I work in an EI office.Sometimes things get quite mixed up for some clients and it's our job to help them.I must say we are a great team and our office is one that is recognized for this.I over extended myself and will sometimes stay late or come in early without pay for a client.Our office is suppose to be a fast flow kinda thing but we will sometimes go over and beyond for some that need immediate financial help.

One of my collegues is a drop dead gorgeous 42 year old lady.She looks 32 at the most is as friendly as i am,will work just as hard for clients as i do.HOWEVER,she is 5'8 and weight 120lbs (if that)

She helped someone this week and today i accepted another flower delivery from the client(male).This has happened several times in the last few years and in the 4 years I have been here, no one has even returned with a card never mind an

expensive bouquet.

I love her and don't begrudge her the extra thanks she gets but it's so not fair!!!! I get nothin'!Just cuz i am fat.I KNOW that i will be gorgeous once i lose this extra 40 lbs but, man oh man, how i would love to get flowers, just once, when i do something nice.

C

Don't worry, your day will come that someone will send you flowers for the work you did, and it won't be just because you are thin. I remember one time when I worked for the court system, this guy came up to the window and needed help. There was five women in this office, and nobody wanted to help him because he had been there several times and they just couldn't seem to get his driving record straightened out. Well, I got up and started to help him, and he started telling me lies about his arrests! I looked him straight in the eye and told him if he didn't tell me the truth, I couldn't help him, but if he did I would get his license back for him. He worked pretty good with me, and I did get his license back for him. A few days later here he come, back to the office door, and he had 6 dozen red long stemmed roses. He told me they were for me for all the work I did, and how much he appreciated everything I did. Those other ladies were so mad! I ended up sharing them with everyone, but it was nice that he made the point in front of all of them that they were just for me! So, one of these days, a person that is really appreciatvie of your work will do the same for you, and not just because of your beautiful face or body! And, when they do, please post and tell us about it!

I think we've all been in your shoes. The skinny hot women get all the attention, dates, flowers, etc. Here's the way I twisted it to make me the lucky one:

First, think about all the rotten men that have screwed us in our lives (not saying all men are rotten, but too many of them are.) I wish it was as easy as kissing a few frogs to find my prince, but it was more like being bitten by snakes, attacked by wild tigers, crushed by stampeding buffalos and crapped on by elephants before I met Chris. That's what my dating days were like, anyway. Nothing but lyin' cheatin' two-time double dealin mean mistreated pigs, which is why I put up with so much from Chris cuz he ain't anywhere near as bad!

I dated about once a year, but my skinny friends had dates every single weekend. So I consider myself fortunate that I didn't have to wade through half the crap, neglect, abuse, lies, affairs that they had to.

The cuter you are, the more dates you have, the more dating-drama and BS you gotta go through. We are lucky cuz when someone pays attention to us, we know that they are paying attention to "us" and not our boobs, flat sexy belly or big poofy hair. Guys that hit on chicks just cuz they look hot are real sleeze bags to me, so let her have the flowers.

Very well put Lisa... I 2nd that!

Never judge your own beauty by the eyes of anyone else. You are beautiful. Just read your words. It's not your fault they can't see it because they're looking in the wrong direction.

Just keep on being beautiful, and remember the ones who couldn't see before. When they notice you after losing the weight, it's not their eyesight that changed!

HEY! I have big poofy hair....

Some Men are shallow..

I have men now who wouldnt give me the time of day when I was 75 lbs heavier ...

Now they expect me to be flattered that they are noticing me and giving me attention. I think NOT. How shallow is that??

~c~ just keep being the person you are..you will reap the benefits in such bigger ways then flowers

Okay, I retract the big-poofy hair statement! Michelle, exactly what YOU said!