How many of us have had food funerals? My pre op diet starts December 2nd so I have about 2 weeks left and mentally I'm like oh no I need to eat all my favorite foods! Chinese, Chipotle, Pizza etc.... but my gut is telling me don't do it! So I'm curious how many people felt that way before that they needed to get all their favorites in before pre op and before this life change, and how many people actually gave in and ate those foods? Like yesterday I wasn't even hungry but I passed a chipotle and was like should I go in and get some?! I might never be able to again! and then I was like that is pathetic Marina don't think like that, your not even hungry, so don't eat! so I didn't go but it made me realize my relationship with food and that I'm literally almost scared of that fact that I won't be able to eat this stuff anymore, so I decided that instead of spending money on food, every time I wanna go buy and eat food I shouldn't instead of doing so I'm gonna stand my ground and put that money I would of spent on that food to the side and I'm gonna save up that money and set goals for myself of none relation food items I want and when I save enough money for that item I'm gonna reward myself for not giving into my head hunger, I know to some that might sound dumb but I personally know that will help this food addict over here, anyone else have tips on what helped them? Thanks everyone!

I thought I was going to do several food funerals but I really didn't have the desire. My birthday was a couple of weeks before my surgery and we went out and had one nice meal, German food. It is very heavy food, fried meat, loads of carbs. It truly is something I may never eat again.

I only had to do an easy 3 day pre-op diet. My surgeon said I had the smallest liver he has ever seen, in fact I had one less incision because he did not have to use the liver retracting thing on me.

I say pick one nice meal and go have it before you start your pre-op diet.

I didn't do any food funerals.

Junk food hasn't been my friend, in fact it's been my nemesis. My poor choices in relation to this food have caused me a great deal of strife, so why would I Celebrate it?

I don't know what my "last supper" of bad food was. I made an effort, once my surgery was booked back in July, to clean up my eating habits.

I'm not counting on the surgery to fix my mental issues around food. Pigging out on junk food and fast food is disordered eating - it provides virtually no nutritional value, yet we continue to choose junk food over nutritious choices.

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to say goodbye to Chic-Fil-A waffle fries...

Went on Vacation in September ate pretty well came back started cutting down in October, Said good bye to food on 10/26 joined the gym have dropped 25lbs and I am not looking back surgery 11/29. Mind over matter think positive

I didn't do any food funerals.

Junk food hasn't been my friend, in fact it's been my nemesis. My poor choices in relation to this food have caused me a great deal of strife, so why would I celebrate it?

I don't know what my "last supper" of bad food was. I made an effort, once my surgery was booked back in July, to clean up my eating habits.

I'm not counting on the surgery to fix my mental issues around food. Pigging out on junk food and fast food is disordered eating - it provides virtually no nutritional value, yet we continue to choose junk food over nutritious choices.

Some good points. But like I had said in my post above, I don't really see a correlation between food funerals and how successful people are post op. Of course, you can be successful and lose the weight and even keep it off and have disordered eating. Or at least SEE food in a disordered way.

How many of us have had food funerals? My pre op diet starts December 2nd so I have about 2 weeks left and mentally I'm like oh no I need to eat all my favorite foods! Chinese, Chipotle, pizza etc.... but my gut is telling me don't do it! So I'm curious how many people felt that way before that they needed to get all their favorites in before pre op and before this life change, and how many people actually gave in and ate those foods? Like yesterday I wasn't even hungry but I passed a chipotle and was like should I go in and get some?! I might never be able to again! and then I was like that is pathetic Marina don't think like that, your not even hungry, so don't eat! so I didn't go but it made me realize my relationship with food and that I'm literally almost scared of that fact that I won't be able to eat this stuff anymore, so I decided that instead of spending money on food, every time I wanna go buy and eat food I shouldn't instead of doing so I'm gonna stand my ground and put that money I would of spent on that food to the side and I'm gonna save up that money and set goals for myself of none relation food items I want and when I save enough money for that item I'm gonna reward myself for not giving into my head hunger, I know to some that might sound dumb but I personally know that will help this food addict over here, anyone else have tips on what helped them? Thanks everyone!

I have already been thinking that and I still have months before my surgery! It's like I'm sad I won't be able to stuff my face again at a buffet or cruise and it's like ending my life's favorite pass time. I totally get you!

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@@Missymayor yes that is so how I'm feeling!!!!!! its a little pathetic but we all got to this point for a reason!

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to say goodbye to Chic-Fil-A waffle fries...

im not ready!!! lol

One of the women in my pre surgery group admired to having a "last supper" almost every evening for 3 months. She gained 30 pounds...

I was planning one but only had 5 days between my pre surgery visit and my surgery. I decided that shrinking my liver was more important that shrimp scampi and coconut cream pie.

I was to wait for 3 months until I had a hole in my work schedule. My spouse started cooking immediately and started serving all this things he never thought I would be able to eat again. Then we went on vacation and I gained more weight. I was pretty disgusted with myself...and even wondered if my spouse was trying to sabotage me....

I lost it all plus my required on the pre-op diet. I thought about a famous last meal, but decided the "one more" philosophy is how I ended up in this mess. I did go out and have sushi the night before, but I kept it pretty tame. Just a little spicy tuna roll. No beer, nothing fried or creamed. You've got enough to worry about. Keep your eye on the prize.

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You all are so right, my surgery is December 16th and a part of me is like how can you do this to yourself around the holidays! especially since in my family Christmas dinner is the best haha but then another part of me is like this shows how much you want it you could of asked for a different date but no you choose that one cause your sick of your weight and don't wanna wait anymore and your doing something about it so don't do anything to mess it up! my pre op diet starts December 2nd so i guess thanksgiving will technically be my last meal but in my head I'm already like don't be a pig have little portions of stuff and just one plate try to take control don't ruin it when your so close, i wasn't told i had to lose anything before surgery they did give me a phase one diet which was to help shrink the liver even more over these past couple months did i really follow that diet eh lol but i know the pre op diet will definitely be important to shrink my liver so i am definitely gonna follow that and not cheat but i don't wanna gain before then either by having "last suppers" all the time even though i really want them haha

Two people in my pre op class put off surgery till after the holidays even knowing that they would have to keep going to pre op classes and appointments. I don't get it.

Two people in my pre op class put off surgery till after the holidays even knowing that they would have to keep going to pre op classes and appointments. I don't get it.

thats crazy! pfft i wish i could but I'm not bettering myself by waiting and pushing it off to be able to eat whatever i want for the holidays

I had a last meal at my favourite pub before I started my 2 week pre surgery liquid diet. All my friends are super supportive, so we all went out to dinner together, then got silly on some bevvies. It was a good time, and I don't regret it. Looking back on that evening though what stands out to me was the company, not the food.

I had lots of food funerals before I had surgery. Usually they were Sunday nights (because diets start on Mondays) the 31st of the month (because diets start on the 1st), and the night of every major hurt (because clearly we were hurt because we were fat so the diet must start the next day). I also had one before my 1 week liquid diet. Your liver will not be any fattier than would otherwise be the case because two weeks before surgery you had yourself a food binge, so it really just comes down to whether it's something you feel like doing.

On an interesting note, I haven't had a food funeral since surgery and it's been 38 months. Now, if I want something, I eat it, except I eat such a small amount that there's no need to binge and go on a diet the next day because I know if I want it again in the future, a few bites is all I need and I can have it. A few weeks ago I started eating Fiber One Cookies, which is a great way to gain weight, and I found myself throwing out a leftover box on Sunday night so I wouldn't eat them on Monday. I intentionally left them in my pantry for the next two weeks instead of tossing them so I would see that I control food now, it doesn't control me.

In hindsight, I would have still had my food funeral before surgery, although I might have cried less afterward if I had known that more than three years in the future I would be the person I am now- someone who doesn't need food funerals anymore, who doesn't think about dieting the first day of every week, of every month, and after every major disappointment, and whose first thought when things went wrong isn't that if I wasn't fat and worthless things would be different.

Food funerals are ok and just like real funerals, sometimes it just means that you're getting the closure you need to move on to a better place.