Hi all -

I used to be on these boards a lot in the beginning to middle of last year, then decided to postpone my surgery until summer 2017 after my mom had to go to the hospital (and now a nursing home) this past summer and then I started nursing school (Holy stressful!).

I was cowardly when I backed out of the surgery, originally to take place summer 2016 - I just canceled my final meeting with the dietitian and never notified my surgeon. I was embarrassed because I hadn't been losing weight at the clip they wanted me to and having serious second thoughts about what it would be like to be just learning how to live with the sleeve at the same time as nursing school. I thought about Thanksgiving and Christmas and figured it would be awful to not be able to eat the way I wanted on those days.

So now it's the day after Thanksgiving, I ate how I wanted, I am ten pounds heavier than this time last year, and really want to get off the Morbid Obesity Express once and for all. I had a turnaround after we studied post-op care for bariatric surgery patients in school and I realized it must be WAY more common and less extreme than I had been thinking it was if they were teaching first-semester nursing students about it.

So anyway, has anyone else gone back to their surgeon with their tail between their legs? I didn't seriously think I would lose the weight myself, I just didn't think I was up for the operation yet. Any tips for the phone call I need to make? I know I have to ask them how much, if any, of the pre-surgical testing results from last year are still valid.

First of all, I don't think you were "cowardly" to back out of the surgery. It sounds like you weren't ready emotionally for the commitment. If you had gone through with it not being ready, you may not have been successful.

It seems like you are in a better place now & I think that makes a huge difference! Your surgeon likely won't have a problem with it. I'm sure people get cold feet or back out for various reasons all the time!

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Since You Say You're Sure Your Ready This Time. Then PRAY AND TAKE THE STEP to go talk with your surgeon. If he's meant to be the one to perform your surgery and he's been doing this for a while, he'll understand. You weren't the first to change their mind and won't be the last.

I had my revision on Nov 14, 2016 & I was actually having second thoughts on that day, and they told me that it happens often that people get that far and change their minds for varies reasons.

Step Out and do what I believe will be one of the Best things for You and Your Health.

And PRAY PRAY PRAY WITHOUT END

For With GOD YOU CAN & WILL DO IT

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