Has anyone lost their motivation and loss control on their journey? I had my RNY in March of 2012, and I had lost over 300 lbs, but have since had some trouble in my life and I've lost interest in my journey. Looking for help to regain control.

I'm not having my surgery until 07/29, but I wanted to reassure you that you are not alone. Life can be very trying and has a habit of throwing the most awful things at us at the most inopportune times.

Don't beat yourself up for being human, for having emotions, for not always being as strong as you wish you could be. It happens to all of us.

I hope your life situation has eased somewhat, or will soon. You can and will find your way back. The inner strength and fortitude that you initially tapped into just to make it through this difficult process is still there, waiting to guide you.

I hope it doesn't sound like I'm just throwing platitudes at you, because I honestly do believe you can do it again.

Take care please, and I'll be sending you good thoughts.

Hi Tami,

Congrats on your success!! Do you have support groups where you are? Nothing beats human interaction in my book. When I start feeling like I am going off track, I tell myself to live in the "now" and get back to basics. For me that means two things: Exercising for 30 minutes a day and keeping my portion sizes under control. (Keep using my food scale)

I tried kayaking this summer and I love it. So, maybe try a new activity?

I am still in the losing phase of WLS but my biggest fear is maintenance and being one of the folks that let myself get out of control.

I have imagined that if that were to happen, I would go back to basics. I know I have the willpower to never get back to where I was. I figure if I can go back to the beginning it should in fact help me get back on track.

Maybe start by tracking everything you put in your mouth using something like my fitness pal, it will hold you more accountable. Or try the 5 day pouch test (google it) to reset your system. And of course, if you are not already doing this start walking.

You can get this back on track. Anyone who has done so well as you have can do this. You had the willpower to lose a massive amount of weight. You have already started by reaching out.

You can do this, have faith in yourself! We do!

Thx everyone, it is very stressful where I live, but I am really trying to stay focused, just not doing a very good job at it.