<p>Okay!! I want to get outsider opinions on this!! About a year ago I met a guy whom I totally hit it off with....well we started dating and then out of the blue he called and said we needed to take it slow first. I was okay with this seeing as it was probably a good idea. It was around Christmas and he rode up with my friend to surprise me with my Christmas gift which was a beautiful necklace. A week or two later I was at the store in which he works and purchased the necklace and I was looking for it being nosey as usual and I was talking to the later at the counter. She asked me who had purchased my necklace and I told her. Well obviously he had told her that the only person he was dating was Kimberly..keep in mind my name is ASHLEY lol so I freak out I was heading out the door as he was walking in...I could barely speak I was ill because he had not mentioned seeing anyone else..she we went our seperate ways...well recently he has been calling and coming back around. He's still with her but say that he loves me and wants to be with me he made a mistake but doesn't want to hurt her...WHAT SHOULD I DO? Do you think he's playing me or genuine?<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" /></p>

lol.. good point green...

ive been were u are and i just think it dont matter how many times u run over ur head wat that txt meant, wat that last thing he said on the fone meant, or when he dropd u off how good ur day was.. HIS SEEING SOME 1 ELSe..LOL dont bring ur self to his level i would always say but then sittin there lonely id text him n ball would be bak in his court, he played on it hard.. id cry for hours wondering y he wanted to hurt me so much 3 yrs later of being in a relao that obviosuly wasnt "love" that was something to last forever... i wrote him a text saying blah i cant get over u if u dont leav me alone blah blah and he begged n pleded cause he no longer had me at his beg n call.. its 2 yrs later n i still love him n ohh wat id give to tell him i wish he'd done right but he didnt n im happy in another realo but u have to be the 1 who says its time to wipe u puta my life.. no 1 else.. today is the day im lettin the shit that drags me down GO... and it worked for me.. good luck hun:clap2:

FUCK HIM RIGHT OFF

FUCK HIM RIGHT OFF! YOU DESERVE SOOO MUCH BETTER. END OF.

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i know and my best friend married his(hottie with the body up there's) best friend...lol she told matt that she's already planning our wedding! it's so hilarious..I think I am gonna show up to a party one day and it be my wedding kinda scary huh? lol

update...he called I didnt answer how proud of me are ya'll!! lol I know that I am proud of me!

good on ya chiki

Good job! Now when are you going out with the adorable guy in the pic?

this weekend we are going clubbin for a mutual friends birthday :tt1: I am so excited!!

ok update on the date with the adorable good guy....okay it was not so good...we ended up going with our friend couple and matt got wasted and some old girl came to his house and went in his room with him..I didn't see him again til this morning when I woke up after realizing she was just leaving!! I was like that's great! I sleep on his couch and she has sex with him while I am there. I was bumfuzzled!

I am so sorry. That is straight fucked up.

I have 4 thoughts on this and they are all over the board

+’s

1ST Like Lap_Dancer said you got a necklace out of this. There is loads of wisdom there. Millions of years ago when I was a sophomore dating a senior I willnever forget what my then college aged sister said to me “that is sweet, but just remember if you break up you have to give it back because it’s his jewelry……Bethie it’s always better to find a guy that gives you your own jewelry, because that is your forever”……So plus one for this guy

2nd H-e-l-l-o Dating… not engaged, not married, not even “exclusive” unless I missed something. Sure it’s easy for me to say that because I am not dating and having to face the reality of being just 1 of two, a few, or many YUCK……but seriously if not promises were made then none were broken

-‘s

3RD Here is where I am brutal and bringing my baggage into the picture. Are you even considering staying with this CAD because you somewhere feel unworthy? I know that is what keeps me allowing all kinds of creeps to be part of my life – potential suitors AND poser “friends” If this is the case just swallow hard and move on. Even if your heart does not say you deserve better, your head does - listen to your head

4TH And lastly and this is what does it for me – He is a liar. He committed the sin of omission. OK so maybe there weren’t promises, but when he said slow down – he didn’t mean that he meant see other people. Had he said that it probably would have hurt a lot but you would have known where you stood. What he did was lie, call it something nice like omit, but the intention was clear – deception. I would never date casually or seriously someone that I could not trust, lie to me once and its NEXT please

OK, you need to just cut him off and maybe consider taking a break from dating altogether for a little while. That was just plain rude and disrespectful. Let it go and move on.

ok update on the date with the adorable good guy....okay it was not so good...we ended up going with our friend couple and matt got wasted and some old girl came to his house and went in his room with him..I didn't see him again til this morning when I woke up after realizing she was just leaving!! I was like that's great! I sleep on his couch and she has sex with him while I am there. I was bumfuzzled!

well...that's the thing I haven't dated in a while....lol I was amazed at that girl and him too I have to be honest. But I mean it's not like we were together he has every right to do anything. I was supposed to stay in his room...lol but I am glad I am not the one who ended up with the walk of shame (not that I would have done anything anyway I''m not that kind of girl).....oh and did I mention this woman is his friends' mom??? NO, the friend has NO idea!! That made it worse...plus she introduced herself to me and told me bye, nice to meet you as she was walking out the door...haha lets just say the most akward moment in the WORLD!!!

*cough*PLAYER*cough**cough*

UPDATE ON THIS TOPIC :cursing: Russell and I are together and are planning on getting married when I graduate from college :scared2: Thanks for all the support but he turned out to be amazing and I love him.

as for the sweet adorable guy I was trying to date....well he broke his foot is a drunk and well a loser...lol