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Time to return :(

Have to go back to work Wednesday :( Really not looking forward to anyone's smart ass comments or questions . Or in fact staring . I am down 25 lbs since I left 3 weeks ago . Come on everyone I need some good comebacks since I chose not to tell anyone at work .

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Oh I don't think .... I know !!! I work in a place where people have no boundaries . They are always talking about peoples rears, tattoos, makeup , lunch , weight etc. I make to much money and get to much time off to leave and I am union . So I just don't listen or join in . I know they will ask how did u lose weight so fast ?? Just don't feel like answering

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If you are asked why you were gone from work, just say you had personal business to attend to. If someone asks if you have lost weight, say yes and thank you.

Don't let anyone draw you into anything. Just smile and walk away.

Oh I don't think .... I know !!! I work in a place where people have no boundaries . They are always talking about peoples rears, tattoos, makeup , lunch , weight etc.

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Sounds like an HR manager's dream!

In my experience people don't notice weight loss on obese people until you've lost about 20% of your total body weight, so you may be in luck.

If people know you were out for some kind of surgery, but don't know what kind, you have a couple of options if they ask you what kind of surgery you had:

"I'm sorry, I'm really not very good at discussing personal medical matters, but I am fine now, thank you for asking"

"I'm sorry, HR advised me it's best not to get into personal medical matters at work, but I appreciate your concern. I am doing fine."

--pretend you just received a call or text on your cell and walk away while talking/typing into your phone as you apologize

"excuse me???" said in an air of mild disbelief, repeat as necessary

If someone flat out asks you if you had weight loss surgery, you can either lie, tell the truth, or say something like "wow, that's personal! Do you think I needed weight loss surgery?"

If they just comment generally on weight loss, say something like "hey, thanks for noticing! I've been working really hard!"

If they comment generally on your being gone, just say, thanks for your concern, I am doing great and am happy to be back at work.

Keep in mind that most people will figure out or assume you've had weight loss surgery eventually, and flat-out lying about it may make people dislike or distrust you. That may or may not be of concern, depending on your workplace, whether you want to count on any of them for referrals or references, etc. Good luck!

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I don't mind talking about it to most people but those I've chosen not to share with I tell them I had hiatal hernia surgery (which I did) which accounts for the liquid diet, which accounts in turn for my weight loss.

Really none of anyone's business unless you decide to share ;-)

I have lost 25 pounds and no one has noticed- I even wore a dress I haven't been able to wear in years that is fitted and nothing.... So you might be able to buy yourself some time.... You can smartly reply- well I don't eat.... Which is mostly the truth

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Just say, "eating less and moving more."

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"Yes I've lost weight, thanks"....how did I do it? "it's all about the math, I'm eating less and moving more.".....and if they're a real jerk, you can add, "you should try it.".....haha

Have to go back to work Wednesday :( Really not looking forward to anyone's smart ass comments or questions . Or in fact staring . I am down 25 lbs since I left 3 weeks ago . Come on everyone I need some good comebacks since I chose not to tell anyone at work .

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I lied. I had surgery last winter for endometriosis, when they asked if it was related this year I just said yes. I'm down 21 pounds, return in 6 days. I'm 5'11 was 310 now 289 .... don't think anyone will notice as I cannot notice yet.

Best wishes to you - ignore anyone rude and be proud!

In my experience people don't notice weight loss on obese people until you've lost about 20% of your total body weight, so you may be in luck.

If people know you were out for some kind of surgery, but don't know what kind, you have a couple of options if they ask you what kind of surgery you had:

"I'm sorry, I'm really not very good at discussing personal medical matters, but I am fine now, thank you for asking"

"I'm sorry, HR advised me it's best not to get into personal medical matters at work, but I appreciate your concern. I am doing fine."

--pretend you just received a call or text on your cell and walk away while talking/typing into your phone as you apologize

"excuse me???" said in an air of mild disbelief, repeat as necessary

If someone flat out asks you if you had weight loss surgery, you can either lie, tell the truth, or say something like "wow, that's personal! Do you think I needed weight loss surgery?"

If they just comment generally on weight loss, say something like "hey, thanks for noticing! I've been working really hard!"

If they comment generally on your being gone, just say, thanks for your concern, I am doing great and am happy to be back at work.

Keep in mind that most people will figure out or assume you've had weight loss surgery eventually, and flat-out lying about it may make people dislike or distrust you. That may or may not be of concern, depending on your workplace, whether you want to count on any of them for referrals or references, etc. Good luck!

I like the "wow that's personal..." statement. Too funny.

I go back to work tomorrow after being out for 6 weeks. I feel the same exact way I only chose to tell a few people from work bc I know i can trust them, I'm not ready for the smart ass comments or questions. Really dreading going back, down 29lbs. Good luck going back!!

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I go back to work tomorrow after being out for 6 weeks. I feel the same exact way I only chose to tell a few people from work bc I know i can trust them, I'm not ready for the smart ass comments or questions. Really dreading going back, down 29lbs. Good luck going back!!

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Good luck to you! ☺

If you don't intend to tell them the truth behind your weightloss then have some fun with it. Make up some horrible disease that would make them very uncomfortable asking more questions. You have cancer but are too devastated to talk about it. You got a parasite from eating at X restaurant and the doctors can't figure out how to kill it. Internal flesh eating bacteria has destroyed most of your GI tract. My brother in law does this all the time when people ask inappropriate questions and it's great entertainment to watch their reactions.

People really didnt see my weight loss until 40 pounds or so , but you could say you changed poor eating habits , drink more water and lots of walking , Best wishes

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