So I’m curious for those of you a couple months or more postop. Has your partner lost some weight as you’ve changed your eating habits? Stayed the same? Has anyone’s partner GAINED weight as you’ve lost? Just curious.

On 08/03/2018 at 07:52, AshAsh1 said:

My husband is fairly skinny. He eats better now as a result of me cooking and shopping better, but still indulges in his junk food. Even though he doesn't need to lose weight, he's commented about how he hates to eat in front of me because it makes him feel like a "pig" (his words not mine). I've found that he doesn't get up for seconds at dinner time, rather he warms up those seconds after I go to bed. It's like he is ashamed or something. I've tried to reassure him, but I know it will take time for him to adjust, just like it has taken time for me.

Aw poor guy! Would it help if you reminded him that as a guy who is taller, heavier and has more muscle mass he literally NEEDS more calories than you do?

On 08/05/2018 at 10:33, jess9395 said:

Aw poor guy! Would it help if you reminded him that as a guy who is taller, heavier and has more muscle mass he literally NEEDS more calories than you do?

I know, I feel terrible. I have reassured him and reminded him of those things. When I went to my girlfriends about it for advice, they said even they feel that way when eating around me. I think time will change this, I hope. If not, I think my next step is to get advice from the doctor.

Mine gained weight because he was eating all my left overs and had more helpings at home because i don’t get as much as I had before surgery. Finally clicked while we were on vacay. He could not figure out why he had put on 30lbs that year after and was eating off my plate at a restaurant and it actually hit me at that point. I said OMG you’ve gained because your eating your plate and the 3/4 to 1/2 of mine. Hahahaha!! He stopped eating my leftovers and started measuring his food at home.

Leading up to my surgery, mine swore he was going to get on a program and lose some weight because he wasn't going to have his wife looking all fine while he was fat. LOL He's a big dude 6'4 so he carries weight well but he could probably get off 50lbs. Since the surgery, he hasn't changed anything. He's doing like other's partners and eating my leftovers. Unfortunately it's not just him, but the kids too. It's not an issue at home because I only put on my plate what I intend to eat, but when we go out it's a problem.

It's funny because most of my immediate family (hubby, sister, mom) all hoped that me losing weight would inspire them to do better. So far they claim that I'm losing weight and they're just finding it. LOL.