So my husband has made two comments recently that got under my skin.

1st) I make dinner for the family. I'll eat the Protein and the veggie, but not the starch. Thats leaves lots of leftovers of rice etc, that no one ends up using after the initial meal. So it dies a slow moldy death in the fridge. So one night I skipped the starch, deciding not to add to the piles gone unused in the fridge. He comments that I've essentially said screw them since my surgery and stopped cooking complete meals. Grrr. Not true.

2nd) he made some comment about me 'trying to be the only skinny one in the house, (never mind my Kids are of normal weight) and I'm not trying to help anyone else'.

Though he was not angry and probably said both as tongue in check type comments, it irked me. I'm a firm believer that truth is often spoken in jest.

He's a grown up, he can cook and take control of his health... But I guess it's easier to shift reponsibility from himself.

Dont know whats up with your hubbys comments etc but...........Haven't tried this website much but Myfridgefood.com takes what ever you have in leftovers and gives you a recipe for it ! Less waste, less complaints ! Also, at my house I use a roll of cheap blue painters tape and a magic marker on the leftovers put in the tupperware every night, ( cooked chicken , 11-15-15 etc ), then store them in the right side of the fridge. I know the item and date, so, way less waste . Give it a try , or have hubby try it out for you !

My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 16 we have a 13 year old daughter and she is overweight. Really overweight more than me! I cook still for them seperatley than what I eat. I feed them healthy dinners and here and there will cook them a regular dinner but my boyfriend knows and he is a big guy when I went for surgery things were going to change for my daughter!! He is 100% committed to eating healthy for my daughters health. Of course there will be days that will be a treat for them parties,weddings,holidays ect.. But everyday cooking will be healthy. Any left overs my boyfriend will bring them to work the next day so there will never be any waste. For instance it's a start but I made empanadas today instead of frying I baked them with instead of Hamburg I used turkey Hamburg. They loved it so still have what you love just portion size and make it a little healthier!! Wish I had that mind set before surgery

dhrguru,

It’s a shame those comments happened. Try to remember they’re probably not personal – they’re probably coming out of frustration that you’re looking great and he’s not.

Gowalking gave some great advice: make it about the food, not about his or your weight. Ask him to help you figure out how to plan the food so none of it goes to waste. And if the subject comes up, make it clear you’re willing to help plan his meals as carefully as you plan yours so he can lose weight like you. It’s possible your husband feels like you’re so far ahead in weight loss and food knowledge that it’s hopeless and he’ll never “catch up” or maybe he feels embarrassed, so try to get through to him that you support him.

And if that doesn’t work, just ignore him and keep doing your thing.