This might be TMI but since surgery every time I am intimate I get so much pain and urgency to pee it isn't ever a bladder infection.
It's driving me to the point of tears because I want to be intimate with my partner but it hurts so much after.
The doctors don't seem to care and I'm losing my mind....
Sleeved 4/6/17
HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165

Anyone else experience this

Sleeved 4/6/17

HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165

I've been following this forum since before my surgery in Feb 2018 and never registered since I didn't really plan on posting, only reading up. When I saw your question I felt compelled to sign up to give you my experience on the matter. Although I am male, I would have the same urgency and pain when being intimate with my wife. For over a year I was told it was a UTI (rare in males) or a prostate infection. It would go away after a couple of days then start again. It wasn't until I demanded a CT of my bladder and kidneys and a cystoscopy that a small tumor was found in my bladder. I hate to scare anyone, but you are experiencing the same symptom I had and you should talk with your DR about it. Even if it is a tumor, its more of an inconvenience than life threatening. I am 3 years clear from the tumor removal and feel great. Either way I hope its not your case and there is another explanation. God bless.

Edited April 2, 20188 yr by EddieP

I will have to bring it up to a doctor. They did an ultrasound in December and didn't find anything so I'm wondering if my bladder has simply fallen and needs to be repaired

Sleeved 4/6/17

HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165

As the sad honoree of a cystocele and rectocele from 3 9lb babies, basically the front and back wals of my veejayjay have herniated, you may just have a cystocele like me, a fallen bladder like you thought or a small tumor like the above responder. Who you need to consult is a gyno-urologist. they specialize in both systems. If you don't live in or near a city with a medical university like I do, check with an urologist or gyno second, both can help you. My problem , well a teeny more FYI, except for increased pelvic pain and heaviness and being more prone to UTI, I can't get on top at mattress mambo maneuvers time[emoji17]

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Gah so frustrating

Sleeved 4/6/17

HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165

Yeah it is, I'm now widowed but not dead, hate to bring it up if I find a new "friend" LOL[emoji6]

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My partner is super understanding but dang it we are getting close to trying for a baby. . How are we supposed to acheive that if we can't enjoy it lol

Sleeved 4/6/17

HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165

Only suggestion your wise old Bariatric Good -mother has, flood yourself with fluid afterwards to lessen chances of UTI, be slow, gentle and loving with each other, let him be on top so your cervix is awash with little wigglers at the right time and pray real hard for the baby blessing![emoji67][emoji64][emoji68]
[emoji173] and hugs!

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Thank you!!! [emoji173]

Sleeved 4/6/17

HW: 350
SW: 324
CW: 206
GW: 165