I struggled with whom to tell about my hopeful up coming surgery. Even told a sister & than decided to tell her I decided no mnths later because of her back-handed support. Than today on the phone I was speaking w/my eldest sister. I wasn't going to say anyting & something inside me needed to share. To my surprise she was so supportive & happy for me it gave me goosebumps. She even has offered to take her vacation time to be with me during & after surgery. She lives out of state. I thought she might be supportive but never expected such overwelming positive reinforcement. Just goes to show you never know where your angels may be.

That's wonderful! Now that insurance company needs to get in gear.

What a great sister!

I'll succeed I have been going thru a semilar thing with telling my inlaws and I think I'm just going to call and get it off my chest. It is really getting to me that I haven't told them yet and I'm afraid if I don't tell them that I will hurt their feelings or my husbands feelings that I haven't included them. I think they have the same rights as my parents do to know about the surgery. I'm making the call this weekend. Thanks for sharing!

I struggled with whom to tell about my hopeful up coming surgery.

You are VERY wise for doing this!

I only wish I wouldve held back from telling so many people.

Good luck!

Do you have a surgery date yet?

That is great your sister responded with postive thoughts and wanting to come and take care of you. When I told me younger sister her reply was it is about time she was very happy for me..

Thanks all for sharing- And PAULA I wanted to say that it really has been a huge struggle to keep it a secret. A major mental fight- I ALways feel I can count & trust on everyone. I guess because everyone CAN count & trust me. But alais that isn't always true the otherway around. I wasn't going to tell anyone I had my upper-eyes done either but I tend to almost brag about it to complete strangers-LOL - LBS however comes with the cost of little failures. exp. Not losing fast enough for someone else-gaining maybe-having it removed maybe-not being able to succeed on my own-ect-ect-ect.

Maybe infact you did the better thing by telling more people. I think that sometimes I may feel more accountable if more were watching my every nibble;0) Either or isn't it interesting how we all want to include others but exclude them at the same time. Excepting only the comments we can stomach & sometimes blamming their words for our own failures or excuses to binge. Wanting only certain help & certain saying at certain times. In our hearts I think we all know MOST want us to succeed. One of my biggest fears is succeeding. When I am thinner what will I have left to be sorry about. This is a huge mental thing I need to uncover & figure out fast. Thanks for listening.

That's great, Christina!!! You're gonna need a confidante and your sister sounds like a good one!