How do you deal and what do you say when people doubt your ability to ensure the challenges after surgery? I had a co worker make a comment this morning.

I would say "you're entitled to your opinion," and then walk away and prove them wrong. Your long-term success will be your best response.

I'd like to say I'd do what @blizair09 said, but in reality I would probably spend some time finding their insecurities and exploiting them as much as possible with little nasty but totally ambiguous statements to them over the next few months. Realistically, only a really insecure person would say something negative about you making a positive life choice.

I'd like to say I'd do what [mention=298683]blizair09[/mention] said, but in reality I would probably spend some time finding their insecurities and exploiting them as much as possible with little nasty but totally ambiguous statements to them over the next few months. Realistically, only a really insecure person would say something negative about you making a positive life choice.

I love your idea!. I honestly think she was just concerned, wanting to make sure I know what I'm in for....... But it did cause me to doubt myself for a nanosecond

I would say "you're entitled to your opinion," and then walk away and prove them wrong. Your long-term success will be your best response.

That's what I plan on doing...... Just watch and see me succeed

I work for a major company & that behavior wouldn't be tolerated. If someone said that to me, I'd go straight to human resources.

I think I would just thank them for their concern and that you will consider what she said but that the bariatric team has your back and you trust them.

(And don't run to HR and whine, seriously)

4 hours ago, LiLiTsc said:

How do you deal and what do you say when people doubt your ability to ensure the challenges after surgery? I had a co worker make a comment this morning.

There's nothing you can do other than prove them wrong. I make sure to do absolutely nothing to quell their concerns, they are irrelevant. I'm doing this for myself not for anyone else, so proving to myself is the only essential part.

Edited April 28, 20179 yr by PatientEleventyBillion

There's nothing you can do other than prove them wrong. I make sure to do absolutely nothing to quell their concerns, they are irrelevant. I'm doing this for myself not for anyone else, so proving to myself is the only essential part.

Thank you