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Why im not going thru with surgery

Ive done all the pre op testing got approved by insurance and all of a sudden i got this huge wave of doubt. Everything moved so fast i dont think i really took the time to analyze my situation and if this really is THE BEST option. After doing some soul searching i know this isnt for me. Ive lost over 80lbs on my own before. For me its 110% mental and surgery doesnt wont fix my brain. So im going au natural. Its going to be the hardest thing ive ever done in my life but i know i'll be a better person because of it. Good luck to everyone this is a life long battel for most of us whatever it takes for you to be happy just do it!

Little tia

Cw :348 5'4

Gw healthy (170ish)

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Good luck to you on your journey. Wishing you the best!

Only you knows what is best for you. Best of luck!

It's definitely a decision we have to make individually, for ourselves. Surgery is just a tool and if you don't have the capacity to wield that tool, then you won't be as successful as you could be. I wish you the best of luck with the route you have chosen.

We all just want what is best for you. We are not advocates, we are support.

Ive done all the pre op testing got approved by insurance and all of a sudden i got this huge wave of doubt. Everything moved so fast i dont think i really took the time to analyze my situation and if this really is THE BEST option. After doing some soul searching i know this isnt for me. Ive lost over 80lbs on my own before. For me its 110% mental and surgery doesnt wont fix my brain. So im going au natural. Its going to be the hardest thing ive ever done in my life but i know i'll be a better person because of it. Good luck to everyone this is a life long battel for most of us whatever it takes for you to be happy just do it!

Little tia

Cw :348 5'4

Gw healthy (170ish)

Good luck. I wish you all the best.

You have to do what is best for you. Good luck on your journey

There is no right path to a healthier you.... as long as you pick a path and start the journey. I wish you all the success and willpower you need to reach your goal!

You show great strength and determination in deciding to "cut line" and take the path that is "right" for you.

Please, come back to BP and let us know how you are doing. Even though you have chosen a different fork in the road, we are all on the same journey.

Best of wishes to you, Friend.

I was 400pds, got down to 286 naturally. After awhile even though following my cleaning eating and workouts I gained some pounds and then always stayed yoyo'd for almost 2yrs between 290-295. One week after my 2nd half marathon I had a injury and got up to 305. Yea I had cheat meals even though I couldnt work them off but mostly gained because of swelling after a hip procedure done in efforts to help my back. I say all that to say good luck and make sure you have a great chiropractor/ physicians. I was and am a plus size athlete and after my injury I learned sooooooo much about all the horrible physical damage we with extra weight do to our own bodies by "pushing" ourself and doing things that our skeleton can not handle. Do it smart! And unlike me dont push to hard. After 3 years of loosing my 100+ pds, being a featured athlete on the news, winning a inspiring health award for our community, and motivating a TON of others. I had to get sleeved to hurry and get pressure off my spine. I just had my surgery 6/27 and I can honestly say I have not had 1 backache. I urge you to be smart! And although you may be mentally healthy to begin the journey again, make sure you are physically healthy along the way. I know I can't wait to run and be back at boot camp now I will be able to do even more without all the weighg hurting me so I am excited! God bless your journey! Everyone is here to support you and your decision. Just know surgery isn't an easy way out. Nor does it limit you. It helps you be able to accomplish even more!

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I was 400pds, got down to 286 naturally. After awhile even though following my cleaning eating and workouts I gained some pounds and then always stayed yoyo'd for almost 2yrs between 290-295. One week after my 2nd half marathon I had a injury and got up to 305. Yea I had cheat meals even though I couldnt work them off but mostly gained because of swelling after a hip procedure done in efforts to help my back. I say all that to say good luck and make sure you have a great chiropractor/ physicians. I was and am a plus size athlete and after my injury I learned sooooooo much about all the horrible physical damage we with extra weight do to our own bodies by "pushing" ourself and doing things that our skeleton can not handle. Do it smart! And unlike me dont push to hard. After 3 years of loosing my 100+ pds, being a featured athlete on the news, winning a inspiring health award for our community, and motivating a TON of others. I had to get sleeved to hurry and get pressure off my spine. I just had my surgery 6/27 and I can honestly say I have not had 1 backache. I urge you to be smart! And although you may be mentally healthy to begin the journey again, make sure you are physically healthy along the way. I know I can't wait to run and be back at boot camp now I will be able to do even more without all the weighg hurting me so I am excited! God bless your journey! Everyone is here to support you and your decision. Just know surgery isn't an easy way out. Nor does it limit you. It helps you be able to accomplish even more!

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Thank you so much for that! My biggest issue is that this has forever been my biggest demon i feel that getting the surgery will cheat me of that experience of doing it on my own and i fear going thru life unfufilled. I would consider myself Somewhat of a plus size athlete lol i love the gym i love being active i have always dreamed of being a runner. Im also afraid that i wont break my food addiction and will seriously hurt myself if i go thru with this. I told my Dr i would let him know my final answer in a week.

Little tia

Edited by Littletiea

I was 400pds, got down to 286 naturally. After awhile even though following my cleaning eating and workouts I gained some pounds and then always stayed yoyo'd for almost 2yrs between 290-295. One week after my 2nd half marathon I had a injury and got up to 305. Yea I had cheat meals even though I couldnt work them off but mostly gained because of swelling after a hip procedure done in efforts to help my back. I say all that to say good luck and make sure you have a great chiropractor/ physicians. I was and am a plus size athlete and after my injury I learned sooooooo much about all the horrible physical damage we with extra weight do to our own bodies by "pushing" ourself and doing things that our skeleton can not handle. Do it smart! And unlike me dont push to hard. After 3 years of loosing my 100+ pds, being a featured athlete on the news, winning a inspiring health award for our community, and motivating a TON of others. I had to get sleeved to hurry and get pressure off my spine. I just had my surgery 6/27 and I can honestly say I have not had 1 backache. I urge you to be smart! And although you may be mentally healthy to begin the journey again, make sure you are physically healthy along the way. I know I can't wait to run and be back at boot camp now I will be able to do even more without all the weighg hurting me so I am excited! God bless your journey! Everyone is here to support you and your decision. Just know surgery isn't an easy way out. Nor does it limit you. It helps you be able to accomplish even more!

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Thank you so much for that! My biggest issue is that this has forever been my biggest demon i feel that getting the surgery will cheat me of that experience of doing it on my own and i fear going thru life unfufilled. I would consider myself Somewhat of a plus size athlete lol i love the gym i love being active i have always dreamed of being a runner. Im also afraid that i wont break my food addiction and will seriously hurt myself if i go thru with this. I told my Dr i would let him know my final answer in a week.

Little tia

I admire your honesty to yourself and your Dr. I have always been big I looked into this surgery 9 yrs ago and really just couldnt afford it then after having to go to a trainer (because it was bday gift -_- didnt want to be rude lol) i found a love with workout. I never wanted this surgery. Seriously my spine specialist recommended it june 7th. And june 10th i was sitting in a bariatric office i was there alllllll day doing several insurance required appointments. Then that monday the 13th i waa already on my preop diet :/. I was so sad and mad at first cause i felt i had no choice this or back surgery but now Im happy i did it. Im not at all worried about looking smaller lol I just want to run faster and longer. But I was like you I wanted to face my biggest challenges! I really suggest that too. I believe everyone should try for themselves if they can first. It truly allows you to appreciate the process and really fall in love with becoming healthy. If I would of done it before trying I would of just been worried about weight and being smaller. Now Im in school for nutrition and i speak to others about healthy living and we have started a community walking group so I do believe you taking your time is going to have its benefits! Whatever your choice you will be successful!

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I was 400pds, got down to 286 naturally. After awhile even though following my cleaning eating and workouts I gained some pounds and then always stayed yoyo'd for almost 2yrs between 290-295. One week after my 2nd half marathon I had a injury and got up to 305. Yea I had cheat meals even though I couldnt work them off but mostly gained because of swelling after a hip procedure done in efforts to help my back. I say all that to say good luck and make sure you have a great chiropractor/ physicians. I was and am a plus size athlete and after my injury I learned sooooooo much about all the horrible physical damage we with extra weight do to our own bodies by "pushing" ourself and doing things that our skeleton can not handle. Do it smart! And unlike me dont push to hard. After 3 years of loosing my 100+ pds, being a featured athlete on the news, winning a inspiring health award for our community, and motivating a TON of others. I had to get sleeved to hurry and get pressure off my spine. I just had my surgery 6/27 and I can honestly say I have not had 1 backache. I urge you to be smart! And although you may be mentally healthy to begin the journey again, make sure you are physically healthy along the way. I know I can't wait to run and be back at boot camp now I will be able to do even more without all the weighg hurting me so I am excited! God bless your journey! Everyone is here to support you and your decision. Just know surgery isn't an easy way out. Nor does it limit you. It helps you be able to accomplish even more!

Sent from my LG-D415 using the BariatricPal App

Thank you so much for that! My biggest issue is that this has forever been my biggest demon i feel that getting the surgery will cheat me of that experience of doing it on my own and i fear going thru life unfufilled. I would consider myself Somewhat of a plus size athlete lol i love the gym i love being active i have always dreamed of being a runner. Im also afraid that i wont break my food addiction and will seriously hurt myself if i go thru with this. I told my Dr i would let him know my final answer in a week.

Little tia

Whether you decide to have surgery now, later, or never, that doesn't mean you can't use other support resources to help you with your food addiction.

If you don't have one already, see if you can find a good therapist who works with bariatric patients. You may also want to attend some Overeaters Anonymous meetings. You can find meeting lists, podcasts, and other resources online at OA.org.

There are also many excellent books. When Food is Love by Geneen Roth and Eat It Up! by Connie Stapleton are both good.

Keep us posted on how you are doing.

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