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Primary dr. said what?

I am still seething mad over this. I am over 7 month post op. Went to my primary dr., labs are great, no more high cholesterol, no more high blood pressure, no more pre diabetic state. She says, "wow, you look great, you have lost almost 100 pounds!" I say, I have. Feel so much better, move so much better. No more hip and knee pain. She then says, "you know, every single patient I have that had this surgery has gained back every pound. You do know that you are going to gain it all back, right?" Oh my gosh!!!! It took every ounce of patience I have to be kind. I told her that I beg to differ with her experience, but I do think gaining it all back is the exception and I have to tell ya, I am absolutely NOT going to be one of her ugly statistics. She said, well, I really didn't want you to have the surgery, I don't agree with it. Mind you, she never said anything of the sort while in the pre op stages. More was said and I ended the appointment saying, maybe you should make an incognito trip to one of the seminars and educate yourself on how obesity changes your body, on a cellular level. Time for me to find a new doctor. Oh, and she wants to get more into the bariatric side of medicine but treat with behavior mod and meds. Seriously?????

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  • The Candidate
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    Ask her if she's also in the habit of taking candy from babies and popping balloons at birthday parties. Sheesh! Her bedside manner would be better served at a mortuary. I'm sending a virtual ki

  • ProudGrammy
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    @ UNBELIEVABLE I'm shocked that she would say something like that co-morbidites (msp) gone improved health I can't get over that those words came out of her big "FAT" mouth you'll find

  • MrsSugarbabe
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    She is an embarrassment to her profession, to say the least!!! Glad you're going to find a new PCP. It doesn't sound like she's got your best interest at heart. It was my PCP who recommended that I

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Apparently she has too many patients and wants to run off some of her business...good riddance!

ooooops :mellow:

double post :angry:

kathy

You do know that you are going to gain it all back, right?"

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UNBELIEVABLE :angry:

I'm shocked that she would say something like that :o

co-morbidites (msp) gone

improved health :)

I can't get over that those words came out of her big "FAT" :D mouth

you'll find stupidity all over the world :angry:

glad you realize you should find a new doc

anyone else will be an improvement :)

get a new and improved doc

92 lbs gone!!!

keep up the good job :)

(i know you will :) )

kathy

congrats

Ask her if she's also in the habit of taking candy from babies and popping balloons at birthday parties.

Sheesh!

Her bedside manner would be better served at a mortuary.

I'm sending a virtual kick her way, and trust me, it's a combat boot day!

She is an embarrassment to her profession, to say the least!!! Glad you're going to find a new PCP. It doesn't sound like she's got your best interest at heart. It was my PCP who recommended that I consider having WLS to begin with. Granted, he recommended the RNY, as did my surgeon, but I chose the sleeve instead. I saw my PCP on Friday and he's quite pleased with my progress as is my surgeon. Your PCP should be your biggest cheerleader! Losing 100 lbs. in 7 months is awesome!!! I'm sending a virtual "kick in the pants" her way also. She doesn't deserve you as a patient! Keep up the great work!! Congratulations on your excellent progress!!

I'd be looking for a new PCP also. Good riddance to her!

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Thank you everyone, for the kind words. I saw my surgeon's NP yesterday and she said all of my labs are great. Little low on a few things so I need to up some Vitamins and eat more Protein but all in all doing great. New primary doc is on the horizon and I have moved on from old doc's comments. I will not let anyone rain on my parade! I am happy she showed me that side of her. Happy to know that my medical well being will not be in her hands any more, yet a bit sad, I really liked her before her comments. I lost confidence in her as a medical professional after those uneducated statements she made.

The weight loss will slow down now and I am fine with that. At this point, I am pretty happy with my weight. I can't imagine how I could gain it all back. My diet and eating habits have done a complete turn around. I no longer crave junk food. Given a choice I would take cucumbers in balsamic vinegar over pie/cake.....so weird to me. I love shrimp and chicken & fish, have a bit of a hard time with red meat/burgers. I do have the occasional bite of my husband's chocolate or ice cream, but it is a bite or two and I am content. My hubby and I go on date nights once or twice a week. We go out to eat and I order an appetizer to be brought out when they bring his dinner. I don't eat the bread or crisps they bring to the table. Rarely I will have a french fry of his but really am just happy with my appetizer (they are more than enough of a meal for me.) I love our date nights and the conversation and intimacy it brings. We have been together 35 years (married 30) and in the "empty nest" part of our lives, getting ready to be grandparents. Life is definitely good!

Wishing you all a wonderful journey. This has been such a great experience for me. I have my life back and will be eternally grateful that I was able to have this surgery. I wish every obese person that wants to change their life could have the opportunity to do so. To wake up every day and not have to carry that weight any more is a feeling I never thought I would feel again. I am amazed and so very thankful.

Good on you. You're a woman of action. :) You're going to be a long-term success story.

Fuck your ex-PCP. Not only do her consultation style and her emotional intelligence suck, but she doesn't even know the WLS long-term stats. She's ignorant as a goose.

Apparently the one thing her patients who've regained their weight have in common is that she is their PCP. Can you imagine the influence someone like her would have on their patients' long-term prospects for health? Yuck!

Onward and upward! :)

Way to go keeping your composure like that! I'm not sure if I would have been able to be as kind. Definitely time to find a new GP!

What nerve of her saying this! Yes we know that those who don't change their habits might gain it back, but that doesn't mean every person will.

You should consider lodging a formal complaint to their office mgr. She really shouldn't be speaking like that.

Congrats to you on all fronts, though! :)

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