Hello! I'm currently 80 pounds down from my HW. I had surgery 10/10/16. Lately I've been getting a lot of attention from men. I just turned 24 and unfortunately I don't have much dating experience. Growing up I used my weight as crutch and refused to put myself out there .

How the hell am I supposed to navigate the dating scene? Should I date bariatric surgery guys only, because it is implied they understand this journey? What am I to do?

I'm 30 and haven't done much dating, and it does feel dishonest in some ways to date now. Not to mention hard in general.

I keep it to myself. No one needs to know unless the relationship becomes serious.

Focus more on figuring out how to date first.

I can't give advice on dating post WLS, but I'll share the things I did find.

A date's just a date. Try to have fun, laugh, connect - however it is you would with friends.

Don't go in with expectations of something life changing - life rarely changes in a hour or two, and expecting it to puts an awful lot of pressure on you and your date.

I split up from a long term partner seven years ago. I went out dating pretty quickly but decided that I just wanted to meet smart funny cute women and that I would enjoy their company. I had dates where I knew we wouldn't be intimate and they were brilliant fun. In the past I might have worried about whether we'd get together but I just decided that the only thing that mattered was enjoying the date.

As it happened I met my gorgeous wife and something did 'click'. And now we have a five year old son.

So my best advice is think of it like a couple of hours you want to enjoy and not an interview for being life partners or lovers.

Has anyone from here met and fell in love? Just curious. It'd be a great story.