Honestly, I thought that loosing weight would immediately boost my self confidence and I would feel more sexy and desirable. However, I don't feel this way. In fact, I think it's hurt me a little bit. I'm working out in the gym to tone up my flabbiness but its going to be a work in progress. Can anyone speak to their experiences? Are there highs and lows, or does my mind just need time to catch up to my body?

You are young (I'm envious)and beautiful inside and out! Body image is a strange thing in this process. It may take time for your mind to catch up to your weight loss.

Feeling sexy may be on and off until your hormones get used to your birth control. Not sure about you but my marriage sex drive fluxuates. *laughing*

Thank you so much! Your memes made me laugh out loud! Your and@fluffychix words help a lot. Sometimes just knowing that you aren’t weird and nothing is permanent means the world.

6 hours ago, AshAsh1 said:

Honestly, I thought that loosing weight would immediately boost my self confidence and I would feel more sexy and desirable. However, I don't feel this way. In fact, I think it's hurt me a little bit. I'm working out in the gym to tone up my flabbiness but its going to be a work in progress. Can anyone speak to their experiences? Are there highs and lows, or does my mind just need time to catch up to my body?

You're beautiful, @AshAsh1. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

You're beautiful, [mention=328469]AshAsh1[/mention]. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Thanks Mattymatt! Means a lot.

And you Mattymatt,are a beautiful person yourself as I've told you before. Even if you end up looking like Rowan Atkinson aka Mr Bean that's okay. He has a good group of followers himself. And I firmly believe somewhere out there is a Mindymindy or a Suziesue looking for her Mattymatt we have just got to get the 2 of you together[emoji12] Hugs to you Mattymatt!

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10 minutes ago, frust8 said:

And you Mattymatt,are a beautiful person yourself as I've told you before. Even if you end up looking like Rowan Atkinson aka Mr Bean that's okay. He has a good group of followers himself. And I firmly believe somewhere out there is a Mindymindy or a Suziesue looking for her Mattymatt we have just got to get the 2 of you together[emoji12] Hugs to you Mattymatt!

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I agree @Mattymatt, she is very right! You deserve all the best. Xo

@Jenn1 & @Fluffychix - I was responding on the app last night and some how my response got mixed in with a requote. Thanks again ladies! Glad I have you guys!

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18 hours ago, jenn1 said:

A few threads on WLS and sex drive.

https://www.bariatricpal.com/search/?q=sex drive&type=forums_topic&nodes=3&sortby=relevancy

I just read through some of the threads and I'm so glad you posted this link. I felt like an Alien , but turns out I'm not! Thanks