Honestly, this is a big fear of mine. My best friend hardly talks to her own sister after her sister had weight loss surgery. Mostly because it brings up insecurities about herself. I have resolved not to tell my best friend, but am still worried about how she will react once I loose weight. I would never make the decision NOT to do it because of how she feels, but at the same time, it's heavy on my mind.

I have my initial consult on June first, so I am a long way off from this, but I've read this is a common thing. That friends will be lost in the process, and it just saddens me so much. I would never be friends with a person because of their size. Small or large. It's the person inside that matters to me.

I must say that prior to my surgery I partied more than I care to admit and those so called "friends" were very supportive of my decision to have WLS. However, they are nowhere to be found now that I'm almost a month post op.

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My husband is truly supportive of my decision and does his best to be flexible with all my constant dietary demands and changes.

This is sort of true for me, although we didn't "party" my friends and I did go out and do things at least 1-2 times a month. My friends are thin & were very supportive of me getting surgery, so I really don't know what I have done, but now I am not included in any plans. Even though I know now that they are truly not friends it hurts to be left in the dust. Thankfully I have my husband.

My best friend voiced her opinion and was against me having surgery. I simply told her that she didn't have to live in my body. We barely speak anymore and I have seen her one time since. And even after a 20lb. Loss she didn't congratulate me or say anything about it. I guess I don't matter as much as I used to.

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My friend is starting to treat me differently. I chose not to tell anyone about my WLS but instead saying that I am making good food choices, changing the way I eat, and working out (all true).

Now whenever I see her I see her look me up and down and wrinkle her nose.

I hope I don't lose her but if I do then it's probably for the best.