Okay. Some of you who know a little about me, know that I have already been kind of struggling to maintain my weight as I was training for a half marathon (now training for a marathon). Throughout the course of the 14 week half-marathon training program, I managed to keep my weight pretty steady around 160 with only mild fluctuations. I got a FitBit and tracked all my food to make sure I was eating back the extra calories I was burning. But now I have a whole other problem.

My husband and I are going through some serious marital challenges. It has caused me a lot of stress and sleepless nights and I am just not wanting to eat AT ALL. I want to be training for this full marathon in September, but I am eating maybe 1500 calories a day if I REALLY push it? On Saturday, I had breakfast at like 8:00, then I met my sister in the afternoon. Driving home from meeting my sister at about 4:00 I realized I hadn't eaten since breakfast!

I am way off of my game. Yesterday I was down to 157 pounds, the lowest number I've ever seen on the scale. I don't know how to force myself to eat. It was one thing when it was just a matter of fitting in enough "feedings" to get in my calories with the marathon training. Now it's not only that, but I just feel constantly nauseous from the stress, worry, anxiety, and grief.

I know there are others of you who have gone through rough times post-op. Whether it be relationship issues, job issues, a death in the family, etc. How did you stay on track and stick to your eating schedule through those tough times?

I think that now that I'm back at work for the week, it will be a little easier to stay on my normal schedule for eating too. Over the weekend it was a real mess. And I'm worried that my evening routines are going to be pretty thrown off too if my husband and I aren't eating dinner together and we are working on the things we need to work on moving forward.

Yup. I had a great time when family was here for Liz's graduation - and didn't eat anything I wasn't supposed to, but those days are a blur and I have no idea if I met goals or not. I do much better with a regular routine and just the normal stresses of life. you're in my thoughts as you move forward.

Well, I am to the point now where I think I'm going to have to call my doctor on Monday. I'm down to 154.6 now from 163 on May 6. So over 8 pounds in 15 days. I wasn't even losing weight this fast when I was *trying*! I'm still not eating as frequently as I should and what I do eat is going straight through me. I don't know if/when I've ever had this level of stress, worry, and anxiety in my life! There are all the logistics of the divorce.... listing and selling our house, sorting out finances, making plans for living on my own..... Then there is just the constant worry for my husband. He is not taking this well at all and I feel so badly for him. I hate that I am the source of his pain and there is nothing *I* can do to help him other than urge him to seek help and support elsewhere. Is next therapy session isn't until Thursday and I don't know how he is going to make it until then. He's barely functional.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I am convinced that many of my issues with food/eating are directly related to how I deal with stress.

I am so glad to hear that you and your husband have an appointment for counseling.

You have already received some great advice.

I would also recommend you do something nice for yourself. Maybe schedule a massage and/or do something creative -- take an art class or something similar. (These are my latest solutions for everything!)

Sending hugs.

Just wanted to post a quick update in case anyone is still worried about me. After weighing in at 154.6 on Saturday, I have weighed in at exactly 155 the past three mornings. So things seem to have stabilized.

Thanks, Jamie. I have been thinking about you -- and your husband.

You'll both pull through this and go on to much better times.

I hope we do worry a bit about each other.

Sometimes I feel like this is one of the few places I can chat and people truly understand.

Life gets complicated and our digestive systems can sometimes take the brunt of it in my opinion.

I get new energy from the newbies, but adore reading about us "oldies" that have been around awhile.

Even though we haven't met, chatting about relationships, death, bathroom habits all spill out here and it is ok!!!

Things are still holding pretty steady weight-wise. I have been back down to 154.6 the last couple of days, but not dropped below that.

You seem to be so strong. I really admire that with a lot of adversity around you right now. Wishing you peace during some turmoil.

Had a really rough weekend! Worked very hard on getting our house ready to list this week. My husband was a wreck all day Sunday. He literally spent several hours just staring off into space. I had to cook him dinner to get him to eat. If you knew me, you would know how remarkable that is. I DO NOT COOK!

He seemed a bit better yesterday. But between all the housework, his mood swings, and it being a long weekend, I was honestly grateful to get back to work this morning. I even came in an half hour early! Sad that I long for weekdays and dread weekends now!

I've been steady at 154.4 the last two mornings. So it looks like the rough weekend didn't take too much of a toll on my weight at least.

Lord, I hope you guys aren't going to be living together much longer.

This is hard duty for you both.

And not altogether a safe situation for you.

Just sayin'.

Lord, I hope you guys aren't going to be living together much longer.

This is hard duty for you both.

And not altogether a safe situation for you.

Just sayin'.

Well the house will be listed this week. Fingers crossed that it sells quickly, but we are still looking at a good 2-3 months to close on it, even once we accept an offer.

Jamie,

I would SO move out.

And the sooner the better.

You have more options than you think, including house sitting.

I say this based on what I've seen happen with people who never imagined, pre-breakup, that they would instigate or be on the receiving end of physical violence -- or worse.

No one ever believes it will happen to them. No one.

i really don't have any option to move out. Nor does he. Until the house sells, we are both trapped there. We have literally zero money that isn't tied up in the house. Neither of us has family nearby that we can realistically stay with.

I will say that I am 100% confident that there will be no violence or even vindictiveness. But if it did come down to that, I am 100% confident I could take him in a fight! I'm pretty badass now.

i really don't have any option to move out. Nor does he. Until the house sells, we are both trapped there. We have literally zero money that isn't tied up in the house. Neither of us has family nearby that we can realistically stay with.

I will say that I am 100% confident that there will be no violence or even vindictiveness. But if it did come down to that, I am 100% confident I could take him in a fight! I'm pretty badass now.

Maybe. As long as the fight does not involve a weapon. Danger Will Robinson, Danger.

i really don't have any option to move out. Nor does he. Until the house sells, we are both trapped there. We have literally zero money that isn't tied up in the house. Neither of us has family nearby that we can realistically stay with.

I will say that I am 100% confident that there will be no violence or even vindictiveness. But if it did come down to that, I am 100% confident I could take him in a fight! I'm pretty badass now.

Maybe. As long as the fight does not involve a weapon. Danger Will Robinson, Danger.

If you knew my husband, you would know how absurd a notion that is! He seems to be doing a bit better these last two days. Kind of in a numb denial I think. He has therapy this evening, so hopefully that will help some.