I got that magic phone call today, I'm approved for surgery and will meet the surgeon this Friday. I just finished the options classes 2 weeks ago and my last requirement on Monday. I'm very proud of myself for this progress, but there's more to do and as those of you who are on this journey know, we all need somebody. You are the star of your "life", but who is your supporting cast for this part of the journey and is it who you thought it would be?

My support group is strong at times and other days I realize just how much of this is all me. I'm used to it being only me, but this journey requires vulnerability and transparency (at least for me), I need my supporting cast more than I thought...

Who are your supporters???

Kisha and Krimson Butterfly- Its the dog-honest thing. Now that I am 1/2 the size I once was , really-truly AM , down to 182 from HW of 365+, people are coming out of the WoodWork, "Oh I have been watching and supporting YOU all along!" I knew YOU could do it, should I have told YOU?"
Yeah it sure would have been nice, especially when I had my PICC line in and didn't know how long That Might Be!
Suddenly they want to support ME but where were they when I was scared to death to even undertake it at 72, with so many telling me "I was DESTROYING my health" Should be satisfied to do NOTHING and die OBESE" You'll die on the Operating Table Anyway!" I seem to recall only Tomkitten , my son, really cheering me ON. Even my PCP, the very one who forecast "Death Before 75 " and told me Surgeon #1 was right to drop me because I was over 70 and a BAD SURGICAL RISK! Incredibly he now is Peeved because I have lost weight so Fast, told me He only expected ME to drop 70% of my Excess Weight, That's a VSG amount- I'm an RNY Bypass- We Lose 75 to 85%- wouldn't YOU THINK a DOCTOR Should KNOW THAT?
Perhaps I should smile sweetly but inside I AM SEETHING- Seems like it's "A Little Too Late To Do the RIGHT thing NOW!" See I Had convinced myself it was
The Right Time- The Right Operation- Done in the Right Place- By the right surgeon- For the Right reasons- To the Right person- but from then on I should use every tool possible to ensure IT All Was Not in Vain. And I worked HARD, So Very HARD to prove I was just as good as people 1/2, even 1/3 MY Age . And Now Suddenly They WANT to join MY PARADE? I just can't fathom it All!

8 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Kisha and Krimson Butterfly- Its the dog-honest thing. Now that I am 1/2 the size I once was , really-truly AM , down to 182 from HW of 365+, people are coming out of the WoodWork, "Oh I have been watching and supporting YOU all along!" I knew YOU could do it, should I have told YOU?"
Yeah it sure would have been nice, especially when I had my PICC line in and didn't know how long That Might Be!
Suddenly they want to support ME but where were they when I was scared to death to even undertake it at 72, with so many telling me "I was DESTROYING my health" Should be satisfied to do NOTHING and die OBESE" You'll die on the Operating Table Anyway!" I seem to recall only Tomkitten , my son, really cheering me ON. Even my PCP, the very one who forecast "Death Before 75 " and told me Surgeon #1 was right to drop me because I was over 70 and a BAD SURGICAL RISK! Incredibly he now is Peeved because I have lost weight so Fast, told me He only expected ME to drop 70% of my Excess Weight, That's a VSG amount- I'm an RNY Bypass- We Lose 75 to 85%- wouldn't YOU THINK a DOCTOR Should KNOW THAT?
Perhaps I should smile sweetly but inside I AM SEETHING- Seems like it's "A Little Too Late To Do the RIGHT thing NOW!" See I Had convinced myself it was
The Right Time- The Right Operation- Done in the Right Place- By the right surgeon- For the Right reasons- To the Right person- but from then on I should use every tool possible to ensure IT All Was Not in Vain. And I worked HARD, So Very HARD to prove I was just as good as people 1/2, even 1/3 MY Age . And Now Suddenly They WANT to join MY PARADE? I just can't fathom it All!

If you can manage to bite your tongue with those who actively rooted against you, you are a stronger person than I am.

How you were treated by people even if your PCM is horrible! I just don't understand how people can be like that.

It is amazing how hard you have fought for your health and I am so happy for you.

Thanks Darlin' It does Mean a Lot to ME. Oh I still struggle, maybe I always Will- But You Know, I STILLCAN DO IT AND I WILL! And I am exceedingly Proud of the Strong Person I now Know I Am!

49 minutes ago, Frustr8 said:

Thanks Darlin' It does Mean a Lot to ME. Oh I still struggle, maybe I always Will- But You Know, I STILLCAN DO IT AND I WILL! And I am exceedingly Proud of the Strong Person I now Know I Am!

Strength is in silence sometimes. Victory is in your walk. Hold your head high and bask in the accomplishment of no longer being morbidly obese. You know that you are worthy of every reward that you are receiving from your choices and for advocating for your life ????

Update:

I'm listening to people talking about wls and obese people who have lost weight via surgery. I will sum it up with the saying, "Ignorance is bliss..." These people who'd benefit from addressing their own problems and weight issues, are very opinionated and undereducated regarding our community. This is hard enough for me on my own and getting my mental in sync, I refuse to invite unsolicited advice and views in on my personal journey. Supporting cast, isn't looking for extras or drama. We each approach and deal with our journey the best way for us..