He said he to wants to have kids down the road Everything was going so well...why oh why?

I never wanted to have any. Now 7.5 months post surgery I can't even think about putting any weight back on I'm happy with my journey so far.

this is something only you and him can really discuss. You need to know what you want and you need to discuss it. If you both want different things it will make a long term relationship very difficult. My soon to be ex husband one day told me he didn't want to have kids. He knew I did. If I had known he didn't want to have any I never would have married him in the first place

do you really not want kids or are you just afraid of gaining weight?

if it's just the weight, pregnancy is a temporary condition you know

Edited May 16, 201610 yr by Sophie74656

Having children is something that should be decided well before marriage. It's an absolute deal-breaker if you're not on the same page.

If he wants kids and you don't, just end it now and find someone who agrees with you. Trust me, there are a lot of us out there.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

Edited May 17, 201610 yr by Fredbear

And this is why human beings developed language.

I already said goodbye last Saturday. It was very calm and peaceful. No need to further invest anymore time, effort, energy or emotions. No one should rob him of his right to be a father. Nor should I have to reproduce to keep a partner happy. Sucks but kids are non negotiable. We had a beautiful run. I have no regrets.

Edited May 17, 201610 yr by dusky goddess

@@dusky goddess - I have two young friends who are happily married with two beautiful daughters and everyone was continuously asking are you going to have another one (to get a son)?

Her response, "just because we can....doesn't mean we should."

Fast forward 5 years>>>> they decided to have another child, a boy.

Point is - procreation is not for everyone and there is NO set amount you are suppose to "produce" look at the Duggars....