absolutely don't want to hear the lecture, so I never planned on telling them. So, my question is, WHAT do I tell her when she calls? I hate to out and out lie and say I had a gallbladder operation or something, but what choice do I have? ARGH! I hate that my sister put me in this situation.

Help! Any ideas?

Tell her it's personal and not something you are comfortable discussing.

I would have went for the gallbladder, since the procedure is similar. LOL!!

I suppose you should just say that it is a personal thing but that you're feeling fine.

Hm.. maybe saying your daughter overheard you were thinking of doing it, and she's confused. 8 year olds get confused, yea?

Deny, deny, deny.

Option 2, tell her yeah you did it, you don't think it's any of her concern..thanks but no thanks.

I like that Quaker commercial where they give kids the chewy granola bars to shut them up teehee.

Well MY grandmother always said if you lie it will come back to haunt you. So, if I say I had to have gallbladder surgery, I'll end up having to have gallbladder surgery. LOL

The only problem with telling her you had gallbladder surgery is.......what if you actually have to have it removed one day, then you would have to come up with another lie, because you can't have it taken out twice, lol!

I agree with mandi, tell her that it's personal and you don't want to discuss it.

Hah, I think we were posting that at the same time, lol!

Oh, that sucks. I did not tell my family either and have no intentions of doing so. I would just say that it was personal and you'd rather not go into detail, but you are feeling good and thanks for the concern. People tend to think that it's "female related" then, I've noticed. At work I did not tell anybody but when one nosy person did ask, I said it was very personal. She just nodded and left me alone. :tt2:

A good idea, telling her it's personal, but she's so sweet and sensitive, I know it will hurt her feelings that I don't want to open up.

ARGH Damn my sister.

I think you need to be frank and let your sister know the trouble it has caused. it wasn't her place to tell your kids. I think you also need to have a talk with your daughter and explain very carefully the concept of privacy. At eight years old, she should understand this. Especially if you are honest with her and let her know how much it means to you. As for your ex-husbands grandmother? It's really no longer any of her business either. Just gently tell her it's private and you would rather not discuss it. I don't tell anyone about my surgery, but I won't lie either. It always get you in trouble in the end. Just be honest with everyone invovled.

You know technically I have heard of people who had to have their gall bladder removed twice. I'm no medical professional but you can kind of compare it to how the RNY patients stomachs can re-swell. The gallbladder is a holding pouch for bile that is produced (rats can't remember what produces bile right now) Removing the gallbladder is only removing that holding area not the bile producing organ or the tubing to the stomach so there have been cases where the tubing "re-swells" into another gall-bladder like pouch that can form new gall-stones, creating the need for a second surgery.

That aside I know how you feel about fate biting you in the rear if you lie and say thats what you had. If you are determined to keep it mum, I lean towards the trying to say she mis-understood and it was just some routing feminine medical tests not a surgery.

I think you need to be frank and let your sister know the trouble it has caused. it wasn't her place to tell your kids. I think you also need to have a talk with your daughter and explain very carefully the concept of privacy. At eight years old, she should understand this. Especially if you are honest with her and let her know how much it means to you. As for your ex-husbands grandmother? It's really no longer any of her business either. Just gently tell her it's private and you would rather not discuss it. I don't tell anyone about my surgery, but I won't lie either. It always get you in trouble in the end. Just be honest with everyone invovled.

This is the best advice. I think an eight year old should be mature enough to understand privacy too. And it's certainly not the business of an ex's grandmother...

I say lie away - it's no one's business unless you decide to make it so - I found a hernia repair sounds good, is accepted and generally keeps nosy people happy. But I also agree with the person who said - just say your dgtr was confused - it wasn't you getting surgery - it was a friend.

Just decide before someone asks you - keep it short and sweet and don't elaborate.

well i got a hiatal hernia repaired while i got my band so if ppl ask and they just HAVE to know, i tell them i got it fixed....thats all. so its not exactly a lie and it wont jinx me in the future lol

There's been a lot of threads about this same matter--and I always feel the "hernia" excuse to be the best (because you can get multiple hernias, ah--gallbladder is a little different!)

The one excuse I liked the very best was from one bander who said she always told the inquisitor it was "women troubles" and it shut them right up!!! :smile2: But your ex's grandmother? Now that's a tough one!

All I can say is, how about, Good Luck!

I have choosen to tell only my husband, 3 daughters and 1 close friend. I hosted thanksgiving 10 days after surgery and when husbands parents asked why I wasn't eating I told them the truth, I had a Large Hernia repaired and wasn't supposed to eat much yet.... Ok so I left out the Lap Band part, But I didn't lie if it ever comes out..... His family is just SOOOOOO judgemental and I don't feel the need to explain myself to them.

Just my 2 cents....