Today is my anniversary. And I swear I must have seen the same lame Zales commercial 50 times. My divorce will be final soon, but I am still going through the grieving process. My pre op diet starts Jan 10th and my surgeons nurse has asked me to gain as much weight as I can until then. The ending of my marriage has been very difficult for me to handle. And I've been dropping weight too quickly.

Finally today is almost over!!!

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I can understand the feeling. My husband walked out 5 months ago today with out any warning. I was at work and got a text that he moved out. My wedding anniversary is next week and the divorce will be final in January. I put on my happy face most of the time but really feel like I'm falling apart inside still. Just keep trying to stay focused on the positive and take it day at a time. That's all any of us can do.

Im so sorry you are going through that. That's such a chicken shit way to leave.

Even though I left my husband it still hurts like hell because I still very much love him. But my safety and sanity was at risk. The day i left him i cut off all contact.

Maybe some things that help me will help you. First off, I'm alone. No friends, no job, no family. So that really sucks. I'm in a new state and feel pretty isolated. So I sit with my thoughts all day. I have positive affirmations on post it notes stuck on my bathroom mirror. I say them out loud as many times as I need to every day. I try and stay busy in my house and focus on things that make me happy. But you have to be careful that you are not just stuffing your feeling. You have to allow yourself to feel it and walk through it. One of my affirmations are. I will feel grief but I will not wallow in it.

I got a puppy. He is a great distraction.

On days that I just can't breathe I tell myself, one day all this hurt will be gone and I will feel normal again. I read everything about toxic relationships that I can get my hands on and I pray ALOT!

One day at a time and when that seems too much just one hour at a time.

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I believe it is related to the surgery!

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I haven't had surgery yet.

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I'm so flippen screwed! I have to gain weight or I'll never get this surgery. I know it sounds sooooo stupid. I know. But I weighed myself this evening. I've dropped another 5 pounds. Not on purpose. I swear I've never dropped weight like this in my life. It's just all this stress. I know eventually it will come back. I'm a month away from surgery. I can't let this stress beat me. I can hardly eat though. I need to put on some weight.

My surgeons nurse is concerned that my final weight before surgery will cause the insurance company to not pay for the surgery. So she told me to put on some weight before my pre op diet. Does that mean they cancel it right then and there or they bill me after its done? My NUT told me at my last appointment that my weight that day would be the last time the insurance looked at it.

I'm desperate! Please advise!

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Every insurance is different in requirements. I would suggest that you talk to the insurance company and find out exactly what they use for approval. Have them email it to you so you have it in writing.