What happened here?

[hillnicole34 90]

Hello all[emoji1480]I have received a whole lot of knowledge on this sight and for that I am thankful [emoji16] but support and kindness[emoji19]not so much[emoji20] It seems to me that the people on here were way more supportive/friendly 2014, 2015 some what in 2016, then what i see now! What happened here? With the exception of a few..... I know everyone is not comfortable posting yet, but where's the luv? I just don't feel it[emoji20]maybe its just me!!!!! Ok rant over! Blessing to everyone[emoji1487] no matter where you are in this journey

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

Short story, everyone got banned/left. This is just a shell of what the site was when I started. A lot of the knowledge and experience is just gone.

[heycrystal2052 430]

I haven't really seen the negativity, wait, let me correct that. I ran into a few that I chose to block. They were the type of ladies who failed at understanding an opinion and took everything said, personally. The type of ladies, who went on and on and would only stop, when they were no longer acknowledged. BUT, they are the 1%

[Walter.Sobchak 978]

I did see a few douchebags that were basically on here to troll, but I don't much of them anymore. Maybe they were banned?
I only see a handful of people offering suggestions and support.
Such is life.

Sent from my SM-G900V using BariatricPal mobile app

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

I've seen both sides--I've been reading the site a lot since I joined. There's some justified tough love when someone admits to doing something they know they shouldn't . . . like the person who wanted advice on losing weight pre-op while admitting she loved cocktails and wings. Or--this one practically keeps me up at night--the person who admitted to being so hungry the week after her sleeve surgery that she was sneaking meat and other food in.

But there are plenty of people who will give useful information if asked, from what they eat to what they do for exercise or how long the pain lasted. There are opinions, sure . . . some people are more committed to their own point of view than others!

Good luck in finding what YOU need here.

[hillnicole34 90]

Walter.Sobchak I'm glad its not just me that see this/feel this way! Thanks all for the responses and insight everyone! maybe i just have the wrong expectations of this site or I could just be a little sensitive right now[emoji848]Idk

[OutsideMatchInside 10,166]

@hillnicole34

The site also changed a lot once the app became popular. None of the other WLS forums have working apps, so this one has the most traffic, which is good and terrible.

[heycrystal2052 430]

I must admit, I was banned from a FB group. Rocks (something), I forgot the name. The people on that site would post recipes containing breads, fried foods, pastas..etc. I expressed my concern and the poor habits they were sharing and I saw a lot of the newbies would get excited at such horrid foods. I was gained up on for expressing my distaste and was banned. In the meantime, people were emailing me agreeing w/ a lot of what I saying, but for the fear of being banned, they didn't say anything. Well, goodness.....ban me over and over, I will speak up. LOL

[Half-Tum 404]

I don't sense any negativity.

Y'all are stupid.





Just kidding, that was sarcasm.

[Joann454 1,329]

I've had decent experiences here and have received great advice. There are definitely some tools around and some hyper sensitive folks that get upset if you don't use emojis and hugs and say everything in the most delicate way. I have no patience with either lol

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

2 hours ago, Half-Tum said:

I don't sense any negativity.

Y'all are stupid.





Just kidding, that was sarcasm.

LOL, I know the feeling of having to explain that I was being sarcastic--seems weird to many and completely normal to me.

[Joann454 1,329]

LOL, I know the feeling of having to explain that I was being sarcastic--seems weird to many and completely normal to me.

Yeah, I've hurt some feelings unintentionally with sarcasm. I wish I could convey tone in text easily.

[hillnicole34 90]

Well I'm guilty[emoji1480]i definitely love emojis [emoji18][emoji30]lol but I also believe in tough love, i have probably read a lot of the post where the person was being xtra sensitive and wanted someone to basically lie to them and defend bad habits/behavior, not me I'm open to all feedback and understand that everyone wont agree, its ok to hear different opinions! I luv the honesty here! Thats a small part of why i continue to come here and the information of course! I just think there should be a little more dialogue when it comes to just conversations about the journey and not just about answering questions, I have a huge family but a small circle of people I've told about this surgery, not that their tired of hearing about it but its good to talk to other people who can relate to what your going threw! I know I'm all over the place with this post🤷🏾‍♀️lol i be having a lot to say🤦🏾‍♀️ thank you all for listening/reading my post! It feels good not to feels ignored[emoji1497]I'm the queen [emoji146]of sarcasm in my personal life[emoji56]

[hillnicole34 90]

Well I'm guilty[emoji1480]i definitely love emojis [emoji18][emoji30]lol but I also believe in tough love, i have probably read a lot of the post where the person was being xtra sensitive and wanted someone to basically lie to them and defend bad habits/behavior, not me I'm open to all feedback and understand that everyone wont agree, its ok to hear different opinions! I luv the honesty here! Thats a small part of why i continue to come here and the information of course! I just think there should be a little more dialogue when it comes to just conversations about the journey and not just about answering questions, I have a huge family but a small circle of people I've told about this surgery, not that their tired of hearing about it but its good to talk to other people who can relate to what your going threw! I know I'm all over the place with this post🤷🏾‍♀️lol i be having a lot to say🤦🏾‍♀️ thank you all for listening/reading my post! It feels good not to feels ignored[emoji1497]I'm the queen [emoji146]of sarcasm in my personal life[emoji56]

[shedo82773 1,236]

I totally get what you are saying. There was a time (not to far back) that I expressed my love of GENEPRO!!! I had quite a few people jump all over me!! That I was being misled all over the place and that GENEPRO was lying about how much Protein they had in it. Now I am ok with peole disagreeing, like was said NOT everyone has the same ideas as me. But...I have seen different ones on here. Not so much the ones that were here when I first started out. In a group like this we will all come accross someone that doesn't agree with us. There is a better way of saying it as how I was talked too. I was basically called a moron!! When I stated that it was sold here on BariatricPal Store. I was told it was just the money making that our leaders were into. There has to be a few in ever group. I try the old saying from one of my Favorite Disney shows. Thumper (I do love me some Thumper) His mom told him. If you can't say something nice, don't say NOTHING at all. Let's all agre to be better to each other. Everyone needs this site for support. I hope you all have a great THRUSDAY!!! KEEP ON KEEPING ON!!