I don’t have a problem with someone I am close to, such as my sister, mother, etc., asking me about my weight loss. Well that being said, awhile back I was sitting at my desk B.S.ing with some of the people from other offices that had come out to our office for a meeting when I was asked "So, how’s the weight loss going?". First I will state that I did not tell this person about my surgery or have ever spoke to this person about my desire to lose weight, so someone I did tell, and trust me that is not a great many people, must have. Now I might have handled it differently if I hadn’t been in a room full of people that I work with. So my come back was "Fine, how’s your sex life?" Pause for effect, "What, you can ask me a personal question, but I can’t ask you one?" I thought it was clever. Well, apparently this person said something to my boss about it. He let me know that I embarrassed this person in front of our co-workers. When I explained my side of what happened, beginning with the fact that this person believed it was ok to ask me a personal question in front of co-workers, I felt I had the right to ask them a personal question. My boss, who is pretty cool, just said "Your right, but don’t bring up someone’s sex life" and that’s the end of that.

So fellow LBTers (if that’s right), I need your help. I need some new comebacks. I have no problem with crude or rude. Believe me, if someone is going to be rude enough to ask me about my weight, which to me is the same as asking any other personal question, I plan on slamming them into the ground. So please, BRING IT ON!!:heh:

Instead of sex life, ask about their finances. Personal in a different way.

I see your point as well as your boss' point. SEX talk @ work? BIG no no!!

I simply smile and ask, "Why do you need to know that?" It puts the ownership on that person to explain why they are being nosy, and it keeps me from having to be nasty.

I probably would say "my weight loss is going great, would you like the name of my Dr."

I can see hat the point was bringing up sex at work- with all the sexual harrassment being brought to light, but in it's own way bringing attention to your body through weight loss, is the same thing. I believe your comeback was appropriate, and if anything else was said, I would discuss it with the bosses boss!!!

I would imagine you successfully let those around you know it is not a subject open for discussion though!

My problem is I usually think of the right thing to say after the right time to say it is long gone!!! You were much quicker than I ever could have been!!!

I look forward to seeing what kind of responses you get on this thread!

Kat

I WISH I HAD THIS ADVICE A FEW MONTHS AGO. I HAD BEEN LOSING WEIGHT AND EVERYONE AT WORK HAD STARTED TO NOTICE, NOT THAT I HAD TOLD THEM I WAS DIETING BUT IT WAS BECOMING OBVIOUS. SOME TIME AFTER THAT WHEN THE WEIGHT STARTED TO CREEP BACK ON A WOMAN I WORK WITH WHO I MAY ADD HAD DONE EXACTLY THE SAME AS ME. LOST AND REGAINED WEIGHT SAID IN A LOUD VOICE IN THE CANTEEN RIGHT IN FRONT OF EVERYONE " OH ELAINE WHAT HAPPEND TO YOUR DIET?!!! I WAS MORTIFIED AND WANTED TO SAY "THE SAME THING THAT HAPPEND TO YOURS IT WENT OUT OF THE WINDOW" BUT DIDN,T WANT TO BE CRUEL AND WAS SOO EMBARASSED I JUST MUMBLED SOME EXCUSE ABOUT IT BEING TOO HARD, IF ONLY I HAD THOUGHT TO SAY SOMETHING COOL LIKE JUST MENTIONED ON THIS THREAD I MIGHT HAVE FELT A BIT BETTER.

jack, i love your responses!

sounds like fun too...

"well since i converted to xyz...life has been so much better! maybe you would consider attending one of our services"

(they will run from the room before you even finish the sentence.)

People are so cruel. I have never commented to someone about their weight. Why is someone else's weight my business? I just recently had someone tell me, "Well, at least your not going to be as fat as you Uncle's." What is wrong with people? I am going to start thinking of comebacks as well, like, Do you know your being rude?

My answer would have been "fine, how's your weight loss program going? You're looking a little out of shape."

I probably would say "my weight loss is going great, would you like the name of my Dr."

Oh yeah, this is definitely my favorite. =)

Try the one I use:

The diet is great, I'm feeling better and healthier.... you should try it!

I don’t have a problem with someone I am close to, such as my sister, mother, etc., asking me about my weight loss. Well that being said, awhile back I was sitting at my desk B.S.ing with some of the people from other offices that had come out to our office for a meeting when I was asked "So, how’s the weight loss going?". First I will state that I did not tell this person about my surgery or have ever spoke to this person about my desire to lose weight, so someone I did tell, and trust me that is not a great many people, must have. Now I might have handled it differently if I hadn’t been in a room full of people that I work with. So my come back was "Fine, how’s your sex life?" Pause for effect, "What, you can ask me a personal question, but I can’t ask you one?" I thought it was clever. Well, apparently this person said something to my boss about it. He let me know that I embarrassed this person in front of our co-workers. When I explained my side of what happened, beginning with the fact that this person believed it was ok to ask me a personal question in front of co-workers, I felt I had the right to ask them a personal question. My boss, who is pretty cool, just said "Your right, but don’t bring up someone’s sex life" and that’s the end of that.

So fellow LBTers (if that’s right), I need your help. I need some new comebacks. I have no problem with crude or rude. Believe me, if someone is going to be rude enough to ask me about my weight, which to me is the same as asking any other personal question, I plan on slamming them into the ground. So please, BRING IT ON!!:heh:

I guess this means that you can't respond by asking them if they've managed to get rid of their crabs yet......... So ask them about their head lice problem. :heh:

haha Thank you so very much for the laugh Mrs. I will be sure to remember that one if someone makes a comment to me after I am banded. I don't plan on laying out my life story to anyone I work with since it's none of their business.

I am sure I would say it's fine , how is yours?