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You go girl! You deserve to be happy! I have dated in a very long time so good for you :)

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I can't handle all those first dates- but good for you for surviving the gauntlet!

I am very self protective of my world, and even though my sons are grown up, I don't let anyone into my life until I know them well they have met exactly one man I dated. The downside of that is you don't really know someone well if you don't share your world with them! I don't know the good answer for this paradox.

It sounds like this current man is a healthy choice - stable, family oriented and willing to give things an honest try.

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Slow and steady wins the race. There is a theory in relationship psychiatry that the depth of emotional bonding stalls when sex enters the picture, so there seems to be advantages to ignoring the third date rule and keep striving for deeper emotional connection.

But it is possible to get into a domestic rut with out the romantic passion. And not every guy has the sex drive that women assume is automatic. So that has to be built into the equation too.

Good luck with this. I wish you the same success I am having. We have been seeing each other for five months and it just keeps getting stronger.

@@bellabloom - I am going to hijack your thread a little...I had a great Valentine's Day with the girlfriend. We went to a religious conference in Dallas (which really gave us a chance to compare notes on our spiritual lives). Had some great gifts lined up, started with a highly personal book, roses delivered on Friday, and some nice Tiffany jewelry for Saturday and Sunday. I found some great restaurants in the area. It was about as perfect a weekend as I could have imagined. First time in nearly two decades I have really enjoyed Valentines. Romance/great food and drink/true intimacy/sharing of heart and soul. Can't get much better than that.

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Best wishes to you, Bella.

I can imagine that it can be a whirlwind rollercoaster ride.

Hoping the slower, fact finding, easy going pace yields best results.

From a guy's perspective.....I find it much more interesting and fun to get to know people....learning who they really are and how they respond to situations and what they value.....

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I dumped the "good on paper" guy. There just wasn't enough attraction. I'm really glad I took it slow and I'll be doing that from now on. As of right now- 0 men on my horizon.

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