So I've been contemplating weight loss surgery for a while... back in January 2017 I went to the seminar,& then had a consultation with my surgeon... after the consultation I still needed some time to process things and decide if this was what I really wanted to do.. September 2017 I decided to move forward with the process.. had a second consultation with my surgeon and the process began..:: I'm currently doing my 6 supervised diet visit with the nutritionist(as required by my insurance) and surgery will be scheduled on the 4th visit... I haven't told anyone yet.. not my parents, my sister no one.. only because I feel like they wouldn't be supportive of my decision and I didn't want them to try and talk me out of it... I did however tell my God sister(who is already sleeved) and she actually referred me to her surgeon... once I get a surgery date I will tell them tho...... anyone else struggled or contemplated about telling their family about their decision to have wls???

I told my mom, my boyfriend and my best friend. My mom says for me to get it and supports it. My boyfriend says im perfect the way i am he loves me for me and he is scared because it is a operation and i do have a blood clot disorder and he is afraid something will happen. My best friend feels the same. She told me to drink nothing but smoothies. I told her thats unhealthy and does not work lol. My boyfriend supports me on it and said he will be there for me every step of the way. As far as work im not saying a thing till i have surgery scheduled and i have to tell my boss and fill fmla paperwork out.

Absolutely my dear. That’s what we are here for. Great to hear from you. Please let us know how you’re doing with your weight loss. You don’t have to tell us your starting weight or anything if that’s too personal. We’re here to cheer you on girl every step of the way. [emoji7][emoji7]

My highest weight was 356. When i first met with my surgeon and we talked about possibility of WLS i was 321. When i started liquid diet i was 297 & the morning of surgery i was 280. I’m currently 270 [emoji854]

20 minutes ago, 1badassbiggurl said:

My highest weight was 356. When i first met with my surgeon and we talked about possibility of WLS i was 321. When i started liquid diet i was 297 & the morning of surgery i was 280. I’m currently 270

You go girl! You realize that since your highest weight, you are 86 pounds down. You should be proud. Love hearing about success. ?????

You go girl! You realize that since your highest weight, you are 86 pounds down. You should be proud. Love hearing about success. [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322][emoji323][emoji323]

I really am proud of myself! However, i lost over 100lbs before and sadly put it back on; which was my reason for having surgery. This time is going to be different ...there’s no going back!!!

You should be very proud of yourself. Also, do what I’ve promised to do which is continue to post here. It will keep us accountable. I haven’t had my procedure done yet but it will likely be late January or early February. I have made a promise to myself that I don’t want the weight to come back once I lose it hopefully ????I think if we post on this forum we can support each other and help each other get through the difficult times. I’ll be happy to annoy you nonstop ??to make sure I hear from you at least once a week. Can you promise to do the same for me please??

Edited November 30, 20178 yr by hope4momof4

You should be very proud of yourself. Also, do what I’ve promised to do which is continue to post here. It will keep us accountable. I haven’t had my procedure done yet but it will likely be late January or early February. I have made a promise to myself that I don’t want the weight to come back once I lose it hopefully ????I think if we post on this forum we can support each other and help each other get through the difficult times. I’ll be happy to annoy you nonstop ??to make sure I hear from you at least once a week. Can you promise to do the same for me please?[emoji120]

Absolutely! ??

I found unbelievable support when I started telling family and friends. Initially I didn’t want anyone to know but, it really turned out to be a huge help psychologically and emotionally. It also helped me follow the rules.

I have developed a technique for dealing with people I don't want to tell about bariatric surgery and it works so well.

Here's how it goes... There is a particular pattern to most conversations about weight loss that goes like this.

Observer: Wow! You've really lost a ton of weight.
Person who lost weight: THANKS! [explains how they lost weight, how much they lost]

All I do is when people I don't know/like enough ask me about my weight loss, I just politely say "Thanks." That's it. I don't give details on how much I lost, how I lost it... nothing. I then either smile and move on to something/someone else or I flat out change the subject.

You would be amazed how well this works. People don't know what to do when you won't play the game. When they give you the opening to tell them about your weight loss and you don't take it, they just freeze.

It works like a charm.

1 hour ago, jot2xs said:

I found unbelievable support when I started telling family and friends. Initially I didn’t want anyone to know but, it really turned out to be a huge help psychologically and emotionally. It also helped me follow the rules.

That is great to hear. You are obviously surrounded by very caring and supportive people. I, however, know for sure that this will not be the case with me. Too many of my family members have made derogatory comments about anyone we know who’s had WLS. I could be wrong and their concern and love for me may allow them to become more open minded about this but I’m afraid to take that chance. Regardless of whether or not I want to admit it, their opinion of me matters so I can’t risk them thinking I took the easy way out or “cheated”. Of course this isn’t the easy way at all. But I believe I’ll have enough to worry about after my procedure. I don’t need their criticism on top of my struggle. I’m happy that your family and friends are supportive. You are a lucky person and must truly be loved.

5 minutes ago, etc. etc. etc. said:

I have developed a technique for dealing with people I don't want to tell about bariatric surgery and it works so well.

Here's how it goes... There is a particular pattern to most conversations about weight loss that goes like this.

Observer: Wow! You've really lost a ton of weight.
Person who lost weight: THANKS! [explains how they lost weight, how much they lost]

All I do is when people I don't know/like enough ask me about my weight loss, I just politely say "Thanks." That's it. I don't give details on how much I lost, how I lost it... nothing. I then either smile and move on to something/someone else or I flat out change the subject.

You would be amazed how well this works. People don't know what to do when you won't play the game. When they give you the opening to tell them about your weight loss and you don't take it, they just freeze.

It works like a charm.

Love this response!! I think I’ll try it myself. I absolutely agree!!

My sister and many others I know paved the path for me. However, I was very vocal with everyone about having the surgery. I would do it all over again. It's dramatically improved my health and wellbeing and I have my confidence back!

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