Okay. Some of you who know a little about me, know that I have already been kind of struggling to maintain my weight as I was training for a half marathon (now training for a marathon). Throughout the course of the 14 week half-marathon training program, I managed to keep my weight pretty steady around 160 with only mild fluctuations. I got a FitBit and tracked all my food to make sure I was eating back the extra calories I was burning. But now I have a whole other problem.

My husband and I are going through some serious marital challenges. It has caused me a lot of stress and sleepless nights and I am just not wanting to eat AT ALL. I want to be training for this full marathon in September, but I am eating maybe 1500 calories a day if I REALLY push it? On Saturday, I had breakfast at like 8:00, then I met my sister in the afternoon. Driving home from meeting my sister at about 4:00 I realized I hadn't eaten since breakfast!

I am way off of my game. Yesterday I was down to 157 pounds, the lowest number I've ever seen on the scale. I don't know how to force myself to eat. It was one thing when it was just a matter of fitting in enough "feedings" to get in my calories with the marathon training. Now it's not only that, but I just feel constantly nauseous from the stress, worry, anxiety, and grief.

I know there are others of you who have gone through rough times post-op. Whether it be relationship issues, job issues, a death in the family, etc. How did you stay on track and stick to your eating schedule through those tough times?

You are the one who knows best. others are speaking out of their own experience, things they have seen. and they care about you and want to know that you are ok. I am glad you've been able to halt the weight loss. I was afraid you'd have to hold back on the running, and I know how therapeutic walking or running can be when you are going through a hard time.

"If you knew my husband, you would know how absurd a notion that is! He seems to be doing a bit better these last two days. Kind of in a numb denial I think. He has therapy this evening, so hopefully that will help some."

@@Christinamo7 Actually, this morning I was down to 153.0 out of nowhere. Had been steady at 154.4 for two days then BAM! Down another 1.4 pounds.....

@@JamieLogical I figure any up and down within a 5 pound range is probably just normal life - but let's not see it continue. I want to see you able to keep up your running.

Sorry Jamie

Funny (well not so much funny but coincidencedently) my husband and I are going through a bit of a rough patch. Afyer being together for almost 30 years, we've been through them before, but this one feels.....different. Unlike you, like I explained before, I've put on a few pounds and am finding it hard to get the motivation to excersise

Lurking on this thread feeling sad for both of you Jamie & Babbs.

I don't know either of your individual circumstances but it's sad to see two solid rocks on this site in these situations simultaneously.

Take care of yourselves...both of you. Hugs.

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@@HopeandAgony

You're a doll. Thanks

Although I've absolutely denied it before in many threads, I honestly do wonder if the surgery is the cause of marital strife, even unintended? When he had RNY 10 years ago, no issues. If anything, we became closer. Weird, right?

I guess marriage counseling will help answer that.

@@Babbs I hope you get the answers. one thing I know in a long term relationship - there are ups and downs. I am not the same woman my husband married 19 years ago. he is not the same either. growing old SUCKS. We also go through good times and bad times. so it could be connected, could be not.

You'll see me get a little nervous - and I think perhaps my weight loss may possibly stall a bit when I get south of 180, because he has never liked 'little' women. and subconsciously I think that may cause me to falter, that will be smaller than he has ever known me. trying to look that beast in the EYE now, in hopes of taking the wind out of it's sails. and of course, in part it will depend on how the man acts when I get to that place.

wishing you the very best. and I hope you can find a manner of exercise that allows you to vent some of the stress.

@@HopeandAgony

You're a doll. Thanks

Although I've absolutely denied it before in many threads, I honestly do wonder if the surgery is the cause of marital strife, even unintended? When he had RNY 10 years ago, no issues. If anything, we became closer. Weird, right?

I guess marriage counseling will help answer that.

It's definitely something to think about.

I was previously married for 10 years. Got divorced over 10 years ago. I've since remarried (someone else of course) and have been married for almost 7 years.

I am also a mental health patient (OCD and anxiety) and have taken medication my adult life. I had to make a medication change since being sleeved but absolutely cannot be without it.

It's hard to imagine something changing between my husband and I but seeing you and Jamie go through this does give me some anxiety (it's my worrying nature of course).

I really hope you can work things out if that is what you want. It's a rough road, but one way or another you will come out stronger. Just believe that.

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I don't think surgery was so much the CAUSE of the issues in our marriage so much as an indication of how different we truly are and how we hope to achieve happiness. My surgery was just one major example of how I strive to constantly improve myself and grow. Whereas my husband is content to stagnate. It's certainly not the only example of that though.

I don't think surgery was so much the CAUSE of the issues in our marriage so much as an indication of how different we truly are and how we hope to achieve happiness. My surgery was just one major example of how I strive to constantly improve myself and grow. Whereas my husband is content to stagnate. It's certainly not the only example of that though.

Yes, this makes a lot of sense.